Anonymous A started this discussion 6 years ago#91,464
I'd like to invite my lady friend on a vacation to Paris next January. We've known each other for around five years, but I've always been in the friend zone. In your opinion, will she consider it romantic or creepy if I propose this trip over dinner?
I've been testing the waters for a few months now. I think I'm her closest male friend, but she had some bad relationships prior to that and she's understandably hesitant about guys in general.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 6 years ago, 6 minutes later, 20 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,040,299
@previous (A)
Has she outright said that she would never date you?
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL joined in and replied with this 6 years ago, 1 minute later, 21 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,040,301
More context than is possible to give is necessary to say whether or not it is creepy
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU joined in and replied with this 6 years ago, 14 minutes later, 35 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,040,302
I'd say this is probably a bad idea. Your feelings for her seem to be much stronger than hers are for you, and betting that she will reciprocate while on a trip overseas is risky. I think trips like this only make sense if both parties are on the same page. If you go there expecting/hoping to be able to get her to fall in love with you, but she's just going there to see the Lourve and Eiffel Tower or whatever, you're gonna have a pretty rough time. There's a real risk you have one too many cups of wine or something and the trip becomes incredibly awkward and messy. I'm always a fan of being upfront about this kind of stuff with your friends. Let her know how you feel, and if it makes the relationship awkward, so be it. It's going to be awkward if you have all these feelings bottled up inside that you are expecting her to pick up on also. It's so much less complicated than you telling her you love her while walking along the river Seine under the moonlight or whatever. Save that for someone who already feels the same way towards you.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 6 years ago, 21 minutes later, 57 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,040,312
@1,040,299 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
No, she's never said that.
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 6 years ago, 43 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,040,319
@1,040,301 (chill dog !!81dzJNNYL)
We've been good friends for a around five years, but never got together because she was usually in a relationship with someone else. In recent months we've been spending a lot of time together, going shopping, eating out in restaurants, visiting galleries & museums etc. We see each other most weekends, and I've noticed that she becomes more outgoing whenever we're together. It might be wishful thinking on my part, but I think she enjoys my company almost as much as I enjoy hers.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 6 years ago, 21 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,040,323