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Topic: When To Tell A Guy You Are Transgender

Anonymous A started this discussion 11 years ago #45,762

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94lfeK2tkjQ [Embed]

She recommends you tell him after the first date and over the phone.

She says that if you tell them beforehand, they won't want to date you because of negative preconceived notions and stereotyping of transgender women. She also says if you tell him in person, he react violently and since it's the first date, you don't know what type of person they are.

Her reasoning is pretty sound. I agree.

Green !BEERiVqJJw joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later[^] [v] #603,747

Never, you sick freak.

Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 4 minutes later, 6 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #603,749

inb4 kook

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 4 minutes later, 10 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #603,751

@previous (C)
Does Kook like women?

Anonymous B replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #603,754

@previous (A)
Np gey np

kook !!Phkn/3Gic joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 15 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #603,757

They need to know before the date, probably

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 16 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #603,758

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Would you date a transgender MtF if she had the right levels of feminin/masculine and was into tickling?

Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 11 years ago, 11 minutes later, 28 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #603,771

@603,757 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Why are you scared to answer me?

Million Moose March joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 21 minutes later, 50 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #603,781

never, no one wants to know that shit

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 21 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,790

@603,771 (A)
What?

kook !!Phkn/3Gic double-posted this 11 years ago, 47 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,791

@603,758 (A)
It would really depend on their level of sjwness. The mere presence of a dick wouldn't put me off.

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 4 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,804

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Why are you against social justice?

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,806

@previous (A)
Because it allows people to act smug, and entitled while also feeling like the most oppressed people on earth.

Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,808

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Why do you care about these things?

beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,809

@603,806 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
What

Killer Lettuce?? !!iNo3FkiZx joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 23 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,810

@603,757 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Yeah, I think I agree. Informed consent is an important thing, ethically. Or so I've been taught.

There's certainly men out there who would be into trans women. They're probably a little harder to come by than the standard heterosexual man, so I'd imagine it's probably better to actively seek them out somehow rather than just hoping you find such a man through random dating.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 21 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,811

@603,808 (F)
Why does anyone care about anything?

kook !!Phkn/3Gic double-posted this 11 years ago, 17 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,812

@603,809 (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
What?

Killer Lettuce?? !!iNo3FkiZx replied with this 11 years ago, 48 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,813

@603,809 (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
Social Justice = angry SJWs on Tumblr.

Sorry, it is just a fact on the chans, now. Social Justice had a good run, but it is now defined by one website's stereotype.

Anonymous F replied with this 11 years ago, 44 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,814

@603,811 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Normal people only care about things that affect them directly.

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,816

@603,806 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
So what you're saying is, being compassionate is smug?

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,817

@603,814 (F)
I'm not normal or a person

kook !!Phkn/3Gic double-posted this 11 years ago, 47 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,819

@603,813 (Killer Lettuce?? !!iNo3FkiZx)
I don't call people who are interested in social issues sjw's. That's for a very specific type of person.

Anonymous F replied with this 11 years ago, 38 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,821

@603,817 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
You are hysterical, and you belong on meds.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,824

@603,816 (A)
I'm saying that using your various issues (which are usually fake) to try and control people, to try and scramble for power, or to feel special because without them you are not interesting or notable in any way. People are better when they have autism, or are trans, or are otherkin, or are brown, or are poor

kook !!Phkn/3Gic double-posted this 11 years ago, 17 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,825

@603,821 (F)
Not my uteri!!!!

Anonymous C replied with this 11 years ago, 23 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,826

@603,821 (F)
This.

Metæ joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,829

Honestly it wouldn't bother me that much if I fell in love with someone I later found out to be transgender.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,831

@603,826 (C)
You agree with a gendered term that's been historically used to discount the experiences of women?! You fucking shitlord.

Anonymous C replied with this 11 years ago, 22 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,839

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Yep. You'd better kill yourself to avoid the shame you bring to humanity.

beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #603,841

@603,829 (Metæ)
Are you serious

That is weird

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,842

@603,839 (C)
That's bullying. You're cis gendered and you're trying to lord your privilege over me like a hard dick. Stop trying to show me your dick! That's assault! You're like a rapist! Stop trying to rape me you Cissy! I've been sexually assaulted by anon C!

kook !!Phkn/3Gic double-posted this 11 years ago, 24 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,843

@603,841 (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
Why is that weird?

Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 21 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,844

@603,841 (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
Wait, what? I thought one goal of the LLM was to attack men who were against trans

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 32 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,845

@previous (A)
Lol what?

Killer Lettuce?? !!iNo3FkiZx replied with this 11 years ago, 47 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,846

@603,841 (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
I don't think it's all that weird, assuming he isn't bothered about having his own kids or sex with a genuine vagina.

Anonymous F replied with this 11 years ago, 9 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,848

@603,831 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Stop erasing women who don't have uteri. Thanks.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,849

@previous (F)
No! Start using my preferred pronouns!

Anonymous F replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,850

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Start being dead.

Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,851

@603,849 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
your shtick is tired and boring

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 54 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,852

@603,850 (F)
I'm already dead. I'm zombiekin you slack jawed, tucked dick, trigger rigging piece of medical waste!

kook !!Phkn/3Gic double-posted this 11 years ago, 19 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,853

I am a golden god!!!!!!!

kook !!Phkn/3Gic triple-posted this 11 years ago, 53 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,854

@603,851 (J)
It's surely entertaining to me, and that's all I truly care about. Thanks

Anonymous F replied with this 11 years ago, 8 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,857

@603,852 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Take your PMS meds. Thanks.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 14 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,859

@previous (F)
I don't identify as having pms.

Anonymous F replied with this 11 years ago, 8 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,861

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Why are you being so uncooperative?

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,862

@previous (F)
My uterus is wandering, remember? I need to spend days in bed, gently masturbating.

Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 29 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,867

@603,857 (F)
Doctor? Is that you?

Metæ replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,868

@603,841 (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
Yes. I don't know, I guess my attraction to the person would trump their chromosomes?

beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q replied with this 11 years ago, 3 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,871

@previous (Metæ)
I guess I'm just old-fashioned.

Anonymous K replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,872

@previous (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
Do old fashion people even consider chromosomes until it's brought up though?

beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q replied with this 11 years ago, 9 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,873

@previous (K)
what

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 36 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,875

@603,872 (K)
They consider dicks

Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 2 hours later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,882

Don't tell me! That ruins the surprise!

FuckAlms !vX8K53rFBI joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 1 hour later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,901

@603,842 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Oh geez, what the fuck you were raped by a turkey? What is this world coming to?!

Malachite replied with this 11 years ago, 3 hours later, 11 hours after the original post[^] [v] #603,945

You must take off all your clothes then sing Total Eclipse of the Heart.

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM replied with this 11 years ago, 21 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #604,346

This reminds me of a movie, Boy Meets Girl.

Triptych joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 8 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #604,421

@603,849 (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
why would it bother you to use someone's preferred pronouns
it's not really any effort on your part
if someone changed their name you wouldn't refuse to use their new name would you

Anonymous C replied with this 11 years ago, 42 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #604,424

@previous (Triptych)
Because if kook does that then literally all public women's restrooms will be overrun with dudes in dresses masturbating in the stalls

Killer Lettuce⭐️ !!iNo3FkiZx replied with this 11 years ago, 14 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #604,426

@previous (C)
damlol

Triptych replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #604,427

@604,424 (C)
ugh

Anonymous O joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 7 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #604,507

lol this type of shit is going to keep any legitimate people that are transgendered from ever being accepted

he looks like a horse

(Edited 28 seconds later.)

squeegee joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 19 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #604,523

honestly, if you see that someone is interested in you then you should be up front about it. waiting until after a first date is a bad idea. it's not only dishonest to mislead someone (and that alone should be enough to turn someone off of a second date) but it also breeds resentment on the part of straight men. I don't want to have to go to a bar and have to worry that the girl i'm hitting on will have a dick, but to hear transexuals talk they love being indistinguishable from women AND convince each other it's okay to mislead men because "that's how you get dates."

