Topic: How do I stop my friend from cutting himself?
Anonymous A started this discussion 15 years ago #8,489
A couple of years ago he cut his arms up pretty bad when his girlfriend split up with him, carving the word "SORRY" into his arm, and later the word "CHEERS". He cut the letters pretty big and deep, it left a scar. Anyway he has started to do it again recently and I don't know what to tell him. Of course I want him to stop but nothing I say helps. Is there anything I can say to make him stop or think otherwise? This is obviously some psychological issue.
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later[^] [v] #148,668
chop off his arms
protip !!pMmAiEwOm joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 23 seconds later, 2 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #148,669
Nope, there’s nothing magic to say or do. If it gets serious/dangerous, you need to clearly “draw a line in the sand†and explain that you’ll call 911 on him. Seriously. Dangerous, self-destructive behavior like this is attention seeking and unfair plus emotionally draining to a person’s friends and family.
You could offer to help him find and/or attend counseling sessions, with him.
You could offer to help him find and/or attend counseling sessions, with him.
Nickalollyoff !Aw0s40dyqw joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 32 minutes later, 35 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #148,706
PUNCH HIM IN DEM JIVE TITTIES
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 17 minutes later, 52 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #148,720
@148,668 (B)
> chop off his arms
The only solution. You could call the stops, but they won't make him stop.
> chop off his arms
The only solution. You could call the stops, but they won't make him stop.
Ryan !PArADOx9ZU joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 17 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #148,734
@148,669 (protip !!pMmAiEwOm)
Pretty much what he said. I don't have any other valid contribution to make that hasn't been said already.
Pretty much what he said. I don't have any other valid contribution to make that hasn't been said already.
stickybuns !bENfolDsOU joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,812
Honestly, you have to let him know you're there for him and you want him to get better. It's hard as fuck to stop once you start. Maybe make some sort of pact with him? I've had some success with those before. You just need to built up a lot of trust and try to get him to stop from that point...
If you can get him to admit he has a problem, then it will be easier. Then he might even be open to therapy.
The important thing is to not be confrontational or angry towards him over it. That won't help at all. You need to be there for him as a friend.
If you can get him to admit he has a problem, then it will be easier. Then he might even be open to therapy.
The important thing is to not be confrontational or angry towards him over it. That won't help at all. You need to be there for him as a friend.
cccuuunnttt !nIGga.SL0w joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 22 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,829
@previous (stickybuns !bENfolDsOU)
Get to your 14th birthday first, then maybe people will listen to you.
Get to your 14th birthday first, then maybe people will listen to you.
stickybuns !bENfolDsOU replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,830
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 51 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,832
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 17 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,838
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cccuuunnttt !nIGga.SL0w replied with this 15 years ago, 49 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,841
@previous (A)
I hope I'm not violating anyone's anonymity in pointing out that OP is a giant fucking homo.
I hope I'm not violating anyone's anonymity in pointing out that OP is a giant fucking homo.
stickybuns !bENfolDsOU replied with this 15 years ago, 6 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,842
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 29 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,869
Take him on a trip to the middle east and tell him the marketplace allows people of other cultures to take all the bread they want.
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hamfist !!mtq555+/1 joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 23 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,883
You don't
!JuMPb0dbaE joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,951
Sexually dominate him. Many animals use sexual domination to stop males from committing certain acts, such as killing their young.
If it can stop a hyena from eating your baby, it can stop some dude from cutting himself. If you're a chick, use a strap-on or your arm.
If it can stop a hyena from eating your baby, it can stop some dude from cutting himself. If you're a chick, use a strap-on or your arm.
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Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 12 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #148,958
It's obviously just his way of dealing with trauma or any emotional pain. Like protip said, there are no magic words that will stop him cutting himself, if that's what he wants to do he will do it. All you can do is try talking with him, if that doesn't work try persuading him to talk to his parents/the school counsellor/a psychologist/whoever/ about it, or maybe do so yourself.
There's not really any other advice anyone here can give. Good luck, I guess.
There's not really any other advice anyone here can give. Good luck, I guess.
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stickybuns !bENfolDsOU replied with this 15 years ago, 6 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,315
@OP
I don't recommend coming here for advice on the matter. People here are cocks, in all honesty. Google that shit.
The answer I gave earlier was given in earnest, though
I don't recommend coming here for advice on the matter. People here are cocks, in all honesty. Google that shit.
The answer I gave earlier was given in earnest, though
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 5 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,317
@previous (stickybuns !bENfolDsOU)
> I don't recommend coming here for advice on the matter. People here are cocks, in all honesty.
> People here are cocks
> cocks
Lies
> I don't recommend coming here for advice on the matter. People here are cocks, in all honesty.
> People here are cocks
> cocks
Lies
green joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 36 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,326
Replace cutting with alcohol ;)
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 20 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,328
Anonymous S joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 20 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,332
Spray his arms with bleach.
green replied with this 15 years ago, 14 minutes later, 20 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,341
@149,328 (Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ)
;) a bottle of rum and coke cures what ales you! you!
;) a bottle of rum and coke cures what ales you! you!
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sim !!VASLIRK6A joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,368
Cutting like this is attention whoring.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 22 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,423
If he kills himself I will come back here and lay it on the conscious of everyone that has replied to this thread with trolling/nonsense/irreverent trivia.
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protip !!pMmAiEwOm replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 23 hours after the original post[^] [v] #149,464
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Anonymous B replied with this 15 years ago, 2 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #149,622
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