Topic: What do I say to girls in messages on dating sites?
Anonymous A started this discussion 15 years ago #7,737
I usually start off with 'hows u?'. Then they ask how I am. Wtf do I say? How do I carry on the conversation and not seem boring? Help guys please!
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 5 minutes later[^] [v] #134,166
"Hey you. I just saw your profile and oh my! How are you doing? :)"
"I'm pretty good, ho about you?"
"Good as well! So what kind of things do you like to do in your spare time?"
"*Bladibla*"
"Oh, cool. *Bladibla*"
"I'm pretty good, ho about you?"
"Good as well! So what kind of things do you like to do in your spare time?"
"*Bladibla*"
"Oh, cool. *Bladibla*"
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 48 seconds later, 6 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #134,167
Just be yourself. Unless you really are just boring, but then you have a deeper problem.
I read that up to 40% of the people on dating sites are married or in a committed relationship and are just looking for a fling. Some of them just join because they love the attention. If that's what you're looking for, fine, but just keep in mind that most of the people on dating sites are incredibly fake, so don't take any of it seriously and just try to have fun, otherwise you might end up severely disappointed.
I read that up to 40% of the people on dating sites are married or in a committed relationship and are just looking for a fling. Some of them just join because they love the attention. If that's what you're looking for, fine, but just keep in mind that most of the people on dating sites are incredibly fake, so don't take any of it seriously and just try to have fun, otherwise you might end up severely disappointed.
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 34 seconds later, 6 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #134,168
"Molest an ice cube you rectangular cunt".
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 11 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #134,169
Just say something like "You seemed really interesting and I wanted to meet you." From there, just say anything to keep her talking. If you're boring and don't have much to say about yourself, that's fine because most people focus on themselves too much anyway and never let the other person talk. Ask her what she does, what she's like to do, where she went to school and what she studied, what she'd like to do if money wasn't an issue, does she have any pets, what's her favorite type of food/restaurant, what kind of music she listens to, and most of all PAY ATTENTION to what she's saying so that you can keep the conversation going from there instead of just throwing out blind questions. You see what I'm saying? Really think about what she's saying. You should always be trying to think of a response. Especially something witty.
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 15 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #134,170
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #134,187
@134,169 (Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4)
> what she's like to do
Sorry, I meant "what she likes to do" not "what she's like to do", but if you wanna ask that first one, go ahead and go for it.
> what she's like to do
Sorry, I meant "what she likes to do" not "what she's like to do", but if you wanna ask that first one, go ahead and go for it.
protip !!pMmAiEwOm joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 2 hours later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,227
Send dick pics.
Say nothing else, other than "you liek, babby?"
Say nothing else, other than "you liek, babby?"
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 replied with this 15 years ago, 10 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,232
@previous (protip !!pMmAiEwOm)
I lol'ed. Probably not a bad idea if you just want to mess with people.
I lol'ed. Probably not a bad idea if you just want to mess with people.
Syntax joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 34 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,262
@OP
> I usually start off with 'hows u?'. Then they ask how I am. Wtf do I say? How do I carry on the conversation and not seem boring? Help guys please!
Never used a dating site, and would/could only assume one wood use the same language as one wood use in R/L Meeting. Exactly.
> I usually start off with 'hows u?'. Then they ask how I am. Wtf do I say? How do I carry on the conversation and not seem boring? Help guys please!
Never used a dating site, and would/could only assume one wood use the same language as one wood use in R/L Meeting. Exactly.
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,291
@134,227 (protip !!pMmAiEwOm)
> Send dick pics.
>
> Say nothing else, other than "do you liek, bass?"
> Send dick pics.
>
> Say nothing else, other than "do you liek, bass?"
Syntax replied with this 15 years ago, 15 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,306
@previous (Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ)
Leo I once worked with a VP of Sales of a company I was VP of Engineering at.
Off on a trip to Mimi for some convention where we exhibited a product for SPIES Oh should say first he as just married and I met his wife b4 he did. Super cute super sweet gal.
But Les lets just call him Les, he could not keep his zipper on closed when around gals.
I was married at tyme as well and years later in a different work enviro - He still in Sales management and me Engineering for Spy stuff Gagets Gizmos.
He wood reel in the gals real fast for evening fun. And he used a line after say the 2nd hour - Which was
Wanna Fuck? and the fact is he got hits with that line. I wood apologize for him to the gals and many said they did not mind and were even flattered.
