Topic: My boyfriend sucks and is kind of a baby.
Anonymous A started this discussion 14 years ago #20,661
Or maybe I'm just mean. In any case, I don't like him that much. But we haven't been together for that long.Is it better to wait a few more weeks and see how things go, or break up with him now before he gets too attached? If he gets attached at all, that is. Like I said, I'm pretty mean. so who knows.
Pic not related.
Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 5 minutes later[^] [v] #333,390
Change him from a baby to a baby daddy. Get knocked up!
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 7 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #333,391
OP are you sure you aren't describing Leonidas?
Green !BUMYoLEjfQ joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 4 minutes later, 11 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #333,392
Wait.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 9 seconds later, 12 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #333,393
@333,391 (C)
haha no this is a real life relationship. I can see how you might interpret that, though.
haha no this is a real life relationship. I can see how you might interpret that, though.
Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #333,394
OP sounds like astromermaid, but I'd be pleased if OP was male. And I'd be extremely happy if OP was Green who has a boyfriend now who doesn't know Green is a man.
Gunlog !GUNLOGLpjk joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 5 hours later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #333,456
Dump that loser.
Ks !KansasxqvM joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #333,461
@OPCarl Sagan is always related.
But anyways, don't waste any more time, end it now. Today. Be nice about it, but get it over with. Good luck.
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #333,467
@OP
> Like I said, I'm pretty mean. so who knows.
Best you dump him. Mean girls will only end up with mean men. And learn to suck because.......Its you job not your boyfriends.
> Like I said, I'm pretty mean. so who knows.
Best you dump him. Mean girls will only end up with mean men. And learn to suck because.......Its you job not your boyfriends.
Anonymous H joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #333,468
Anonymous G replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #333,469
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 23 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,598
He's never gonna be attractive to you because you already have him. Mean girls (and homos) don't want a man for themselves, they want a man to fuck some other bitch over.
Cheat on him with a middle-aged married dude who promises he'll leave his wife "someday." You'll fall instantly in love.
Cheat on him with a middle-aged married dude who promises he'll leave his wife "someday." You'll fall instantly in love.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 4 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,644
@previous (I)
Nah, that's not true. I've been in love before and it was with someone that I already had.
Nah, that's not true. I've been in love before and it was with someone that I already had.
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 9 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,647
@333,394 (Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU)
> OP sounds like astromermaid
I expecting OP to be to4str and his "boyfriend" to be literally "kind of a baby".
> OP sounds like astromermaid
I expecting OP to be to4str and his "boyfriend" to be literally "kind of a baby".
Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,663
I'm curious, what makes him suck and how are you mean to him?
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squeegee joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 4 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,668
@previous (K)
Inb4 self-centered and narcissistic reply (that is likely wholy self serving, one sided and biased.)
Inb4 self-centered and narcissistic reply (that is likely wholy self serving, one sided and biased.)
Anonymous K replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,673
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,685
@333,663 (K)
He's really clingy/needy. We've not even been officially dating for one month and he's already talking about "soulmates" and weird stuff like that. He's older and more experienced than me, and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had which bothers me to no end. We disagree about almost everything. He's self-centered and has a huge ego. He thinks he knows about stuff when he really 75% of the time has no idea what he's talking about. So maybe baby is the wrong word, but he's childish.
In the interest of fairness, though, he's also handsome and intelligent and infinitely kind to me. He is a good guy overall, but he just rubs me the wrong way sometimes.
I'm mean in that I get annoyed at him easily. If he gets too sappy I kinda just ignore him. If I say something that bothers him I make sure to say it again in the near future. I'm not as kind as I should be.
@333,668 (squeegee)
Shut up bro, you dont KNOW me
He's really clingy/needy. We've not even been officially dating for one month and he's already talking about "soulmates" and weird stuff like that. He's older and more experienced than me, and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had which bothers me to no end. We disagree about almost everything. He's self-centered and has a huge ego. He thinks he knows about stuff when he really 75% of the time has no idea what he's talking about. So maybe baby is the wrong word, but he's childish.
In the interest of fairness, though, he's also handsome and intelligent and infinitely kind to me. He is a good guy overall, but he just rubs me the wrong way sometimes.
I'm mean in that I get annoyed at him easily. If he gets too sappy I kinda just ignore him. If I say something that bothers him I make sure to say it again in the near future. I'm not as kind as I should be.
@333,668 (squeegee)
Shut up bro, you dont KNOW me
Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 2 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,698
dump him, he sounds like a regular d-bag with few redeeming qualities
disregard his feelings
disregard his feelings
Anonymous N joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 14 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,704
"Infinitely kind" ≠"self-centered"
"intelligent" ≠"75% of the time has no idea what he's talking about"
Pick a side and commit.
He's insecure and clingy. We know that. Takes two to tango.
What are you? Distant comes to mind so far. Afraid of something?
