Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk started this discussion 13 years ago#28,360
I don't know what to do. I can't stand being ignored, and I can't stand losing. I lost, I lost Cupcake, and she still won't talk to me. It's not even about heart ache anymore, I just can't believe someone could just discard me after I put so much into them, after I loved them.
I am great, I am handsome, charming, intelligent, adventurous, and so many other terrific things. She was LUCKY to be able to date me.
Part of me thinks I should forget it, move on, that's healthy. But part of me absolutely refuses to let it go, it's not just about extravagent gifts, and professions of love either. If I can't get her to talk to me in a sweet/loving way I have no problem making life difficult for her. I will not, will not, just be discarded. Either we both win, or I win and she loses, or we both lose. If I go down, a lot of people will go down with me.
Believe me, I love her, but I don't know if I can even let someone I love do this to me.
beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 54 seconds later[^][v]#419,617
You're a terrible person, bud.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 54 seconds later, 1 minute after the original post[^][v]#419,619
yeah you are like the worst person i can think of
Anonymous C double-posted this 13 years ago, 20 seconds later, 2 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,620
i can't stand this
i'm never coming back to minichan because of this post
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 46 seconds later, 2 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,621
@419,617 (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
Just, how dare someone not do what I want? I get what I want, I am John fucking Hyde. Either I get what I want or someone's going to pay.I mean, I'll compromise, but I'm not gonna just be tossed aside.
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Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,623
@419,619 (C)
The worst? You are lucky I replied to your bullshit comment.
HaikerensGuide !dBGi/iH4eY joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 5 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,624
Breakups suck, but it is much better than trying to keep a strained on-again-off-again relationship alive. Let her go and find another woman. I dated a girl for a year and a half, and we were best friends since middle school, and then it collapsed almost instantly right around the holiday season. I still got over it, and now my current girlfriend is much nicer to me and I can actually discuss things on an intellectual level since she isn't a dumb fucking bimbo with an iq of 90 like my ex.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later, 11 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,625
@previous (HaikerensGuide !dBGi/iH4eY)
I should just let it go? I mean, I am so angry. I am not even really sad anymore, just pissed. I can't describe it well, but I am just infuriated that someone would put me through this.
Syntax joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 19 seconds later, 11 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,626
> I lost, I lost Cupcake, and she still won't talk to me
I figured this topic was like couple months old but no no no
Postmortem R U Re-cycle bin ur posts?
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later, 17 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,628
@previous (Syntax)
Every time I use my cologne, or put on a tshirt she got me, or use my popcorn maker, or pass by menchie's or the cheesecake factory, or starbucks, or drive my car, or go by Birra Poretti's I think of her, every time I sleep I dream about her, and I hate it. I hate that my thoughts are plagued with her, and yet she won't even give me the timeof day. How can someone I care about so much want nothing to do with me? I don't get it.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 11 minutes later, 28 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,629
God, aren't you dead yet?
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 15 minutes later, 43 minutes after the original post[^][v]#419,630
HaikerensGuide !dBGi/iH4eY replied with this 13 years ago, 30 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#419,631
@419,625 (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Let her go. Think of it this way: it is her loss. @419,628 (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Stop it before you turn into another Steve Coran.
Morbid !Xnp/V/hD1o joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 18 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#419,632
@OP
Hey buddy. Looks like you still haven't taken my advice.
I hereby deem you as doomed, and can only recommend suicide at this point.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#419,634
@419,631 (HaikerensGuide !dBGi/iH4eY)
That is a good way of thinking about it.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 15 hours later, 16 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,746
None of this is true, I would never tryto make things difficult for her premeditated. I'll move on eventually, I still might send her some snail mail or something to at least be able to tell myself I gave it my best shot.
beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 17 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,752
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Holy shit don't send her anything. Leave her alone.