Florida was far more party hungry and in party mood then most places we did business in. Texas far far far more reserved.
Leo I once worked with a VP of Sales of a company I was VP of Engineering at.
Off on a trip to Mimi for some convention where we exhibited a product for SPIES Oh should say first he as just married and I met his wife b4 he did. Super cute super sweet gal.
But Les lets just call him Les, he could not keep his zipper on closed when around gals.
I was married at tyme as well and years later in a different work enviro - He still in Sales management and me Engineering for Spy stuff Gagets Gizmos.
He wood reel in the gals real fast for evening fun. And he used a line after say the 2nd hour - Which was
Wanna Fuck? and the fact is he got hits with that line. I wood apologize for him to the gals and many said they did not mind and were even flattered.
Florida was far more party hungry and in party mood then most places we did business in. Texas far far far more reserved.
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 12 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,316
@previous (Syntax)
There is always one who cannot stop from going crazy around the ladies. Some places (like Miami) brings that out in people. Alcohol helps too.
There is always one who cannot stop from going crazy around the ladies. Some places (like Miami) brings that out in people. Alcohol helps too.
Syntax replied with this 15 years ago, 5 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,321
@previous (Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ)
Yea see my comment over at TC re last nights wine event. Wine Women and Song and lots of kisses lots lol
Bit or work on this amazing Sunny sweet beach day and great plans for evening and now I get to spend just one more hour in my Ocean a Blue and then my 10 mile run day 231 without one days break - That is two years and today being the One day - Two with no breaks was difficult to maintain so NOT going to try for 3
Out of here!!!
Yea see my comment over at TC re last nights wine event. Wine Women and Song and lots of kisses lots lol
Bit or work on this amazing Sunny sweet beach day and great plans for evening and now I get to spend just one more hour in my Ocean a Blue and then my 10 mile run day 231 without one days break - That is two years and today being the One day - Two with no breaks was difficult to maintain so NOT going to try for 3
Out of here!!!
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,323
cccuuunnttt !nIGga.SL0w joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 43 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,335
The girlfriend is awesome, constantly horny, and I'm getting laid every night. The sex is incredible. She does everything, does every position, and is always looking for new things to do. She gives me a fucking workout. I'm actually losing weight and building muscle just from the 2-3 hours of fucking I've been doing every night. The only downside is, I'm sore all over. It really is like spending a few hours at the gym every day. I'm not complaining or anything. I mean, why go to the gym when you can get in shape just from having sex, right? It's not like it's one position over and over again and I'm getting fatigued. We do all sorts of stuff and really get a workout. Now my quadriceps are burning, my ribs and abs hurt, etc. I've been stretching all day to try and feel better. I guess I'm just gonna have to stretch before going over to her place from now on. Gotta stretch beforehand, just like any other workout I guess.
But hey, I'm really not complaining. How fucking awesome is it that I have to stretch before sex because it's wearing me out so much? I consider myself lucky.
But hey, I'm really not complaining. How fucking awesome is it that I have to stretch before sex because it's wearing me out so much? I consider myself lucky.
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,336
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 10 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,344
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 replied with this 15 years ago, 3 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,347
Handel !khEOdtKF56 joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 31 minutes later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,383
@134,169 (Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4)
No, no, no, have you even seen a real before?
Take this from someone who has used every dating site on the internet: If you really want to impress open with a joke, not some generic bullshit pick up or "Hi ow u? x".
Women always reply to a joke, even if you look like the bad side of a dead mouldy dog. If you don't have a good sense of humour or a lack basic social skills, then don't bothered logging in, you won't get anything "decent".
No, no, no, have you even seen a real before?
Take this from someone who has used every dating site on the internet: If you really want to impress open with a joke, not some generic bullshit pick up or "Hi ow u? x".
Women always reply to a joke, even if you look like the bad side of a dead mouldy dog. If you don't have a good sense of humour or a lack basic social skills, then don't bothered logging in, you won't get anything "decent".
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 replied with this 15 years ago, 10 minutes later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,389
@previous (Handel !khEOdtKF56)
Yes, this too. It's great if you can make them laugh and keep them laughing.
Though I don't see why that was in response to me. It doesn't contradict what I said, and I certainly didn't say use generic pickups.
Yes, this too. It's great if you can make them laugh and keep them laughing.
Though I don't see why that was in response to me. It doesn't contradict what I said, and I certainly didn't say use generic pickups.
