Topic: The way girls are with me.
Poststarnumberuno started this discussion 13 years ago #28,164
So, I've noticed a running pattern or theme in my life, I'm not really sure what to call it, but this is basically it: Most people are pretty neutral about my existence, maybe they like me enough to be my friend, maybe they dislike me enough to intentionally avoid me, but most people are just kind of "Oh yeah, that guy, he's alright." towards me.
However, usually there's one individual who is head over heels in love with me, and infatuated with everything that I do. Cupcake, obviously, is the most recent example of this phenomenon in my life. Unfortunately 99 percent of the time I can not stand this person. Sure, I will exploit them for personal gain like any rational minded person would do, but I do not really return any of their adoration or love. Although, and this may be seen as something in bad taste, I say that I do. Lexi was the first person I actually felt real love for, or at least how I define love.
Anyway, the bit about me loving Lexi isn't really the point. The point is I have one person who is infatuated with me, and then 9 times out of 10 they eventually despise my very existence or at least take extra care to avoid me like I'm a danger of some kind. People go from "You're the most amazing person I've ever met" to "I hate you, you're a fucking sociopath" or something similar, it usually takes about a year, maybe a little more or less. Sometimes they are upstanding citizens and just walk away, and never look back, and sometimes I back out before they get to hating me, which usually triggers a bit of resentment towards me.
Okay, so, 3rd party that doesn't particularly like me. What is it that makes a small minority of people obsessed with me then eventually hate my very being? What am I doing right initially, and then what am I inevitably doing wrong?
Maybe in order to like me you have to be crazy, and crazy isn't known for its stability.
However, usually there's one individual who is head over heels in love with me, and infatuated with everything that I do. Cupcake, obviously, is the most recent example of this phenomenon in my life. Unfortunately 99 percent of the time I can not stand this person. Sure, I will exploit them for personal gain like any rational minded person would do, but I do not really return any of their adoration or love. Although, and this may be seen as something in bad taste, I say that I do. Lexi was the first person I actually felt real love for, or at least how I define love.
Anyway, the bit about me loving Lexi isn't really the point. The point is I have one person who is infatuated with me, and then 9 times out of 10 they eventually despise my very existence or at least take extra care to avoid me like I'm a danger of some kind. People go from "You're the most amazing person I've ever met" to "I hate you, you're a fucking sociopath" or something similar, it usually takes about a year, maybe a little more or less. Sometimes they are upstanding citizens and just walk away, and never look back, and sometimes I back out before they get to hating me, which usually triggers a bit of resentment towards me.
Okay, so, 3rd party that doesn't particularly like me. What is it that makes a small minority of people obsessed with me then eventually hate my very being? What am I doing right initially, and then what am I inevitably doing wrong?
Maybe in order to like me you have to be crazy, and crazy isn't known for its stability.
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squeegee !first/o5zA joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 5 hours later[^] [v] #417,599
> maybe it's everyone else who has the problem, and not me, even though the common variable throughout is me, and only me. > but it couldn't me be.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 4 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,601
What you're doing right initially: paying attention to the other person.
What you're doing wrong: not being genuine. In time they correctly conclude you're a user who's not really all that interested in them, merely what they can do for you.
What you're doing wrong: not being genuine. In time they correctly conclude you're a user who's not really all that interested in them, merely what they can do for you.
Morbid joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 2 hours later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,620
You're problem is you over think and type up novels. Keep a journal, stop over thinking so much and go with the flow.
Poststarnumberuno (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 3 hours later, 11 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,644
@417,599 (squeegee !first/o5zA)
Clearly didn't read what I wrote.
I specifically ask what I am doing right/wrong in my post.
@417,601 (C)
That makes sense for everyone except Lexi. I loved and still love Lexi near unconditionally yet she is gone just like the rest of them.
Clearly didn't read what I wrote.
I specifically ask what I am doing right/wrong in my post.
@417,601 (C)
That makes sense for everyone except Lexi. I loved and still love Lexi near unconditionally yet she is gone just like the rest of them.
squeegee joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 55 minutes later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,667
@previous (Poststarnumberuno)
It's how you percieve things thats the problem. Its not that people treat you a certain way, its that you percieve them to be treating you a certain way.
All of the things you said are fantasy and do not reflect reality. You just think its real.
It's how you percieve things thats the problem. Its not that people treat you a certain way, its that you percieve them to be treating you a certain way.
All of the things you said are fantasy and do not reflect reality. You just think its real.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 30 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,672
lol
Poststarnumberuno (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 25 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,690
squeegee replied with this 13 years ago, 13 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,694
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 37 minutes later, 14 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,696
You annoy me a lot. Why do you have to overanalyze it? Be the best person you can be, and treat people how they deserve to be treated. This whiney essay you wrote about it is so unnecessary. God, I hate you.
Meta !PARAdoxiHw joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 15 minutes later, 14 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,699
@OP> However, usually there's one individual who is head over heels in love with me, and infatuated with everything that I do.
> 99 percent of the time I can not stand this person
> I will exploit them for personal gain
> I do not really return any of their adoration or love
> then 9 times out of 10 they eventually despise my very existence
Poststarnumberuno (OP) replied with this 13 years ago, 1 hour later, 16 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,715
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 13 years ago, 6 minutes later, 16 hours after the original post[^] [v] #417,716
@previous (Poststarnumberuno)
Yes. If you want to make a change, you've got to start with the man in the mirror...
Yes. If you want to make a change, you've got to start with the man in the mirror...
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Anonymous C replied with this 13 years ago, 12 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #417,768
@417,694 (squeegee)
But is your consciousness a product of Earth or Earth a product of your consciousness?
But is your consciousness a product of Earth or Earth a product of your consciousness?
Anonymous C double-posted this 13 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #417,769
@417,715 (Poststarnumberuno)
> thinks all people deserve to be murdered.
> wonders why people don't like him.
> probably not a genius.
> thinks all people deserve to be murdered.
> wonders why people don't like him.
> probably not a genius.
Anonymous G replied with this 13 years ago, 9 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #417,821
@417,715 (Poststarnumberuno)
No, fuckface. The fact that "kill everyone" is your first reaction is so telling. I know you're trying to seem like the angsty I-hate-everyone-and-everything guy right now, but... just stop. Honestly, dude. No one wants to hear your retarded bullshit.
If you're going to ask for serious advice, then you need to be serious too.
No, fuckface. The fact that "kill everyone" is your first reaction is so telling. I know you're trying to seem like the angsty I-hate-everyone-and-everything guy right now, but... just stop. Honestly, dude. No one wants to hear your retarded bullshit.
If you're going to ask for serious advice, then you need to be serious too.
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