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 20 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,766
Standing beneath her window with a boombox is a better idea.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 6 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,777
@419,752 (beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao)
Honestly, everytime we've broken up before when we finally talked again I was always accused of not texting/calling enough. Last 3 week span of ignoring me "You only sent 1 e-mail to me". When she ignores me she expects me to call her a bunch, and gets upset if I don't. She doesn't enjoy depressive, or guilt trip shit, but she reeeally reeeeally wants to feel like she's wanted, and valuable. This was the first time I didn't absolutely go all out, and send her gifts/flowers/cards, etc. And look where it landed me. You have to trust me when I say that I know a little about my ex, and how her mind works.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,781
Best case scenario: She thinks it's sweet, calls me, and we start talking again.
Worst case scenario: she doesn't reply,and maybe feels slightly awkward.Or maybe one of her parents calls me, and tells me to cut the shit.Both of those not too bad.
beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao replied with this 13 years ago, 46 seconds later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,783
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Or she calls the police and you die in a police shootout. That wouldn't be bad, either.
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,784
Did you two have sex?
squeegee joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,785
@previous (J)
Of course. Teenagers are only this dramatic over people they screw.
Protip: this won't be your last or only breakup. Either get used to it, or give up and go stalk her already.
Killer Lettuce replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,788
Go to her house, hide in the bushes, stare through her window and masturbate. She will take you back if you do this.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 13 seconds later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,789
Gameplan: send a letter or some small gift to her house like once every few days. Not only will she see it, but so will her parents. I'll do it periodically enough, and make the letters romantic enough that it seems sweet, and not creepy/desperate. I'll also make the gifts less frequent, and inexpensive, and the letters sweet, but nonchalant and conversational to further make myself look like the guy who really really cares, and not the desperate loser. It'll be hard to pull off, but I have a feeling I can do it. My angle is: "my life is awesome, would be twice as awesome if you could join".
Killer Lettuce replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,790
> my life is awesome > makes 20 threads on Minichan crying about cupcakes
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 52 seconds later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,791
@419,785 (squeegee)
I also happen to be an especially dramatic person. It's my forte, really.There are positive and negative aspects to it.
@419,788 (Killer Lettuce)
I'd take me back. That takes guts, and shows you care. Seriously, if I broke up with someone and I caught them masturbating in my bushes, I'd second think my decision.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) double-posted this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,792
@419,790 (Killer Lettuce)
I'm just bored. Kids are having free time. I have money, friends, a car, I am actually looking at apartments and am all set to move out by summer's end,I'm getting into comedy, and music with people who want to do both with me. Yeah, I'm still hung up on a girl, but life isn't all bad.
Unintentional Jackass !LASXURl1b6 joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,795
If someone who I'd just ended a relationship with started sending things to my home address I'd be scared and take it as a threat. Like a constant reminder of "he knows where I live and where I keep the spare key"
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,800
@previous (Unintentional Jackass !LASXURl1b6)
I live like 10 mins from her. And if she asked me to stop I would stop. Our relationship was also super on again/off again, so it's not like me chasing her is anything to be unexpected. Every other break up that I've sent something to her she enjoyed it.
Unintentional Jackass !LASXURl1b6 replied with this 13 years ago, 4 minutes later, 18 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,811
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Right, right. Why are you pursuing a relationship in which you have enough breakups that you can say "every other break up"?
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 11 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,832
@previous (Unintentional Jackass !LASXURl1b6)
Love, and also my hatred of the idea ofme being the one rejected.
squeegee replied with this 13 years ago, 41 seconds later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,833
@419,800 (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
But... she has asked you to stop. She broke up with you. You can't ask anyone to stop any harder than that. Take a hint.
If she wanted gifts from you and letter then she wouldn't have left you in the first place.
Don't you see by stalking and pestering her with gifts that you are trying to force her to communicate with you, even if it is to make you stop. If she wanted to communicate with you, she would call you. What you want is to manipulate her into initiating contact, probably to satisy some narcissistic need to have her be the one to call you. Anyway, it's painfully obvious that you are beside yourself with loss and grief over losing her, but refuse to accept that it really is over-which explains your last desperate attepmts to make cupcake call you.
