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Topic: I have a crush on a guy at work. I need advice!

Anonymous A started this discussion 15 years ago #5,168

I got a summer job last year working for the government and through it I met this wildly good looking guy. I didn't work directly with him, but I'd encounter him a couple times a week. We made small talk, teased each other, etc. This year I have a slightly different position, but still see him a couple times per week. We smile at each other and make eye contact, like, all the time. I haven't had the chance to talk to him, but I don't know what to say!

After I finished last year I added him on Facebook. He never uses it, though... :-(

Anyway, is it worth it to try to strike up a conversation with him, get to know him better, etc.? I have the most massive crush on him ever and I can't stop thinking about him! I feel like I have a good enough chance, but there are a couple barriers in my way:

1) He has a girlfriend. But I dunno how serious their relationship is, as it's not FB official, lol...
2) He's 7 years older than me.
3) I don't know if he is as into me as I am into him.

How do I solve this terrible dilemma? Should I try talking to him? If so, what should I say?!

Schwarzenegger !!uADnUIkPw joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 6 minutes later[^] [v] #91,086

Yes, it would be worth striking up a conversation with him to get to know him better. Be casual and be yourself. Talk about the weather or something. No, just ask questions like what kind of music are you into, etc.

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 7 minutes later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #91,090

@previous (Schwarzenegger !!uADnUIkPw)

> Yes, it would be worth striking up a conversation with him to get to know him better.

Thanks for the reply!
So you think it's a good idea to get to know him better. Is it okay for me to flirt with him, knowing he has a girlfriend? He hasn't told me or anything, I just heard from someone else and saw tagged pictures on Facebook.

Schwarzenegger !!uADnUIkPw replied with this 15 years ago, 22 minutes later, 35 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #91,094

@previous (A)
Flirt with him like he's single. ;)
Shit, I don't know. Get to know him first.

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 38 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #91,096

Lol, fair enough. Thank you! :-) If anything ever results from my efforts, I'll be sure to report back!

Schwarzenegger !!uADnUIkPw replied with this 15 years ago, 12 minutes later, 50 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #91,100

@previous (A)
Wait a second...are a guy?

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 53 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #91,104

@previous (Schwarzenegger !!uADnUIkPw)
No... lol

Schwarzenegger !!uADnUIkPw replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 54 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #91,106

@previous (A)
Okay, good.

Katerina Shcherbatskaya joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 7 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #91,111

@91,096 (A)

> If anything ever results from my efforts

Like ruining a relationship?

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #91,113

@previous (Katerina Shcherbatskaya)

I highly doubt things could progress to that stage considering I hardly know the guy now.

Katerina Shcherbatskaya replied with this 15 years ago, 56 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #91,114

@previous (A)
Ah. Befriending him is fine, but it's not classy at all to court someone's who's already in a relationship.

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #91,117

@previous (Katerina Shcherbatskaya)

Yeah, I hear you. What if I know he's in a relationship but he never confirms it? Just as bad? Worse?

Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 2 hours later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #91,216

Dudes always wanna fuck a broad.

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 10 hours later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #91,409

@previous (D)

That's what I'm hoping... ;-D

✄----- !ZSNgHQb5Ig joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 5 hours later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #91,565

How old are you OP? You say he is 7 years older than you but the older you get the less an age gap means.

Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 35 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #91,630

@previous (✄----- !ZSNgHQb5Ig)

Yeah, for sure. I'm 18. That alright?

(P.S. not recognized as the OP anymore, apparently... :S)

✄----- !ZSNgHQb5Ig replied with this 15 years ago, 4 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #91,934

Its better than 15 at least, how old is his girlfriend now? Just go up ask him how hes been doing if hes missed you and just drop flirty hints. Depends on the guy but most will be happy to trade up for an 18 year old as long as ur hotter than his current.
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