Topic: How do I not get jealous?

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk started this discussion 13 years ago #28,761

Okay, so one of the major downfalls of my relationship with lexi last tine around was jealousy. I would look at the photos she'd put up online, and freak out about guys fawning over her. Now we are following each other again on instagram, and the photos are there and I am A okay with it, I even think it's kind of awesome that I have a girlfriend that gets guys obsessing over her, makes me feel cool.

But someone asked her out on a date, and she said yes, I don't know if it ever actually happened though. And she calls everyone "sweetie", "love", and "hun", now I know none of this should bother me, we were broken up, whatever happened happened, and I should just be glad I have her now. But something in me that I think is very primitive is very bothered by it, and it makes me anxious, and nauseated.

So, knowing it would be stupid of me to start contlict over it, or even bring it up, how do I deal with my jealousy?

Syntax joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later[^] [v] #423,771

This one is so easy to reply2

So she went out on date/dates

A reminder You yes YOU2 went out on Date/Dates

Even Steven so get over it.

Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,773

Confront her and ask her about it. Ask what those guys meant.

doctor dw md !jdTkvovFCQ joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 25 seconds later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,774

im jealous of ryan gosling what do i do?

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 7 seconds later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,775

@423,771 (Syntax)
I wen't on one date like months ago, and she was NOT happy about it. But yeah, you're basically right.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 58 seconds later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,776

@423,773 (C)
Bad idea, that's whinier than I want tobe.

@423,774 (doctor dw md !jdTkvovFCQ)
Defeat him!

Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 9 seconds later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,777

One technique used by ancient Buddhist monks to control their jealousy was to use the hands of loved ones as stress balls. Highly effective, by all accounts.

doctor dw md !jdTkvovFCQ replied with this 13 years ago, 25 seconds later, 10 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,778

@423,776 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
poor idea

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 32 seconds later, 10 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,779

@423,777 (Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx)
Thought wen't into that, I have to acknowledge that

Syntax replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,780

@423,777 (Killer Lettuce !!iNo3FkiZx)
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

-Buddha

Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 13 minutes later, 27 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,785

Punch her in the jaw.

Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 8 minutes later, 36 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,791

Sorry, bud. She's seeing a bigger, better man behind your back. I wouldn't expect you to be able to pick up on this, though it is the obvious truth.

doctor dw md !jdTkvovFCQ replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 38 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,796

doctor dw md !jdTkvovFCQ double-posted this 13 years ago, 44 seconds later, 39 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,797

doctor dw md !jdTkvovFCQ triple-posted this 13 years ago, 34 seconds later, 40 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,798

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 44 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,800

@423,791 (G)
Nah, I've seen photos of him, he is less pretty than I am. And I don't think she is seeing him.

(Edited 28 seconds later.)

Anonymous H joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 12 minutes later, 57 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #423,811

http://minichan.org/topic/22282

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 16 hours later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,962

Okay, so it turns out she did go on a date with that guy. She claims that she's with me, and not him because she prefers me, and that it "just wasn't the same" with him. I am no longer envious. In fact I am kind of happy shewen't on the date before she had never even been on a date with anyone else, and I had a deep buried concern that she would leave me just to see what it's like to be with other people.She wen't out with someone else,and now she's mine, she came back and I have nothing to worry about. I amhappy.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 18 minutes later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,964

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)

She's fucking him. He has a bigger cock than you too, so she's always gagging for more. You'll only be second best to her.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 12 minutes later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,968

@previous (C)
Lol I doubt it. She didn't have sex with him, and even if she did I strongly doubt that he was even close to as good as me.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,970

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
An epileptic meerkat would be better than you.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 6 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,971

@previous (C)
Nope, sorry. You're just mad because I have an attractive girlfriend, and you are sad and alone.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 11 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,973

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)

At least I've never broken my girlfriend's hand.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 7 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,975

@previous (C)
Neither have I, and you don't have a girlfriend who's hand you could break.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 8 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,977

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
When I had one I didn't. And you admitted you broke her hand you lying sack of shit.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 4 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,978

@previous (C)
No, you idiot, accidentally squeezing someone's hand hard enough to make them feel uncomfortable, and breaking someone's hand are two different things. If you really don't see the difference then you are a dangerous individual.