Handel !khEOdtKF56 replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,390
> "You seemed really interesting and I wanted to meet you."
"No thanks, bye creep!"
> If you're boring and don't have much to say about yourself, that's fine because most people focus on themselves too much anyway and never let the other person talk.
Source?
> where she went to school
NO!
> what she'd like to do if money wasn't an issue, does she have any pets, what's her favorite type of food/restaurant, what kind of music she listens to,
wrong, wrong, wrong, no!
> You see what I'm saying? Really think about what she's saying.
Do you know what you are saying? Don't bother, she's never going to tell you something interesting.
"No thanks, bye creep!"
> If you're boring and don't have much to say about yourself, that's fine because most people focus on themselves too much anyway and never let the other person talk.
Source?
> where she went to school
NO!
> what she'd like to do if money wasn't an issue, does she have any pets, what's her favorite type of food/restaurant, what kind of music she listens to,
wrong, wrong, wrong, no!
> You see what I'm saying? Really think about what she's saying.
Do you know what you are saying? Don't bother, she's never going to tell you something interesting.
Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 9 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,428
@previous (Handel !khEOdtKF56)
> Do you know what you are saying? Don't bother, she's never going to tell you something interesting.
Yeah, I agree. I've actually used online dating sites before, and all the messages end up being generic, uninteresting bullshit, like "where'd you go to school?" and "what do you like to do in your spare time?". Girls usually get sick of answering those annoying questions, since they've had to reply to them 1000 other times.
Also, don't compliment her too much--this might seem like an obvious faux-pas, but too many guys on online dating sites think this is the protocol or something. It's gonna make you look like a desperate loser; don't do it.
So yeah, if you can think of something that'll get her attention, that's a good way to go. If you think up something clever and witty, you'll have a better chance.
> Do you know what you are saying? Don't bother, she's never going to tell you something interesting.
Yeah, I agree. I've actually used online dating sites before, and all the messages end up being generic, uninteresting bullshit, like "where'd you go to school?" and "what do you like to do in your spare time?". Girls usually get sick of answering those annoying questions, since they've had to reply to them 1000 other times.
Also, don't compliment her too much--this might seem like an obvious faux-pas, but too many guys on online dating sites think this is the protocol or something. It's gonna make you look like a desperate loser; don't do it.
So yeah, if you can think of something that'll get her attention, that's a good way to go. If you think up something clever and witty, you'll have a better chance.
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 replied with this 15 years ago, 16 minutes later, 9 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,445
@previous (L)
OK, I kind of see what you're saying now where they get sick of answering the same generic questions over and over, but the point I was making is that people almost always want to talk about themselves, so if you can't think of anything to say, just keep talking and asking questions to keep the conversation going. You won't get generic bullshit responses if you don't ask generic bullshit questions and give bullshit responses back.
I'll give you an example. Back on memorial day a girl I was talking to was talking about all the travelling she was doing. So I said "That's sounds like fun. What do you do that allows you to travel so much?" She was actually very surprised that I asked that question and was into me for the rest of the night. Most people don't think to ask a question like that because they're just waiting for their turn to speak instead of actually listening to the other person. If you seem interested, they're going to be interested back, and it's an easy way to keep the conversation going.
OK, I kind of see what you're saying now where they get sick of answering the same generic questions over and over, but the point I was making is that people almost always want to talk about themselves, so if you can't think of anything to say, just keep talking and asking questions to keep the conversation going. You won't get generic bullshit responses if you don't ask generic bullshit questions and give bullshit responses back.
I'll give you an example. Back on memorial day a girl I was talking to was talking about all the travelling she was doing. So I said "That's sounds like fun. What do you do that allows you to travel so much?" She was actually very surprised that I asked that question and was into me for the rest of the night. Most people don't think to ask a question like that because they're just waiting for their turn to speak instead of actually listening to the other person. If you seem interested, they're going to be interested back, and it's an easy way to keep the conversation going.
Anonymous L replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 9 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,450
@previous (Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4)
> the point I was making is that people almost always want to talk about themselves, so if you can't think of anything to say, just keep talking and asking questions to keep the conversation going.
Oh, okay. Then yeah, you're right.
> the point I was making is that people almost always want to talk about themselves, so if you can't think of anything to say, just keep talking and asking questions to keep the conversation going.
Oh, okay. Then yeah, you're right.
Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 3 hours later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #134,683
WUNT WUMAN SEX NOW. MAN SEKS NO GUD NO MOR.