Topic: I live in the UK, can I legally sue a friend for misgendering me and invalidating my gender?
Anonymous A started this discussion 6 years ago #93,941
I (22 years old) live in the UK and work as a prison warden. I feel like my job is attached to my gender identity, in a way that prison warden is my gender identity.
Yesterday (Friday) I was with a friend (21) outside of work and I was asked to fill in a medical form at a dentist's office and this form asked for my gender. I just put 'warden' as my gender and a comment at the side with 'there are more than two genders'. My friend asked if I was joking and I just looked at her with a blank face and said I wasn't. She said it was 'stupid' that people are now taking personality traits, interests and otherkin identities and calling them genders.
She was explaining why she was laughing to the receptionist and she referred to me as he/him when my preferred pronoun is warden.
I felt very embarrassed and upset, even after I told her that gender means whatever people feel like it means and if I feel that prison warden is a gender for me, then it is.
I read that misgendering a person counts as transphobia so I'm wondering if I should take legal action for this and how? I felt invalidated and embarrassed and I got the impression that she assumed I was crazy just because of what I identify as.
Yesterday (Friday) I was with a friend (21) outside of work and I was asked to fill in a medical form at a dentist's office and this form asked for my gender. I just put 'warden' as my gender and a comment at the side with 'there are more than two genders'. My friend asked if I was joking and I just looked at her with a blank face and said I wasn't. She said it was 'stupid' that people are now taking personality traits, interests and otherkin identities and calling them genders.
She was explaining why she was laughing to the receptionist and she referred to me as he/him when my preferred pronoun is warden.
I felt very embarrassed and upset, even after I told her that gender means whatever people feel like it means and if I feel that prison warden is a gender for me, then it is.
I read that misgendering a person counts as transphobia so I'm wondering if I should take legal action for this and how? I felt invalidated and embarrassed and I got the impression that she assumed I was crazy just because of what I identify as.
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 6 years ago, 3 hours later[^] [v] #1,062,711
what gender is thisAnonymous C joined in and replied with this 6 years ago, 34 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,062,713
@OP
Conservative humour
Conservative humour
Syntax joined in and replied with this 6 years ago, 25 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,062,715
> as he/him when my preferred pronoun is warden.
Talk about watering down the Word "Gender" to make it so fluid that someone is going to go to a bar and order the Gender Cocktail and what one ends up with in that glass could be Fusel Oil.
Talk about watering down the Word "Gender" to make it so fluid that someone is going to go to a bar and order the Gender Cocktail and what one ends up with in that glass could be Fusel Oil.
Sheila LaBoof joined in and replied with this 6 years ago, 1 hour later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,062,748
whip it out and say, "look bitch"