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Topic: The bro code: My friend has started bringing his new partner to the pub for drinks with the guys
Anonymous A started this discussion 9 years ago#63,367
What would be the best way to tell him that this is not cool, since it's only the lads for after work beers on a Thursday. We have been getting together for a couple of beers on a Thursday for many years, and no one brings their partners.
Breaking the bro code like this sucks. Especially if she has shown up twice now like she's part of our Thirsty Thursdays, and putting him in a position to say she can't come sucks for him and reflects badly on us too.
We had a couple of extra guys with us for a few drinks, but they headed off early because the conversation was shit, half muted and toned down with her there. Usually we have a running joke auctioning off the girls in the bar amongst ourselves, and other such pissing contests etc but now that's kinda fucked. She doesn't buy rounds either, we just buy her drinks or something now.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 9 years ago, 21 minutes later, 27 minutes after the original post[^][v]#792,759
@previous (Big Daddy Derek !Uvm54ORbmo)
No, but would it make any difference if his girl is his friends ex partner? Because that was a dick move too
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 3 hours later, 3 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,786
@OP
so...what your saying is...you and your lads are resentful of her presence because you feel awkward behaving like dicks when she is in your company..
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Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 22 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,796
Just act like you normally do and make her buy rounds, she will either chill out or just stop coming.
McWalter joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,797
Say nothing. All agree to use a different pub but don't tell your friend
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 9 years ago, 51 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,806
@792,786 (C) @792,796 (D)
Do you two not spend time with just your mates? Do you not have any friendships or something?
@previous (McWalter)
Yeah that was the general consensus we had. Fuck this, go elsewhere and ditch him, he'll figure it out... But that's being a cunt, and I'd rather have a word to him. I'm just wondering what's the best way to say something.
Anonymous C replied with this 9 years ago, 10 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,810
@previous (A)
I dont think Id enjoy the company of you and your friends sort...I prefer to hang out with grown ups..
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 9 years ago, 4 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,813
@previous (C)
So what you are saying is, you sit by yourself if you ever go out. If you don't regularly meet with friends then it's not your advice I'm interested in. Thanks
Anonymous D replied with this 9 years ago, 46 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,817
Obviously I do. You want rid but don't want to tell her to fuck off because you are anxious that it will damage your friendship. She probably sees it as wanting to see what her bf and his friends do and integrate in his life more. Pretending like she is just another one of the guys is the only way, chances are good she will lose interest or if not then there is no change to the dynamic.
Tldr work your angles
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 4 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,820
@792,813 (A)
You are calculating this all wrong. She's a slag and she will probably do you next. Do you really want to upset her?
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 6 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,822
I say treat her like one of the guys. Be especially crude.
Meta joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 2 hours later, 8 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,882
OI M8 U OUGHT 2 TWAT HER 1
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 19 minutes later, 9 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,892
OP
You made this question and you have not manned up.
You need to tell your bud how you feel. If you cannot be honest - I need say no more.
Man up!
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 9 years ago, 1 hour later, 10 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,917
Also, it's not like no one wants her around. Any other night is fine to bring along a gf or wife and of course it's expected you would. We can all get together and have fun then too.
She's showing up when it's just the guys on a Thursday for an hour or so after work.
I'll probably go for some passive aggressiveness when shes away from the table and put the heat on him to tell her to stop showing up. Or I'll nudge a buddy to say something and back him up, because we are all thinking it.
Anonymous I replied with this 9 years ago, 19 minutes later, 10 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,926
@previous (A) > She's showing up when it's just the guys on a Thursday for an hour or so after work.
How the hell is she supposed to know its just for the guys?
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 9 years ago, 11 minutes later, 10 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,935
@previous (I)
It's pretty obvious. It would be like inviting herself along to a regular boys weekend fishing.
Shit, he better know he can't bring her to stuff like that too.
Anonymous I replied with this 9 years ago, 1 minute later, 10 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,938
@previous (A)
Is she at least easy on the eyes? I mean of course if she is ugly I can understand why you do not want her around.
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 1 minute later, 11 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,939
Just slap the bitch the moment she walks through the pub door. She won't come back. And if she does, slap the bitch again until she gets the message.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 9 years ago, 3 minutes later, 11 hours after the original post[^][v]#792,940
@792,938 (I)
That's a weird sentiment @previous (J)
I'll take that into consideration. Thanks
kook !!OPZbEQMT1 joined in and replied with this 9 years ago, 1 hour later, 12 hours after the original post[^][v]#793,025