it's a fucked up way of thinking. It really just shows me many transexuals have a feeling of entitlement and that makes it okay to lie and misdirect and try to trick men into dating. it makes me want to not validate their choices when so many of their actions are unethical. even if you've had vagina surgery, you should still tell men interested in you that you're not a genetic female. before the fucking wedding day, you feel me? men have a right to know if the women they are dating are actually what they present themselves to be.

traps. i mean there's even a word for it. anyway, it's a really, really bad idea to start a relationship based on lies. just saying.

it's a real pity, though, that transexuals hate tranny chasers. from what i've heard about trans culture the "tranny chaser" is basically viewed as a predator and transexuals tend to want to date straight folks. It's like transexuals and transexual chasers were literally made for each other, and both think the other group is disgusting. transexuals, it seems, think chasers are just closeted gays and can't stand guys that like dick. even if it's theirs.

instead of worrying about how best to lie to straight guys to get dates, maybe transexual women could work on their image and make it okay for chasers to be with them and also come to terms with their bodies and recognize that part of them is attractive to some people. transexuals are already trending and becoming mainstream and full-on acceptance of them is pretty much here so society is about to be much more cool with non-closeted chasers being out of the closet and openly dating transexual women. trans women need to prepare themselves for that, and open themselves up to being with partners that prefer non-standard plumbing. otherwise, forever alone.

(Edited 1 minute later.)

squeegee double-posted this 11 years ago, 15 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #604,529

also, i'll say this, if the guy is cool with you having a dick after one date, i promise you he'll be cool with knowing you have a dick before the date. but if he's not cool with it after the first date, then there was never any chance to begin with.

Methlyfe !KansasxqvM joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 20 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #604,741

@previous (squeegee)
Agree.

Meowth joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 16 hours later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,033

@604,421 (Triptych)
The fucked up thing is I recently found some girl I used to know so I decided to try and get in contact. She had a completely new name, but I knew it was her. After accepting my friend request, I messaged her saying "Amanda?" This is where it was weird. She replied "Amanda is my slave name." I know she used to be dtf but I've never heard that one before.

Triptych replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,036

@previous (Meowth)
Hahhhhh that's great. I'm digging her.

I want kyla in my bed but she's passed out on the couch

Meowth replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,039

@previous (Triptych)
Unfortunately I was stumped on how to react. It was like she seemed to be living a completely new life.

Triptych replied with this 11 years ago, 18 seconds later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,040

@604,523 (squeegee)
The issue with trans chasers is that they're fetishising trans people. They don't want to be with a trans person for who they are but purely for their non standard genitalia. Which is pretty weird. I wouldn't want to date someone who only wanted me for my genitals.

Triptych double-posted this 11 years ago, 46 seconds later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,042

@605,039 (Meowth)
You should investigate!!

But more importantly you should help me coerce cuddling. I don't wanna wake her up. :(

Meowth replied with this 11 years ago, 6 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,045

@previous (Triptych)
I did do a bit, but nothin to intensive. She seems happy in life unlike before.

Hmm. You should slowly inch your way and post results every inch if she wakes up r not.

Toni !gM.fIrVe1Q joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 11 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,051

I think I am the oddball. I am a MTF transsexual, but I am still attracted to women exclusively. I guess that makes me a transsexual lesbian.

WSD !m2cp3rR5zw joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 52 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,068

@605,040 (Triptych)
While I do find that part of a transwoman hot (if they are fine with it), the big reason I like transwomen is because they are the only people as uncomfortable with themselves as I am and I can relate.

My advice to chasers is to either get with a feminine gay guy or get with a woman who can use a strapon.

(Edited 1 minute later.)

Toni !gM.fIrVe1Q replied with this 11 years ago, 8 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,069

@previous (WSD !m2cp3rR5zw)
Would you be attracted to me?

