Topic: M4F looking for an experience
Anonymous A started this discussion 8 years ago #73,965
As a person born with cerebral palsy and being confined to a chair since birth I spent most of my life trying to fit in and be as “normal” as possible. As an adult this has become less and less important to me. I spend my time now being who I am, doing what makes me happy. The best thing I ever did was stop worrying about what others thought and worried about experiencing life and all it has to offer despite my disability. In my thirties now and happily married my wife and I decided to explore the swingers lifestyle, while not fully jumping into it, we have just tested the waters and started to communicate a lot more about things we’d like to experience and desires we have. I have always had something on my bucket list for a long time, but never really could say why. I’ve always wanted to experience sex with someone else in a wheelchair. I can’t really give a specific reason why, maybe a better comfort level. Someone who lives and fully understands what it’s like to be in the chair whether it be in everyday life or in a sexual experience. My wife and I have been together a long time and she certainly knows me better than anyone, but on some level she will never fully grasp my situation. What would the experience be like with someone who could understand me on that level? If you could understand someone on that level would it make it easy to adjust to each others physical limitations? Or even with that understanding would two different sets of physical limitations be difficult? Now you would think the hard part about going out and getting this experience would be getting my wife on board, ironically that was the easy part, after some open and honest communication I set out to check this off my bucket list. I quickly found that using conventional methods to meet other couples or people in the “lifestyle” do not offer a disability section, after an exhausting search I found that there was almost no disabled population on these sites, except for about half a dozen males trying extremely hard to find anyone to satisfy there sexual needs. Kind of feels like we’re hiding in the shadows, but why? This is 2018 we really need to just take the risk and put ourselves out there. We have the same desires and needs as anyone else, just because we are differently-abled does not mean we should be excluded. We need to stop being afraid to put ourselves out there. We have to understand we are always going to have to explain ourselves to people and we will always be fighting the social stigma’s, but we shouldn’t let that stop us. I’m very interested to hear the perspective of other people, especially a female perspective. Will we share the same concerns and questions? Will the type/severity of disability make a difference? I’ll just have to continue on this journey in the hopes that someday I find the answers I’m looking for.
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