Topic: I'm still in love with my ex and it hurts :(
Anonymous A started this discussion 15 years ago #5,020
We broke up a few years ago - his choice. We stayed apart for a month or so but eventually I thought I could handle us being friends. Before long, I made it completely obvious to him that I was okay with us sleeping together even though we're not together any more. And so we did... for a long time... years, I managed to convince us both that I was happy with our hidden sexual relationship. In public, we had broken up long ago. I was his dirty little secret.
I thought I was okay with that. We both had needs, both sexual and emotional and we helped each other with those needs. It was mutually beneficial. I never really looked at anyone else, although I knew I was free to. He was, too and we were both very honest with each other. He tried dating a few people, but it never really worked out for him. I guess I enjoyed the fact that he struggled... after all, he'd always come back to me.
Until recently. I dunno what changed... maybe he came out of his shell or suddenly got confidence, but recently he started dating and having sex with others, a lot. I thought I would be okay with that... but I wasn't. I tried to be cool about it... I had been giving him advice and pointers for a long time... I thought I was open minded and understanding. But when he started being able to get more sex dates, he had less time for me. And I started to become jealous. But I was right to be, I think. I was basically his back-up... someone he'd hang out with and have sex with when he couldn't get anyone better.
It took me a while to realise that I still love him, and I ONLY want him to be with ME. I am sick of feeling hurt by him. So I told him this. I knew how it would end. He apologised because he didn't realise how emotionally invested I was in our casual-but-lasting-3-years sexual relationship. Now, I'm not even allowed that. He ended it. I love him, but he doesn't love me. I want to be with him, but he doesn't want to be committed to me. Yesterday I could get sex from him but felt cheap and used. From now on I can't even get that. I don't know what's worse. :(
TL:DR I'm still in love with the guy I've been sleeping with for the past 3-4 years, but he doesn't feel the same way. Now it's over. :-(
I thought I was okay with that. We both had needs, both sexual and emotional and we helped each other with those needs. It was mutually beneficial. I never really looked at anyone else, although I knew I was free to. He was, too and we were both very honest with each other. He tried dating a few people, but it never really worked out for him. I guess I enjoyed the fact that he struggled... after all, he'd always come back to me.
Until recently. I dunno what changed... maybe he came out of his shell or suddenly got confidence, but recently he started dating and having sex with others, a lot. I thought I would be okay with that... but I wasn't. I tried to be cool about it... I had been giving him advice and pointers for a long time... I thought I was open minded and understanding. But when he started being able to get more sex dates, he had less time for me. And I started to become jealous. But I was right to be, I think. I was basically his back-up... someone he'd hang out with and have sex with when he couldn't get anyone better.
It took me a while to realise that I still love him, and I ONLY want him to be with ME. I am sick of feeling hurt by him. So I told him this. I knew how it would end. He apologised because he didn't realise how emotionally invested I was in our casual-but-lasting-3-years sexual relationship. Now, I'm not even allowed that. He ended it. I love him, but he doesn't love me. I want to be with him, but he doesn't want to be committed to me. Yesterday I could get sex from him but felt cheap and used. From now on I can't even get that. I don't know what's worse. :(
TL:DR I'm still in love with the guy I've been sleeping with for the past 3-4 years, but he doesn't feel the same way. Now it's over. :-(
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 3 minutes later[^] [v] #88,665
-lolno-
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Greenologist !pFNWNYROxA joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 5 minutes later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #88,666
If he didn't want to be open about your relationship in public, he wasn't worth it. You deserve better than him, someone who won't be afraid to hold your hand in public. Fuck the haters!
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 6 hours later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #88,815
Find someone else. Sounds it wouldn't have worked out anyway.
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 3 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #88,816
Oh look, it's this thread. AGAIN.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 46 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #88,833
I still love my ex that I broke up with 3 years ago. just a fact of life
also obvious copypasta is obvious
also obvious copypasta is obvious
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Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 19 seconds later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #88,834
sup to4str
Anonymous H joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 8 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #88,846
and then a skeleton popped out
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Greenologist !pFNWNYROxA replied with this 15 years ago, 17 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #88,864
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 3 hours later, 11 hours after the original post[^] [v] #88,995
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 20 minutes later, 11 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,002
Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 26 minutes later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,015
OP are you a guy?
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 13 minutes later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,029
Anonymous J replied with this 15 years ago, 18 minutes later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,046
This thread is about tons of gay sex? Gross. Disgusted. Bye, thread.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 7 minutes later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,052
Anonymous J replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,055
@previous (A)
I was joking. I was about to take it further and talk about spreading AIDS for fun but I didn't.
I was joking. I was about to take it further and talk about spreading AIDS for fun but I didn't.
Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 46 seconds later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,057
The Truth !!vSp31CfSr joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,060
Stop being a beta fag and get another ass and cock to sex with.
The Truth !!vSp31CfSr double-posted this 15 years ago, 30 seconds later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #89,062
lol double posted cause of shitty connection
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