"intelligent" ≠"75% of the time has no idea what he's talking about"
Pick a side and commit.
He's insecure and clingy. We know that. Takes two to tango.
What are you? Distant comes to mind so far. Afraid of something?
Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU replied with this 14 years ago, 30 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,722
@OP
> He's ... more experienced than me, and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had
Do your makeup sessions end up like this? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sT0EPv3lTI0
> He's ... more experienced than me, and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had
Do your makeup sessions end up like this? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sT0EPv3lTI0
Anonymous I replied with this 14 years ago, 55 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,725
@333,704 (N)
She meant to say he doesn't make other women jealous enough of her. Hence, she has no use for him.
She meant to say he doesn't make other women jealous enough of her. Hence, she has no use for him.
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Anonymous G replied with this 14 years ago, 14 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,727
@333,685 (A)
> and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had which bothers me to no end. We disagree about almost everything. >He's self-centered and has a huge ego. He thinks he knows about stuff when he really 75% of the time has no idea what he's >talking about.
> In the interest of fairness, though, he's also handsome and intelligent and infinitely kind to me. He is a good guy overall,
In one breath he is an asshole to you. In the other breath he is infinitely kind to you.
Pardon me because back in school I learned to add and 2+2=4 ......You however add it up so differently. Do you live in a parallel universe? Up = Down & Down = Sideways.
> and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had which bothers me to no end. We disagree about almost everything. >He's self-centered and has a huge ego. He thinks he knows about stuff when he really 75% of the time has no idea what he's >talking about.
> In the interest of fairness, though, he's also handsome and intelligent and infinitely kind to me. He is a good guy overall,
In one breath he is an asshole to you. In the other breath he is infinitely kind to you.
Pardon me because back in school I learned to add and 2+2=4 ......You however add it up so differently. Do you live in a parallel universe? Up = Down & Down = Sideways.
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 40 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,728
@333,704 (N)
I mean he's self-centered but he treats me very nicely. I didn't say "infinitely kind", I said "infinitely kind to me". There's a difference. He is by no means a "kind" person, but he treats me nicely and with respect. And he's intelligent in his own field, I mean.
Distant, I guess. The only thing I'm afraid of in this situation is committing to spend my life with someone who is wrong for me.
@previous (G)
I never said he's an asshole to me. Maybe I explained it wrong. Let me try again- he has some quirks and qualities that really annoy me A WHOLE LOT. But he's never an "asshole" to me.
I mean he's self-centered but he treats me very nicely. I didn't say "infinitely kind", I said "infinitely kind to me". There's a difference. He is by no means a "kind" person, but he treats me nicely and with respect. And he's intelligent in his own field, I mean.
Distant, I guess. The only thing I'm afraid of in this situation is committing to spend my life with someone who is wrong for me.
@previous (G)
I never said he's an asshole to me. Maybe I explained it wrong. Let me try again- he has some quirks and qualities that really annoy me A WHOLE LOT. But he's never an "asshole" to me.
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Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,729
@333,725 (I)
You're so cynical. I'm not like that at all.
@333,698 (M)
> disregard his feelings
I don't think that's the right sentiment, regardless of whether I decide to stay with him or not...
You're so cynical. I'm not like that at all.
@333,698 (M)
> disregard his feelings
I don't think that's the right sentiment, regardless of whether I decide to stay with him or not...
Anonymous O joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #333,734
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astromermaid joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 5 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #333,784
hey, mang
do what your heart tells you ~
it doesn't seem like you like him very much. did you feel different about him when he courted you?
do what your heart tells you ~
it doesn't seem like you like him very much. did you feel different about him when he courted you?
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 5 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #333,956
@previous (astromermaid)
Welp I don't usually like dudes much anyway so I'm thinking maybe this is just as good as it gets. He was more charming at first though, yeah.
my heart tells me to break up with him and be lonesome and bitter forever. but I think it's leading me astray.
Welp I don't usually like dudes much anyway so I'm thinking maybe this is just as good as it gets. He was more charming at first though, yeah.
my heart tells me to break up with him and be lonesome and bitter forever. but I think it's leading me astray.
sim !!bK4Ri00GQ joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #333,960
@OP is a faggot.Anonymous G replied with this 14 years ago, 23 seconds later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #333,962
@333,956 (A)
> He is by no means a "kind" person, but he treats me nicely and with respect.
Cut your losses. He will end up not being "kind" to you. Lonesome? You just need a break. Make a list of qualities you want-need, and find what you need. Now you said you were a mean person. That could present long term problems. Work on that.
> He is by no means a "kind" person, but he treats me nicely and with respect.
Cut your losses. He will end up not being "kind" to you. Lonesome? You just need a break. Make a list of qualities you want-need, and find what you need. Now you said you were a mean person. That could present long term problems. Work on that.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #333,963
@previous (G)
> Now you said you were a mean person. That could present long term problems. Work on that.
I am. I know it's important. Think I'm better than I used to be, though.
