Topic: I [17/F] think my dad [40/M] holds resentment towards me because I'm not his biological child.
Anonymous A started this discussion 8 years ago#73,623
My mom [40/F] had an affair during her first year of marriage with my dad, and that resulted in my birth. I have never met my biological dad, and I never want to. My real dad is the one who raised me since birth.
It feels like my dad holds resentment towards me though. I don't look anything like him. I have blonde hair, and blue eyes, while my dad is the opposite with his brown eyes, and black hair. My mom and I are very close with each other. She's like a friend to me, she takes me to the mall, we go to the spa sometimes, and she drives me everywhere (soccer practice, friend's houses, etc).
It makes me sad to know that my friend's dads take them out to go fishing, or hunting, etc. My dad doesn't do any of that. I never spend any quality time with him, and I don't remember the last time he said that he loved me. He's like a stranger to me. I also don't know much about my dad, other than he plays video games sometimes.
my dad probably never wanted me. I can't blame him though, what my mom did was terrible, and I'm a daily reminder of that.
I love my dad, and I want him to recognize that I'm his daughter. I want to give my dad a big hug, and say I love him. I want to build a relationship with him before I leave for university this year, but I don't know how to start, or if he even wants anything to do with me. Is there any way I can fix my relationship with my dad???