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Topic: Is having too much empathy a bad thing?

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM started this discussion 11 years ago #43,006

Like having too much empathy for other people before yourself as well as having too much faith in humanity in matters such as destroying ourselves?

Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later[^] [v] #569,303

No. It is a good thing.

Green !BEERiVqJJw joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 7 minutes later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #569,304

Better than having too little empathy.

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 10 minutes later, 20 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #569,305

@previous (Green !BEERiVqJJw)
That seems a little enviable to be honest.

Green !BEERiVqJJw replied with this 11 years ago, 18 minutes later, 39 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #569,307

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
U wot m8?

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 7 minutes later, 46 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #569,309

@previous (Green !BEERiVqJJw)
Having too much empathy feels like a curse at times.

Green !BEERiVqJJw replied with this 11 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #569,322

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)

> too much empathy
What. You make threads about murdering people.

The Owl !KThEOwLwbU joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 8 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #569,323

Expect Catherine get Catherine

Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 7 hours later, 9 hours after the original post[^] [v] #569,402

Well it could be bad from a self-preservation standpoint, if it made you do things like donate too much to charity or risk your life. It could even drag your mood down more easily, which is itself harmful in the long-term.

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vocalon !74TdoRkjCc joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 7 hours later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #569,504

i empathized with someone once now look at me

kook !!mCVqftDha joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #569,505

Catherine, you probably are not extra empathetic. Why do you think you are?

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 5 days later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,073

@previous (kook !!mCVqftDha)
Because sometimes I have sadistic thoughts of torturing small animals and people, but could never actually do such a thing in real life. And if I somehow managed to do it I might end up crying asking myself what the fuck it is I am doing.

kook !!mCVqftDha replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,074

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
That just makes you normal. Most people cant torture animals and other people.

beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 12 minutes later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,077

@571,073 (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
Why does that make you think you have too much empathy?? omg.

dw joined in and replied with this 11 years ago, 4 minutes later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,078

@571,073 (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
that sounds like the bare minimum amount of empathy

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 3 minutes later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,080

@571,074 (kook !!mCVqftDha)
Yeah, I kind of figured that out a couple of weeks ago. :-|

@571,077 (beckyderp !4aMoRa.T2Q)
I might have been adding too much descriptive words again.

@previous (dw)
Bare minimum or average?

Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx replied with this 11 years ago, 29 seconds later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,081

@571,073 (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
So you're saying that you have "too much empathy" because you don't act on your thoughts of torturing things? That sounds like a minimal amount of empathy, really.

Also, I should point out that just occasionally having thoughts like that isn't all that unusual. I recall seeing about a study in a lecture where the occasional violent or unpleasant thoughts were actually somewhat common in people. Though if you're having them constantly, then obviously it's different.

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 5 minutes later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,082

@previous (Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx)
I found this little flash game where you torture a virtual man.
It gets boring after awhile, but I'd post it in case someone might be interested.

I know there has to be at least one here who would be.

http://666games.net/Violent/Flash/Play/625/The_Torture_Game_2_5.html

Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx replied with this 11 years ago, 3 minutes later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,083

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
Okay. That is relevant to what I said.

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 46 seconds later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,084

@previous (Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx)
Really? Seems unrelated to be honest unless you're referring to...
> It gets boring after awhile

Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 6 days after the original post[^] [v] #571,085

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
No, I really meant it. Very related.

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 21 hours later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,359

I thought of something else that often made me question if I have too much empathy.

I sometimes have thoughts and fantasies about becoming so rich where every cent I spend is for the betterment of other people all while it puts me into poverty. Like I could imagine spending so much on others that it forces me to live well below my means. Not sure if this is due to too much empathy or just masochism and depression.

kook !!mCVqftDha replied with this 11 years ago, 4 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,365

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
Do you think that you feel most emotions more strongly than the average person, or just some of them?

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,366

@previous (kook !!mCVqftDha)
Hard to answer really, sometimes I feel like the former is true while other times I feel the latter is true.

kook !!mCVqftDha replied with this 11 years ago, 26 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,392

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
But at which times and which emotions?

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,394

@previous (kook !!mCVqftDha)
Times, I cannot accurately say, but emotions usually just anger and sadness.
Of course that might just be depression.

kook !!mCVqftDha replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,399

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
Like you feel more anger and sadness than what's normal?

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,402

@previous (kook !!mCVqftDha)
I would probably say so, yeah.

kook !!mCVqftDha replied with this 11 years ago, 5 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,407

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
But how does this anger manifest?

I feel like I have less emotions than the average person.
Oh and this doesnt count as empathy.

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,412

@previous (kook !!mCVqftDha)
Yeah, kind of figured it wouldn't, and mostly just yelling.

kook !!mCVqftDha replied with this 11 years ago, 10 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,421

@previous (Catherine !TGirlYJKXM)
What generally sets you off?

Catherine !TGirlYJKXM (OP) replied with this 11 years ago, 4 minutes later, 1 week after the original post[^] [v] #571,422

@previous (kook !!mCVqftDha)
I do not feel comfortable going too into detail, but I would say a few things can set me off such as my own stupidity and inability to figure things out without first yelling my head off beating myself up until finally a solution comes to me, my own immaturity, and thinking about my past.
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