Topic: Anger
Psychologist !n9PP8q5SP. started this discussion 10 years ago #56,339
Anger’s a pretty common emotion. However, anger is also increasingly recognised as an important emotional problem. Anger can be bad for your relationships, your health, and your self-esteem. In the bad old days of psychological treatment for anger, people were encour- aged simply to ‘get it out’, often by beating pillows to vent their fury. The result? Just like anything you practise, these people got better at being angry. The notion that expressing your rage can ‘get it out of your system’ is some- thing of a myth. More often you wind yourself up further, generating even more anger. A better solution is to get to grips with managing your angry feel- ings responsibly, and to master skills that can help you to feel less angry, less often.
CBT offers clear and effective management of anger, by tackling the thinking that underpins your anger and helping you express that anger in a healthy manner. This chapter focuses on CBT techniques that can help you deal directly with your feelings of anger.
Psychologist !n9PP8q5SP. (OP) double-posted this 10 years ago, 2 minutes later[^] [v] #726,748
Essentially, two different types of anger exist – healthy and unhealthy:* Healthy anger is helpful annoyance and irritation. This is the kind of anger that spurs you on to assert your rights when it is important that you do so.
* Unhealthy anger is unhelpful rage, and hate. This type of anger leads you to behave aggressively or violently even in response to mild or unimportant provocation.
Psychologist !n9PP8q5SP. (OP) triple-posted this 10 years ago, 2 minutes later, 4 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #726,749
Hallmarks of healthy angerIn general, people experience healthy anger as intense but not overwhelming experience. You can feel intensely angry in a healthy way without experienc- ing a loss of control. Healthy anger does not lead you to behave in antisocial, violent, or intimidating ways.
In addition, healthy anger is typically underpinned by the following ways of thinking:
- Holding strong preferences rather than rigid demands about how people should act
- Having flexibility in the rules you expect people to abide by
- Strongly preferring that others don’t insult or ridicule you
- Desiring that other people and life conditions don’t get in the way of you getting what you want
- Thinking realistically about whether other people have deliberately acted undesirably towards you
- Considering that both you and the other person may be right and wrong to a degree
- Trying to see the other person’s point of view
Behavioural characteristics typical of healthy anger include:
- Asserting yourself with the other person
- Staying in the situation with the intent of resolving any disagreement
- Requesting the other person to modify her behaviour – and respecting her right to disagree with you
- Looking for evidence that the other person may not have behaved with malicious intent
dog (OP) quadruple-posted this 10 years ago, 2 minutes later, 7 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #726,751
what the fuck ... I AMMA RAGE BITCH
sciencesays (OP) quintuple-posted this 10 years ago, 8 minutes later, 15 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #726,752
AM I HEALTHY ?
- okey, i should stick to my beliefs
- okey, people should listen to what i say
- okey, strongly preferring that others don't insult or ridicule me
- okey, wanting that other people don't get in get in the way of what i want.
- okey, making sure life condition don't get in the way of getting what i want
- okey, BEING A FUCKING REALIST
- okey, i could be wrong
- okey, i'll try to imagine YOUR VIEWPOINT
- okey, if i am angry i try to resolve the conflict
- okey, i request the other person to modify their behaviour, although they might disagree
- okey, LOOKING FOR EVIDENCE THAT THE OTHER PERSON MAY NOT HAVE BEHAVED WITH MALICIOUS INTENT
- okey, i should stick to my beliefs
- okey, people should listen to what i say
- okey, strongly preferring that others don't insult or ridicule me
- okey, wanting that other people don't get in get in the way of what i want.
- okey, making sure life condition don't get in the way of getting what i want
- okey, BEING A FUCKING REALIST
- okey, i could be wrong
- okey, i'll try to imagine YOUR VIEWPOINT
- okey, if i am angry i try to resolve the conflict
- okey, i request the other person to modify their behaviour, although they might disagree
- okey, LOOKING FOR EVIDENCE THAT THE OTHER PERSON MAY NOT HAVE BEHAVED WITH MALICIOUS INTENT
Psychologist !n9PP8q5SP. (OP) sextuple-posted this 10 years ago, 1 minute later, 17 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #726,754
http://inabook.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/CBT-for-dummies-wilsonbranch-excellent-resource.pdf
About the Authors
Rob Willson, BSc, MSc, Dip SBHS, has worked for the Priory Hospital North London for a number of years as a CBT therapist. Rob also teaches and supervises trainee therapists at Goldsmith’s College, University of London, and has his own practice in North London. His first book was Overcoming Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (Constable & Robinson, 2005), co-written with Dr David Veale.
Rob has done numerous newspaper and radio interviews about CBT. More rarely he’s appeared on television discussing understanding and treating body image problems. His particular interests include the research and treatment of obsessional problems, and applying CBT in group and self-help formats.
Rhena Branch, MSc, Dip CBT, is an accredited CBT therapist and works with the Priory Hospital North London as a CBT therapist. She also has her own practice in North London and supervises on the Masters’ course at Goldsmith College, University of London.
About the Authors
Rob Willson, BSc, MSc, Dip SBHS, has worked for the Priory Hospital North London for a number of years as a CBT therapist. Rob also teaches and supervises trainee therapists at Goldsmith’s College, University of London, and has his own practice in North London. His first book was Overcoming Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (Constable & Robinson, 2005), co-written with Dr David Veale.
Rob has done numerous newspaper and radio interviews about CBT. More rarely he’s appeared on television discussing understanding and treating body image problems. His particular interests include the research and treatment of obsessional problems, and applying CBT in group and self-help formats.
Rhena Branch, MSc, Dip CBT, is an accredited CBT therapist and works with the Priory Hospital North London as a CBT therapist. She also has her own practice in North London and supervises on the Masters’ course at Goldsmith College, University of London.
dog (OP) septuple-posted this 10 years ago, 5 minutes later, 22 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #726,759
you mean this is how to be righteous ???
meatpie !Uvm54ORbmo joined in and replied with this 10 years ago, 10 minutes later, 32 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #726,765
mordor ass fuck
mordor ass-fuck
mordor ass-fuck
TH (OP) replied with this 10 years ago, 3 minutes later, 36 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #726,768
@previous (meatpie !Uvm54ORbmo)
Some Questions.
- do you stick to your beliefs ...
- do people listen to what you say ...
- i would prefer that other persons don't insult or ridicule you ..
- are you sure you want that other people don't get in the way of what you want ...
- do you make sure life conditions don't get in the way of what you want ...
- are you a fucking realist ...
- you could be wrong ..
- do you try to imagine the others viewpoint ...
- do you get angry and try to resolve the conflict ...
- do you request the other person to modify their behaviour, although they could say no ...
- do you look for evidence that the other person may not have behaved with malicious intent.
Some Questions.
- do you stick to your beliefs ...
- do people listen to what you say ...
- i would prefer that other persons don't insult or ridicule you ..
- are you sure you want that other people don't get in the way of what you want ...
- do you make sure life conditions don't get in the way of what you want ...
- are you a fucking realist ...
- you could be wrong ..
- do you try to imagine the others viewpoint ...
- do you get angry and try to resolve the conflict ...
- do you request the other person to modify their behaviour, although they could say no ...
- do you look for evidence that the other person may not have behaved with malicious intent.
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order (OP) double-posted this 10 years ago, 3 hours later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #726,842
bump/
order (OP) triple-posted this 10 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #726,844
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zySHepF04c [play] (Psychiatric / Psychologic)
order (OP) quadruple-posted this 10 years ago, 7 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #726,845
sadly i do not possess such a powerful video with a women, do share to open my eyes .. thanks (breaking sexism)
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