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postmortem !!Qe8ScDbX+ started this discussion 12 years ago#35,784
So apparently while Kirby still does not want to be in a relationship with me, is not too happy that ive been going on dates. As I am supposed to wait for her. I do get where she's coming from, she wants to feel like she was important to me, and that im not just going to immediately move on. She's also doing this very slow crawl back to me. Where it went from not talking to me at all, to "look im not going to talk to you everyday" to talking to me everyday, to being sexual with me, to occasionally telling me she loves me, and even on occasion saying we might get back together at some point. I know where this is going because I did it with Lexi, and she's essentially doing the exact same thing.
So, in a month's time we will probably be together again. Basically when I see her again is when it will happen. I can kind of pinpoint that. That's how it was with Lexi, and that's even how it has been with Kirby the couple times we've had like 1 day break-ups.
Do I go down this road, and hope maybe things will be different, and that it won't be a yo-yo relationship. Or do I just quit while I am ahead?
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 12 years ago, 2 minutes later[^][v]#490,392
When will you post her nudes?
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 12 years ago, 51 minutes later, 53 minutes after the original post[^][v]#490,394
Narcissistic personality disorder
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
This article is about the personality disorder. For more information on clinical research and types of narcissism, see Narcissism.
Narcissistic personality disorder
Classification and external resources
Narcissus-Caravaggio (1594-96) edited.jpg
Narcissus by Caravaggio. Gazing at his own reflection.
ICD-10 F60.8
ICD-9 301.81
MedlinePlus 000934
MeSH D010554
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder[1] in which a person is excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity, mentally unable to see the destructive damage they are causing to themselves and to others in the process. It is estimated that this condition affects one percent of the population.[2][3] First formulated in 1968, NPD was historically called megalomania, and is a form of severe egocentrism.[4]
Contents [hide]
1 Symptoms
1.1 Eating disorders
1.2 Professional attainment
2 Causes
2.1 Theories
2.2 Splitting
2.3 Relationship to shame
3 Diagnosis
3.1 DSM-5
3.2 ICD-10
3.3 Subtypes
4 Treatment
5 Epidemiology
6 History
7 Society and culture
8 See also
9 References
10 Further reading
Symptoms[edit]
Some people diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder are characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance. They have a sense of entitlement and demonstrate grandiosity in their beliefs and behavior. They have a strong need for admiration, but lack feelings of empathy.[5]
Symptoms of this disorder, as defined by the DSM-IV-TR, include:[1]
Expects to be recognized as superior and special, without superior accomplishments
Expects constant attention, admiration and positive reinforcement from others
Envies others and believes others envy him/her
Is preoccupied with thoughts and fantasies of great success, enormous attractiveness, power, intelligence
Lacks the ability to empathize with the feelings or desires of others
Is arrogant in attitudes and behavior
Has expectations of special treatment that are unrealistic
Other symptoms in addition to the ones defined by DSM-IV-TR include: Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends, has trouble keeping healthy relationships with others, easily hurt or rejected, appears unemotional, and exaggerating special achievements and talents, setting unrealistic goals for himself/herself.[6]
Narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by an over-inflated sense of self-importance, as well as dramatic, emotional behavior that is in the same category as antisocial and borderline personality disorders. [7]
In addition to these symptoms, the person may display arrogance, show superiority, and seek power.[8] The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder can be similar to the traits of individuals with strong self-esteem and confidence; differentiation occurs when the underlying psychological structures of these traits are considered pathological. Narcissists have such an elevated sense of self-worth that they value themselves as inherently better than others, when in reality they have a fragile self-esteem, cannot handle criticism, and often try to compensate for this inner fragility by belittling or disparaging others in an attempt to validate their own self-worth. Comments and criticisms about others are vicious from sufferers of NPD, in an attempt to boost their own poor self-esteem.[9]
Another narcissist symptom is a lack of empathy. They are unable to relate, understand, and rationalize the feelings of others. Instead of behaving in a way that shows how they are feeling in the moment, they behave in the way that they feel they are expected to behave or what gives them the most attention.[6]
In children, inflated self-views and grandiose feelings, which are characteristics of narcissism, are part of the normal self-development. Children typically cannot understand the difference between their actual and their ideal self, which causes an unrealistic perception of the self. After about age 8, views of the self, both positive and negative, begin to develop based on comparisons of peers, and become more realistic. Two factors that cause self-view to remain unrealistic are dysfunctional interactions with parents that can be either excessive attention or a lack thereof. For example but not limited to, the excessive attention and lack of attention go hand in hand when a child’s parents are divorced. Usually, one is overindulgent (typically the one seeing the child less) and the other shows less affection.[6] The child either compensates for lack of attention or acts in terms of unrealistic self-perception.[10]
