Topic: Do you consider it odd if a wife doesn't cook for her husband?
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 started this discussion 7 years ago #83,301
My sister-in-law cooks and knows how to cook well, but I don't think she cooks for her husband, my brother. I'm not sure why and that's none of my business, but my mother finds it odd since they want to move out soon meaning that she'll likely have to take up the cooking duties or else my brother will be sticking to microwavable meals and easy to cook meals in the oven. Not sure if this is because she cooks mostly Chinese dishes and he is a picky eater, but this is something that has boggled my mind a bit. Right now, my mother cooks for him, her, and myself; my sister-in-law tends to cook for herself. Is this strange or is this just how marriage goes nowadays?
MR STEVEN MNUCHIN joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 11 minutes later[^] [v] #959,083
No
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 2 minutes later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #959,084
> because she cooks mostly Chinese dishes
Please ask her to post some of her favorite recipes. We need the real deal and not that other nonsense Indy posts.
> Right now, my mother cooks for him, her, and myself; my sister-in-law tends to cook for herself.
Have you tried sister in laws food?
Please ask her to post some of her favorite recipes. We need the real deal and not that other nonsense Indy posts.
> Right now, my mother cooks for him, her, and myself; my sister-in-law tends to cook for herself.
Have you tried sister in laws food?
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 10 minutes later, 24 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #959,091
If you can't cook for yourself you are a manchild.
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 55 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #959,101
@959,084 (C)
I've tried some of them, yes, but one of the dishes was store bought dumplings that came from a local Asian market.
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
I don't think me being a manchild is news to anyone here.
I've tried some of them, yes, but one of the dishes was store bought dumplings that came from a local Asian market.
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
I don't think me being a manchild is news to anyone here.
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 7 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #959,102
@previous (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
Sorry I didn't mean to insult you! I just think the stereotype of the woman cooking while the man drinks whiskey and watches the sportsball game is kind of played out and grown men shouldn't expect the women in their life to do all the housechores.
Sorry I didn't mean to insult you! I just think the stereotype of the woman cooking while the man drinks whiskey and watches the sportsball game is kind of played out and grown men shouldn't expect the women in their life to do all the housechores.
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Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 4 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #959,104
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
I think my brother shares this view too and I tried to tell my mother that he might not want her to do the cooking, but she only says, "Well, he needs to get used to it, since somebody will have to do the cooking." I think she mostly wants her to cook for him just so it's a relief on her knowing that she doesn't have to even though technically she doesn't since my brother always tells her that they would "fend for themselves." Whenever she and I go out to eat she always feels obligated to bring them home something.
I acknowledge that I am a child so where's the insult? lol
I think my brother shares this view too and I tried to tell my mother that he might not want her to do the cooking, but she only says, "Well, he needs to get used to it, since somebody will have to do the cooking." I think she mostly wants her to cook for him just so it's a relief on her knowing that she doesn't have to even though technically she doesn't since my brother always tells her that they would "fend for themselves." Whenever she and I go out to eat she always feels obligated to bring them home something.
I acknowledge that I am a child so where's the insult? lol
Anonymous C replied with this 7 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #959,105
@959,101 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
I think you need to ask her to cook a multi course Chinese meal. Even just three. Encourage her.
You could even offer to slice and dice the ingredients for her.
> I don't think me being a manchild is news to anyone here.
Which is why all of us are aghast that you think you could make a good parent.
I think you need to ask her to cook a multi course Chinese meal. Even just three. Encourage her.
You could even offer to slice and dice the ingredients for her.
> I don't think me being a manchild is news to anyone here.
Which is why all of us are aghast that you think you could make a good parent.
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #959,109
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 20 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #959,111
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 18 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #959,126
@959,105 (C)
> Which is why all of us are aghast that you think you could make a good parent.
What makes you think I am doing this because I'm having kids right away? It might be years before I ever have a kid.
Is no one able to look long term anymore? How come it seems like a lot of people only focus on the short term?
Raising a kid in my current state of mind is quite obviously the dumbest thing to do.
I have a lot to work on myself to do before I could ever raise a kid.
> Which is why all of us are aghast that you think you could make a good parent.