> Now you said you were a mean person. That could present long term problems. Work on that.
I am. I know it's important. Think I'm better than I used to be, though.
Anonymous G replied with this 14 years ago, 4 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #333,965
Harley !0vJQuinnRw joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,024
astromermaid replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,027
@333,956 (A)
life is spontaneous! if you really don't like him, you should break up with him. Remaining honest about feelings isn't only beneficial to a relationship but to yourself also!
life is spontaneous! if you really don't like him, you should break up with him. Remaining honest about feelings isn't only beneficial to a relationship but to yourself also!
Anonymous S joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 5 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,174
Anonymous T joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 24 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,179
OP is a fatwhyte
Anonymous N replied with this 14 years ago, 2 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,182
@333,963 (A)
Good. Keep working on the meanness and also not being distant. Those are not qualities conducive to getting or keeping a great guy. Did you ever lose any because of that behavior?
Good. Keep working on the meanness and also not being distant. Those are not qualities conducive to getting or keeping a great guy. Did you ever lose any because of that behavior?
Anonymous J replied with this 14 years ago, 3 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,197
@333,685 (A)
> He's really clingy/needy. We've not even been officially dating for one month and he's already talking about "soulmates" and weird stuff like that. He keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had. He's self-centered and has a huge ego. He's childish.
It doesn't sound like he's a model of emotional maturity. He may have had more relationships than you or more sexual partners, but I wouldn't be so quick to think of him as more "experienced" as far as meaningful, adult relationships go. Generally (hopefully) people learn from experience and mature. It sounds like he needs to do more of that.
> In the interest of fairness, though, he's also handsome and intelligent and infinitely kind to me. He is a good guy overall
Well, that's a plus. There are a lot of douchebags out there.
> He thinks he knows about stuff when he really 75% of the time has no idea what he's talking about.
Have you played with the idea that he sometimes does this to try to look knowledgeable or capable in your eyes because he is afraid that he often doesn't and lacks confidence in the way you feel about him?
> I'm mean in that I get annoyed at him easily. If he gets too sappy I kinda just ignore him. If I say something that bothers him I make sure to say it again in the near future. I'm not as kind as I should be.
Maybe you both need a little time to mature? Perhaps it's a little early to jump into any life-altering decisions before you two can reach a more comfortable balance with each other.
Who knows? Maybe trying to force things to be more serious will blow up and end badly. Maybe working through it all together will end up with you two feeling like "soulmates". Whatever you do, enjoy it while it lasts. If you're not enjoying it, there's really no point.
> He's really clingy/needy. We've not even been officially dating for one month and he's already talking about "soulmates" and weird stuff like that. He keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had. He's self-centered and has a huge ego. He's childish.
It doesn't sound like he's a model of emotional maturity. He may have had more relationships than you or more sexual partners, but I wouldn't be so quick to think of him as more "experienced" as far as meaningful, adult relationships go. Generally (hopefully) people learn from experience and mature. It sounds like he needs to do more of that.
> In the interest of fairness, though, he's also handsome and intelligent and infinitely kind to me. He is a good guy overall
Well, that's a plus. There are a lot of douchebags out there.
> He thinks he knows about stuff when he really 75% of the time has no idea what he's talking about.
Have you played with the idea that he sometimes does this to try to look knowledgeable or capable in your eyes because he is afraid that he often doesn't and lacks confidence in the way you feel about him?
> I'm mean in that I get annoyed at him easily. If he gets too sappy I kinda just ignore him. If I say something that bothers him I make sure to say it again in the near future. I'm not as kind as I should be.
Maybe you both need a little time to mature? Perhaps it's a little early to jump into any life-altering decisions before you two can reach a more comfortable balance with each other.
Who knows? Maybe trying to force things to be more serious will blow up and end badly. Maybe working through it all together will end up with you two feeling like "soulmates". Whatever you do, enjoy it while it lasts. If you're not enjoying it, there's really no point.
Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU replied with this 14 years ago, 3 hours later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,215
@333,685 (A)
> He's older and more experienced than me, and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had which bothers me to no end.
Usually women prefer this. Are you male?
@333,956 (A)
> Welp I don't usually like dudes much anyway
I thought you were male.
If you want a long term relationship, you will want children and your own, not adopted.
> He's older and more experienced than me, and keeps talking/bragging about all the sex partners he's had which bothers me to no end.
Usually women prefer this. Are you male?
@333,956 (A)
> Welp I don't usually like dudes much anyway
I thought you were male.
If you want a long term relationship, you will want children and your own, not adopted.
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 13 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #334,219
@334,182 (N)
Yeah, unfortunately.
@334,197 (J)
Good advice, thank you. I appreciate it. I'll try to enjoy his company for now and see what happens later.
Yeah, unfortunately.
@334,197 (J)
Good advice, thank you. I appreciate it. I'll try to enjoy his company for now and see what happens later.