An extensive US survey found a high association with other disabilities, especially amongst men: mental disability, substance use, mood, anxiety disorders and other personality disorders, bipolar I disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, and schizotypal and borderline personality disorders were among the associated disabilities.[11]
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 12 years ago, 17 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#490,396
> Narcissistic personality disorder > From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia > This article is about the personality disorder. For more information on clinical research and types of narcissism, see Narcissism. > Narcissistic personality disorder > Classification and external resources > Narcissus-Caravaggio (1594-96) edited.jpg > Narcissus by Caravaggio. Gazing at his own reflection. > ICD-10 F60.8 > ICD-9 301.81 > MedlinePlus 000934 > MeSH D010554 > Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder[1] in which a person is excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity, mentally unable to see the destructive damage they are causing to themselves and to others in the process. It is estimated that this condition affects one percent of the population.[2][3] First formulated in 1968, NPD was historically called megalomania, and is a form of severe egocentrism.[4] > Contents [hide] > 1 Symptoms > 1.1 Eating disorders > 1.2 Professional attainment > 2 Causes > 2.1 Theories > 2.2 Splitting > 2.3 Relationship to shame > 3 Diagnosis > 3.1 DSM-5 > 3.2 ICD-10 > 3.3 Subtypes > 4 Treatment > 5 Epidemiology > 6 History > 7 Society and culture > 8 See also > 9 References > 10 Further reading > Symptoms[edit] > Some people diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder are characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance. They have a sense of entitlement and demonstrate grandiosity in their beliefs and behavior. They have a strong need for admiration, but lack feelings of empathy.[5] > Symptoms of this disorder, as defined by the DSM-IV-TR, include:[1] > Expects to be recognized as superior and special, without superior accomplishments > Expects constant attention, admiration and positive reinforcement from others > Envies others and believes others envy him/her > Is preoccupied with thoughts and fantasies of great success, enormous attractiveness, power, intelligence > Lacks the ability to empathize with the feelings or desires of others > Is arrogant in attitudes and behavior > Has expectations of special treatment that are unrealistic > Other symptoms in addition to the ones defined by DSM-IV-TR include: Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends, has trouble keeping healthy relationships with others, easily hurt or rejected, appears unemotional, and exaggerating special achievements and talents, setting unrealistic goals for himself/herself.[6] > Narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by an over-inflated sense of self-importance, as well as dramatic, emotional behavior that is in the same category as antisocial and borderline personality disorders. [7] > In addition to these symptoms, the person may display arrogance, show superiority, and seek power.[8] The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder can be similar to the traits of individuals with strong self-esteem and confidence; differentiation occurs when the underlying psychological structures of these traits are considered pathological. Narcissists have such an elevated sense of self-worth that they value themselves as inherently better than others, when in reality they have a fragile self-esteem, cannot handle criticism, and often try to compensate for this inner fragility by belittling or disparaging others in an attempt to validate their own self-worth. Comments and criticisms about others are vicious from sufferers of NPD, in an attempt to boost their own poor self-esteem.[9] > Another narcissist symptom is a lack of empathy. They are unable to relate, understand, and rationalize the feelings of others. Instead of behaving in a way that shows how they are feeling in the moment, they behave in the way that they feel they are expected to behave or what gives them the most attention.[6] > In children, inflated self-views and grandiose feelings, which are characteristics of narcissism, are part of the normal self-development. Children typically cannot understand the difference between their actual and their ideal self, which causes an unrealistic perception of the self. After about age 8, views of the self, both positive and negative, begin to develop based on comparisons of peers, and become more realistic. Two factors that cause self-view to remain unrealistic are dysfunctional interactions with parents that can be either excessive attention or a lack thereof. For example but not limited to, the excessive attention and lack of attention go hand in hand when a child’s parents are divorced. Usually, one is overindulgent (typically the one seeing the child less) and the other shows less affection.[6] The child either compensates for lack of attention or acts in terms of unrealistic self-perception.[10] > An extensive US survey found a high association with other disabilities, especially amongst men: mental disability, substance use, mood, anxiety disorders and other personality disorders, bipolar I disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, and schizotypal and borderline personality disorders were among the associated disabilities.[11]
Meta joined in and replied with this 12 years ago, 5 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#490,397
@OP
She wants to control you and keep you on a leash. Tell her to get fucked.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 12 years ago, 8 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#490,398
I'd quit and get in a normal, healthy relationship.