What makes you think I am doing this because I'm having kids right away? It might be years before I ever have a kid.
Is no one able to look long term anymore? How come it seems like a lot of people only focus on the short term?
Raising a kid in my current state of mind is quite obviously the dumbest thing to do.
I have a lot to work on myself to do before I could ever raise a kid.
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 10 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,134
@previous (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
Based on your current rate of development. Maybe by the time you reach age 65 or in that neighborhood, you could consider parenthood.
Based on your current rate of development. Maybe by the time you reach age 65 or in that neighborhood, you could consider parenthood.
Meta !Sober//iZs joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 6 hours later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,303
If she knows how to cook (and he doesn't) it's kind of a dick move tbqh.
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 5 hours later, 14 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,349
She'd probably be too tempted to poison him or you all
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 7 minutes later, 14 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,351
what
and i say that, completely baffled, even tho im absolutely terrible at feeding myself and semi consistently rely on others to do it for me
so you know it's fucked
and i say that, completely baffled, even tho im absolutely terrible at feeding myself and semi consistently rely on others to do it for me
so you know it's fucked
MR STEVEN MNUCHIN replied with this 7 years ago, 1 hour later, 16 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,356
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 1 hour later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,358
@959,303 (Meta !Sober//iZs)
@previous (MR STEVEN MNUCHIN)
My brother is 40 and he knows how to pop things into the stove, cook eggs, and such. His wife (age: 29) really cooks and it’s like watching a chef. I would imagine she knows how to cook because of how she was raised since China seems really traditional in terms of gender roles.
@previous (MR STEVEN MNUCHIN)
My brother is 40 and he knows how to pop things into the stove, cook eggs, and such. His wife (age: 29) really cooks and it’s like watching a chef. I would imagine she knows how to cook because of how she was raised since China seems really traditional in terms of gender roles.
tteh !MemesToDNA joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 1 hour later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,372
It unsettles me when adults rely on others to cook for them, clean their clothes, and so on. These are basic skills. I don't understand how people don't pick them up via sheer osmosis alone.
Meta !Sober//iZs replied with this 7 years ago, 37 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,406
@959,358 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)@959,356 (MR STEVEN MNUCHIN)
I bet Matt's wife doesn't cook for him either.
Anonymous I replied with this 7 years ago, 29 minutes later, 20 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,443
Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 2 hours later, 22 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,478
@959,358 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
i bet your brother had a hard time eating anything that wasn't white people food and he got into it with his wife like "i ain't some damn gook woman" so she stopped cooking for him
i bet your brother had a hard time eating anything that wasn't white people food and he got into it with his wife like "i ain't some damn gook woman" so she stopped cooking for him
Anonymous L double-posted this 7 years ago, 59 seconds later, 22 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,479
Anonymous L triple-posted this 7 years ago, 15 seconds later, 22 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,480
fuckin gen x ers
Anonymous Φ replied with this 7 years ago, 46 minutes later, 23 hours after the original post[^] [v] #959,498
@959,358 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
> I would imagine she knows how to cook because of how she was raised since China seems really traditional in terms of gender roles.
Are you telling us she might be the future expert here on Chinese cooking as done by a real Chinese person. That might be real cool.
> I would imagine she knows how to cook because of how she was raised since China seems really traditional in terms of gender roles.
Are you telling us she might be the future expert here on Chinese cooking as done by a real Chinese person. That might be real cool.
Anonymous E replied with this 7 years ago, 3 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #959,551
@959,372 (tteh !MemesToDNA)
I find it unsettling that OPs brother bought a Chinese wife and his mother makes her cook her own food but cooks for everyone else.
I find it unsettling that OPs brother bought a Chinese wife and his mother makes her cook her own food but cooks for everyone else.
Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 34 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #959,556
I will take why is McDonalds so popular...for 1000...Alex..
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 7 years ago, 4 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #959,602
Anonymous N joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 13 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #959,605
Meta !Sober//iZs replied with this 7 years ago, 19 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,824
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 13 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,827
@959,551 (E)
She's not a mail order bride. They met on Tinder and if I recall correctly, they had their first date a few hours and/or days after the fact. She moved in around the same time too.