FuckAlms !vX8K53rFBI replied with this 11 years ago, 50 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,081

@605,040 (Triptych)
At the end of the day, most people want you for your genitals, otherwise they wouldn't have a sexual preference.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 33 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,093

@previous (FuckAlms !vX8K53rFBI)
Correct

WSD !m2cp3rR5zw replied with this 11 years ago, 4 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,096

@605,069 (Toni !gM.fIrVe1Q)
I don't know much about you so I can't say for sure, but probably.

squeegee joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 5 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,104

@605,081 (FuckAlms !vX8K53rFBI)
yeah... see, i think that's what trans don't get. cause... yeah, pussy is pussy. ask pretty much any dude and they'll be like "tits and pussy."

and mtf trans are totally okay with guys lusting after tits. but as soon as it's their dick, "ew, weird."

but seriously, every dude lusts after genitals. one kind or another.

when straight guys pick up straight women at a bar and take them home, it's not for conversation, trip. it's to fuck that pussy. okay? and this is exactly what i was talking about, guys that actually go for trans women, "ew, kinda weird and gross. and they have problems."

no... that just your gender dysphoria making you uncomfortable with your plumbing. being reminded you have it (or being asked to use it) is just too unsettling. so,lets just vilify everyone who's actually attracted to you... smh

(Edited 1 minute later.)

Triptych !!/xkPL9myM joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 31 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,128

@605,081 (FuckAlms !vX8K53rFBI)
*just* for genitals though. not for anything else about you.

@previous (squeegee)
nah i'm not talking about like one night stands or casual hookups. like dating.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 13 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,136

@previous (Triptych !!/xkPL9myM)
But for many, dating is for leading to long term relationships. So genitals would be particularly important in that case.

Triptych !!/xkPL9myM replied with this 11 years ago, 21 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,145

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
we're talking about two different sets of people
you're talking about transgender people dating cisgender people as a whole
i'm talking about trans chasers who go after transgender people just for their genitals

squeegee replied with this 11 years ago, 20 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,147

@previous (Triptych !!/xkPL9myM)
shouldn't we just tell trans women who get used for sex (like real women) welcome to the ladies club? i mean, c'mon, wanting a girl for her equipment is like 90% of dating, dude.

they wanted to be women, yet they don't want men to treat them like one? go on, ask any woman about being used for sex and i bet a vast majority of them have a story.

and why is it a transexual can lust after a guys genitals and that be okay, but not the other way around?

like i said, the problem is that chasers that actually are attracted to transexuals don't "date them" becuase it's even less culturally accepted than 2 gay guys dating. make it easier for chasers to be open about their real desires and suddenly they'll come out of the dark closet they are living in. but, like i said, trans women have mental problems with their dysphoria that makes themselves feel gross about having their genitals desired. they simply project that on to males as "gross perverts who fetishize the penis."

anyway, to mtf trannies, welcome to the ladies club, hope it's everything you dreamed it would be.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 52 seconds later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,148

@605,145 (Triptych !!/xkPL9myM)
But chasers go after feminine people who have penises, generally. It's just a preference like any other. If someone was into tall men, or fat women, would this even be an issue? Most straight guys do not want to deal with someone elses dicks, period. So if you take away the "chasers" you're left alone.

Syntax joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 3 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,149

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
> So if you take away the "chasers" you're left alone.

All kinds of odd balls out on Planet Earth. I used to work with a guy who was a Fat Chaser. And I do mean Fat. Married a fat gal and dumped her for another who was much much bigger.

As far as I no and I have been on Planet Earth much longer then anyone else who uses this chan - I have yet to meet any man who was chasing odd ball genitals.

kook !!Phkn/3Gic replied with this 11 years ago, 3 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,150

@previous (Syntax)
With the logic shown in this thread, we should see that guy as an asshole who doesnt care about women at all because he is a fatty "chaser". fucking ridiculous.

Syntax replied with this 11 years ago, 39 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #605,158

@previous (kook !!Phkn/3Gic)
Not once could I bring myself to ask that guy Y Y Y? Only thing I can think of is - He found other places to stick his Stick into for a rub down.
Now as an employee he was a competent engineer.

Oh damn I have CNN on in background and playing catch up with news. So much Pope shit. Watching John Boehner in tears over Pope - frigging two faced when Pope talks about immigration.
Boehner cannot find enough tissues to wipe his Chem burned face.
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