Anonymous C replied with this 12 years ago, 20 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#490,399
@490,431 (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
I know normal girls I just dont date them.
@previous (G)
It's sort of a complicated. "I have feelings for you, but I dont want to be with you, but I want to be sexual with you, and I do care about you." Etc. type scenarios. Also she keeps saying it bothers her that she cares about me because usually she doesnt care about people at all. She's mad that when Im sad she gets sad too. Which I guess is nice, but odd. I think she's just growing up, and in a few years time will hopefully be in a healthy situation and look back at her teen years and laugh a bit.
Meta replied with this 12 years ago, 16 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,450
@490,431 (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
Crazies attract each other with subconscious cues or some kind of pheromone. In all likelihood, John feels a normal woman would be too bland and boring. He doesn't want a cubicle job, a McMansion, stepford wife, 2.5 kids and a minivan, he wants to do rails of coke off the stomach of a narcissistic stripper in an alley behind a packed nightclub until dawn.
@previous (postmortem !!Qe8ScDbX+)
Seriously, tell Kirby to get fucked (apparently she's had no trouble with that since she left you).
postmortem !!Qe8ScDbX+ (OP) replied with this 12 years ago, 39 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,456
@previous (Meta)
Thats actually really accurate in fact I feel a need for drama I even like ill stir up issues just because im bored.
@previous (Meta)
Ive actually done a lot more than she has. But yeah
Anonymous C replied with this 12 years ago, 25 seconds later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,457
@490,450 (Meta)
You were so close. He wants to do those rails in the middle of the VIP section with 9001 adoring groupies surrounding him.
postmortem !!Qe8ScDbX+ (OP) replied with this 12 years ago, 3 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,459
@previous (C)
Yes!!!! Make it happen cap'n. No my real dream is to be God.
Anonymous C replied with this 12 years ago, 1 minute later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,461
HaikerensGuide !dBGi/iH4eY joined in and replied with this 12 years ago, 1 minute later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,463
Walk it off, Elliot!
Meta replied with this 12 years ago, 49 seconds later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,465
@490,457 (C) @490,459 (postmortem !!Qe8ScDbX+)
No, you want to be in the alley. The people inside the packed club are brainwashed shits worshipping the mirage of popularity, You're better than them, ergo you must remove to the secluded alley just as the real golden gods remove themselves from the mass of prole sheep.
HaikerensGuide !dBGi/iH4eY replied with this 12 years ago, 2 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,466
@previous (Meta)
False dichotomy. You are a virgin.
Meta replied with this 12 years ago, 2 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,467
@previous (HaikerensGuide !dBGi/iH4eY)
72 of them, in fact.
(Edited 26 seconds later.)
Anonymous C replied with this 12 years ago, 2 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,469
@490,465 (Meta)
Damn, that’s next level shit. Why an alley and not a luxury washroom, private lounge, or personal office?
Meta replied with this 12 years ago, 4 minutes later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#490,473
@previous (C)
Because it's more ironic that way. The dumb club sheep will all be doing it next year.
green joined in and replied with this 12 years ago, 1 day later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#490,723
@OP
Dude, forget Kirby. You're attractive enough to get any girl you want. I wish you all the best.