What you are saying is that you weren't good enough for a girl, and my girl came back to me. I am clearly the winner here.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,980

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)

My ex and I broke up loads, but we got back together. Eventually she's going to get sick of your shit. Also, in the many years I have been coming here I have never seen a poster who is a bigger asshole than you. You make TCO, to4str and Matt look like disciples of Jesus.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 7 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,985

@previous (C)
I don't think so, I can make things work because I am not an idiot. You are more than welcome to your hissy fit, but the fact remains that my life is infinitely better than your's, and you are massively envious. Sure you can write me off as an asshole, but the fact remains that I won, and you lost.

Anonymous H replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,987

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
You failed out of community college. For fuck's sake.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 57 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,989

@423,985 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)

I'm not having a hissy fit. You haven't won anything. You're a deluded loser.

Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,991

@423,987 (H)
But he also managed to manipulate an 18 year old girl into staying in an unhappy and unstable relationship with him so that makes him superior to everyone else.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,993

@423,987 (H)
Not really, I got super depressed and failed classes because of it. I am going back next semester. I am in the middle of starting my own business, I have a girlfriend, I make money, life is working out for me.

@423,989 (C)
I won at being a better person than you. Because you are sore about someone you see as a bad person having a better time of life than you are.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,994

@423,991 (I)
Lol okay bud, I'm sure you know all about my relationship. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but we are both very happy. Oh, and she thinks all of you are gross, I don't think that, I just think you're all losers.

Anonymous H replied with this 13 years ago, 46 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,995

@423,993 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
What's your business?

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 22 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,996

@423,993 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
I'll be honest, I'm not sore, I just don't give a fuck about you or your oversized ego. Stop thinking anybody here gives 2 shits about you. You're nothing but a narcissistic asshole.

Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,997

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 9 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,998

@423,995 (H)
It's a website for local performers. Basically you pay to get listed on the site, you can make a profile with your going rate, samples of your work, etc. You can pay extra if you want a premium listing which will bump you to the top of search results, and allow more customization of profiles. Free accounts will also be available, but supported by ads.

It will be a place for bookers to look for performers, and performers to list themselves, and network more efficiently.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #423,999

@423,996 (C)
You decided to attack me, and I responded. You're the one attacking people, I believe that makes you the narcissistic asshole.

beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao replied with this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,000

@423,998 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
So basically, a shittier myspace that you have to pay to use?

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,001

@423,999 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)

You need to read up the definition of narcissistic. I am just an angry anon.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 5 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,002

@424,000 (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
No, because it's specifically local, and specifically for performers. It's much more niche than something like Myspace. If anything it's like a pay-to-use craigslist for performers.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,003

@424,001 (C)
Your ego is huge, and your delusions of grandeur are quite blatant.

beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao replied with this 13 years ago, 4 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,004

@424,002 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
So even less useful than Myspace. Got it.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,005

@previous (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
Lol it doesn't even have the same function as Myspace. This is a strange comparison that you are trying to make.

beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao replied with this 13 years ago, 48 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,006

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
So basically, a Myspace for narcissists? Cool.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,007

@previous (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
Wouldn't that just be Myspace?

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 54 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,008

@424,003 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)

>I strongly doubt that he was even close to as good as me.
> but the fact remains that my life is infinitely better than your's, and you are massively envious
And then there's this thread http://minichan.org/topic/28734
So you can shut your face and masturbate in front of a mirror you egotistical douchebag.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 8 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,011

@previous (C)
Yeah, I'm a good looking guy. Thanks for reminding me.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 4 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,012

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)

Your face resembles a horse. You could use your chin as a hammer.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 30 minutes later, 20 hours after the original post[^] [v] #424,013

@previous (C)
Lol okay guy.

Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 1 day later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,300

Gr8 thread

Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 8 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,301

@424,011 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Honestly, as a neutral female, I think you should know that you are NOT particularly handsome. The top of your head is waaay wider than it should be, and your jaw is oddly narrow. Not saying you could never get a chick with your looks, because you definitely could get a girl who doesn't have many other options. But you say you're handsome and post pictures of yourself frequently and that's annoying because you're truly not. So there you go.

Anonymous B replied with this 13 years ago, 9 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,302

@previous (L)
> neutral female

How much ugly are you?

Anonymous L replied with this 13 years ago, 6 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,303

@previous (B)
68%

Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 31 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,305

@OP

Suicide might help.

Anonymous K replied with this 13 years ago, 36 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,309

@424,301 (L)
As another female, I have to agree.

Anonymous N joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 4 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,334

Anonymous O joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 4 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,347

@424,309 (K)
as a gaynigger, thats a third

doctor dw md !jdTkvovFCQ replied with this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,349

@424,011 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
As a doctor medical doctor mdi agree with anonymous L, K and O

Anonymous I replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,353

@424,301 (L)
As an autistic basement dwelling nerdvirgin I agree with you and everyone who agrees with you

Anonymous P joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,361

@424,004 (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
> implying Myspace is useful.

Even Tom gave up on that idea.

postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 1 day later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,520

@424,301 (L)
You do know attractiveness is subjective, right? Yeah, I know I'm not one of those guys that's impossibly flawless, I'm not going to be modeling for Armani any time soon, but people do find me attractive.

Anonymous H replied with this 13 years ago, 26 minutes later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,531

@previous (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Those people are called "queers." THanks.

Anonymous O replied with this 13 years ago, 10 hours later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,585

@previous (H)
no, queers find the same things hot as females, those people are in a hole under the bottom rung of the ladder

Anonymous Q joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 22 minutes later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,587

@424,520 (postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Lol you're some worthless piece of shit aspie nobody. You're fucking gum on the bottom of my shoe clammoring for my attention. You are nobody, you will never be as good as me, ever, fact is, people do like me, a lot of people do. The people who don't like me are losers such as yourself who know they will never have a life like mine.

Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 31 minutes later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,589

@previous (Q)

Postmortem's life consists of posting on Minichan about his unstable relationship and how much of a sad, worthless sack of shit he really is.

Anonymous Q replied with this 13 years ago, 30 minutes later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,591

@previous (C)
He feeds on us talking about how psychologically wounded he is... He dismisses us, but the more we comment and talk about him the more important he feels. It's sad really.

squeegee joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,605

@previous (Q)
This

squeegee double-posted this 13 years ago, 35 minutes later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,608

Sorry, I just get irritated when people constantly talk about themselves all the time as if the world would stop revolving and fling everything into outerspace if they died.

Also I think all of the problems he incessantly worries about are childish and prove he has the emotional and interpersonal skills of a 15 or 16 year old.

Id say more but I really don't care about his silly little problems and anyway id hate to encourage this sort of wholesale faggotry

Anonymous F replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,612

@op

You're a wanker

Anonymous O replied with this 13 years ago, 4 hours later, 4 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,637

1. squeeze out a log
2. freeze log
3. stab other guy to death with the pointed end of the frozen log.
4. fuck hole in corpse while inserting frozen log up your anus. let log melt
5. squeeze log out into gfs mouth while shes bound.
6. ???
7. Profit!

Edit: your probably too pussy to do it so you should probably kill yourself.

(Edited 4 minutes later.)

Raiden joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 18 hours later, 5 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,716

Op so what? My GF calls EVERYONE bans or hunny, especially her kids and siblings - was jealous at first but I was the only one she said... certain things to so don't worry man, some people are like that is all. Or you could see a hypnotist to get rid of your jealousy

Raiden double-posted this 13 years ago, 19 minutes later, 5 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,717

@previous (Raiden)
Bans? I meant BABE! Bloody phone lol

Anonymous T joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 5 days after the original post[^] [v] #424,726

@424,612 (F)
This.