@959,478 (L)
I would say this is true, but he tends to hate "white people food" which is why he doesn't want to visit Cracker Barrel. Yet at the same time, he is too afraid to eat the food that she makes.
She's not a mail order bride. They met on Tinder and if I recall correctly, they had their first date a few hours and/or days after the fact. She moved in around the same time too.
@959,478 (L)
I would say this is true, but he tends to hate "white people food" which is why he doesn't want to visit Cracker Barrel. Yet at the same time, he is too afraid to eat the food that she makes.
Anonymous G replied with this 7 years ago, 4 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,830
@previous (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
> Yet at the same time, he is too afraid to eat the food that she makes.
Sad isn't it. Weird actually. You have tried her food so what do you think?
> Yet at the same time, he is too afraid to eat the food that she makes.
Sad isn't it. Weird actually. You have tried her food so what do you think?
Anonymous E replied with this 7 years ago, 39 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,835
@959,827 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
They met on "tinder" sure, and they hit it off to such a degree that he can't even eat her food
They met on "tinder" sure, and they hit it off to such a degree that he can't even eat her food
Anonymous O joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 13 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,836
It's more weird that he never evolved past the cooking skills of a 12 year old. Thanks.
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 23 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,841
@previous (O)
12-years-olds can use the stove to pop in microwavable taquitos and mini tacos?
@959,830 (G)
I don't think I ever tried her meals, but she does share with me, sometimes, different kinds of snack foods that she ate in China.
12-years-olds can use the stove to pop in microwavable taquitos and mini tacos?
@959,830 (G)
I don't think I ever tried her meals, but she does share with me, sometimes, different kinds of snack foods that she ate in China.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 7 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,842
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC double-posted this 7 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,845
@959,841 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
You basically said "What 12 year old can make their own Hot Pockets? Checkmate atheists" lololol
You basically said "What 12 year old can make their own Hot Pockets? Checkmate atheists" lololol
Anonymous P joined in and replied with this 7 years ago, 5 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,847
@959,841 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
I don't think I would put microwavable taquitos and mini tacos on a stove top, but I was certainly doing basic cooking on a stove top by age 12 and microwaving things much earlier than that.
I don't think I would put microwavable taquitos and mini tacos on a stove top, but I was certainly doing basic cooking on a stove top by age 12 and microwaving things much earlier than that.
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 19 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,850
@previous (P)
I should have said oven, he pops in microwavable taquitos and mini tacos into the oven.
I'm retarded, I apologize.
I should have said oven, he pops in microwavable taquitos and mini tacos into the oven.
I'm retarded, I apologize.
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 7 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,851
Catherine sometimes i want to stage an intervention in your life and take you away and teach you basic life things that you aren't picking up at home.
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 2 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,852
Anonymous P replied with this 7 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,853
@959,850 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
You could fry frozen taquitos in a pan of oil on the stove top. It could work. I just don't think I would do it.
You could fry frozen taquitos in a pan of oil on the stove top. It could work. I just don't think I would do it.
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 7 years ago, 11 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,854
@959,852 (Catherine !ttGirlsPl2)
Sadly no! I cannot sponsor you. You're gonna have to do this on your own.
Sadly no! I cannot sponsor you. You're gonna have to do this on your own.
Catherine !ttGirlsPl2 (OP) replied with this 7 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,855
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
I think there are classes nowadays that teach basic life skills anyway.
I think there are classes nowadays that teach basic life skills anyway.
Anonymous O replied with this 7 years ago, 46 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,857
Anonymous I replied with this 7 years ago, 25 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,858
Syntax replied with this 7 years ago, 39 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #959,861
@959,854 (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
He is a US Citizen
> I don't think I ever tried her meals, but she does share with me, sometimes, different kinds of snack foods that she ate in China.
I just cannot understand how you are in proximity to real Chinese food where local ''Safe ingredients" are used, and you have have not asked to try a full entree. Bobbles my mind.
He is a US Citizen
> I don't think I ever tried her meals, but she does share with me, sometimes, different kinds of snack foods that she ate in China.
I just cannot understand how you are in proximity to real Chinese food where local ''Safe ingredients" are used, and you have have not asked to try a full entree. Bobbles my mind.