Anonymous A started this discussion 7 years ago#83,525
It doesn't take much niceness, maybe just a friendly smile and a hello. I'll say hello back and smile as well but the overall feeling is where will this lead? Are we going to get friendlier from here on out? No! Oh my gawd. I'll have to use my mind if it gets that far and then what? Is that guy friends with me or my mind? I'll be stuck pretending to be someone I'm not and even though not so much on mc, I'm profoundly quiet and reserved.
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 14 minutes later, 18 minutes after the original post[^][v]#961,158
> It doesn't take much niceness, maybe just a friendly smile and a hello. I'll say hello back and smile as well but the overall feeling is where will this lead? Are we going to get friendlier from here on out? No! Oh my gawd. I'll have to use my mind if it gets that far and then what? Is that guy friends with me or my mind? I'll be stuck pretending to be someone I'm not and even though not so much on mc, I'm profoundly quiet and reserved.
#AutisticPeopleProblems
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 2 minutes later, 20 minutes after the original post[^][v]#961,159
Calling me autistic is offensive to the autistic community.
Anonymous D replied with this 7 years ago, 7 minutes later, 28 minutes after the original post[^][v]#961,160
@previous (A)
The autistic community is made up of a wide variety of people with varying sensibilities. You may express your personal displeasure with my remarks, but I don't think you should feel like you are privileged enough to be offended for the entirety of the autistic community. The autistic community does not need or rely on you to decide what is offensive. Please stop using them as your ventriloquist puppet to express your personal feelings.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 3 minutes later, 31 minutes after the original post[^][v]#961,161
That's no way to talk to a person you think is autistic!
Anonymous D replied with this 7 years ago, 5 minutes later, 37 minutes after the original post[^][v]#961,163
@previous (A)
Thank you for clearly signaling your feelings with regards to my input. Have you allowed for the possibility that I may be autistic and have trouble discerning the boundaries of appropriate social criticism? I think you should consider that too before you take any offense.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 9 minutes later, 46 minutes after the original post[^][v]#961,166
Well thank you too for the return to civility, which your clarification produced. I'll clarify myself, when I said it was offensive to the autistic community, I really meant that it would feel like a inappropriate excuse for my messed up ways.
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Anonymous D replied with this 7 years ago, 25 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#961,172
@previous (A)
I see. Thank for expanding upon the intent of your remarks. I responded with a hashtag as a way of signaling that I found your worries to be familiar. I judged that this would be a way of sympathizing with your plight and signaling solidarity. I may have misjudged things. Please excuse any hasty conclusions I may have jumped to in my excitement.
I did not mean to imply that you might be autistic if that would offend you. I see now how your response was intended to emphasize personal choice and responsibility rather than risk further stigmatizing autism by playing upon stereotypical perceptions of those affected. I think I misjudged the possible social subtext of my own remarks and should probably make clear again that I was only intending to express support to someone I thought was experiencing a social awkwardness similar to my own. Thank you for your understanding.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 36 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#961,175
There was no harm done but even so, i apologize for the possible role that i played in this misunderstanding. I would also like to add that you aren't the first to suspect that I have autism. Intentions of support are supportive on their own and so i am pleased with this conversation. Thanks.