Get over it, bro. You're only making it harder on yourself.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 6 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,839
@previous (squeegee)
This has worked before, why not again? But yeah, unfortunately, I see your point. I'm just so hurt, and I don't know what to do with myself. I feel really weird, and creepy for still being so obsessed, I feel like a loser because I'm still not moving on. I knowhow fucked up, and psychotic I appear. I'll probably talk about it in my stand up routine though.
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squeegee !first/o5zA joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 6 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,840
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
no, dude, all of that is normal. You are perfectly normal. you need to stop thinking you're so damn special that you're vastly different from other people. you are exactly the same as everyone else. everyone gets heartbroken, everyone want what they desire, there is nothing abnormal about that. constantly thinking you somehow experience things more, or differently, or more intensely that other people is the root of your problem. once you understand that, and get it through your skull that you're just like other people, THEN you can actually have meaningful relationships with people where they do MORE than just satisfy your needs.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,841
@previous (squeegee !first/o5zA)
I was more referencing the fact that a lot of people on here think I'm a narcissist or whatever. And I've just never been so melancholy about a break up, I'm not used to it. I'm used to getting over things quickly, which I know also isn't abnormal.
beckyderp !8ElfFaoFao replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,842
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
We think you're a narcissist because you're a narcissist. Thanks.
squeegee !first/o5zA replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,843
@419,841 (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
there you go again, thinking what i said was about something else, and not you. I'm talking about how you feel (weird, creepy for still being so obsessed). you think it's weird, or abnormal, or different from how regular folks would feel, accept that everyone would feel that way, you're not that super special and unique, and you do experience things like everyone else. you're just a girl about it. why assume any criticism of you must be either a misunderstanding or about something else.
Anonymous N joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 2 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,844
@419,849 (N)
Not even all that much so, not to any absurd extreme, anyway. A lot of people on here are quick to tell me to kill myself, say I'm a narcissist or even "serial killer material", all of that is just as melodramatic as the things I say.
cupcake replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,860
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 8 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,863
@previous (cupcake)
This is actually something Cupcake might do, and I have to pause for a moment. It would be ultra shitty to completely ignore me, and then just make fun of me online. Whoever you are though, The jokes on you bats, I think the caption is funny and I will be uploading to my instagram shortly.
Anonymous O joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 5 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,868
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Looks like postmortem wins again!
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 17 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^][v]#419,875
@previous (O)
Seriously though, as it stands Cupcake is okay by me. I am upset with her, sure, but I still think she's a good person, and I love her. She should not attempt to get on my bad side, I do not, and will not play "tit for tat". Iknow she wouldnt though, shes too smart, and too sweet for that.
Anonymous N replied with this 13 years ago, 2 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#419,920
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
Damn, you just sounded like Bert.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 16 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#419,929
In @419,841 (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk) you referenced yourself 6 times, and in the OP I count 30 times.
When a narcissist can't have what he wants, he tends to turn nasty, and threaten to ruin others and hurt them. It's actually kind of funny how you can profess your love for her while spouting that crap. You have a twisted definition of love that borders on possessiveness
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 45 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#419,969
@previous (Unintentional Jackass !LASXURl1b6)
No, as it stands with her just ignoringme I am fine. I would only be opposed to her doing something against me.
Anonymous N replied with this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#419,972
@previous (Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk)
First paragraph of this thread. Are you lying now, or then?
Anonymous N double-posted this 13 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#419,975
> If I can't get her to talk to me in a sweet/loving way I have no problem making life difficult for her. I will not, will not, just be discarded...If I go down, a lot of people will go down with me.
Yeah you don't sound psycho or anything.
Postmortem !!FVJOHfXUk (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#419,980
@previous (N)
I just get in moods, I get pissed off or upset and handle things poorly. I use anger or superiority as a defense mechanism. Deep down I am just a regular person. I'm not very consistent, it isn't a lie, I just change moods a lot.