Topic: My girlfriend's grandmother is dying. I don't know what to do.
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 started this discussion 14 years ago #18,976
Her grandmother pretty much raised her, so for her it's almost like losing her mother. I want more than anything to be there for emotional support, but she's just sort of shutting the world out right now to cope with it. Even if I was there, I can only say or do so much. I feel like she's being stubborn and I don't think the way she's dealing with it is healthy, but I respect that she has to deal with it in her own way.Anyone else know that feeling when you want to help someone you really care about but they just sort of shut you out and will not let you help them? It's sort of like when you have a friend with a drug problem. You're not sure whether you should respect their wishes and let it go or risk pissing them off by forcing your way into the situation because you feel it's best in the long run to do something about it. It's just a shitty, helpless feeling.
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Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 10 minutes later[^] [v] #312,800
when in doubt back off
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 11 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #312,801
@previous (B)
I'm leaning that way, yeah. It just feels like shit when there's nothing you can do. I needed to vent about it.
I'm leaning that way, yeah. It just feels like shit when there's nothing you can do. I needed to vent about it.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 27 minutes later, 39 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #312,803
Minichan is not an appropriate medium to discuss this type of thing.
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 17 minutes later, 56 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #312,805
@previous (C)
For me it is, because I know everyone here better than than I know any other forum. This is my online community.
For me it is, because I know everyone here better than than I know any other forum. This is my online community.
Anonymous C replied with this 14 years ago, 22 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #312,806
@previous (Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4)
Your online community is dying, broseph. How does that feel?
Your online community is dying, broseph. How does that feel?
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Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 38 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #312,807
Men like solving problems for women. You can't solve this for her, so don't fall into approaching it like this.
She probably needs time to go through grieving and acceptance in a private way before she opens up. Just make time for her when she needs you. Take care of all the other shit she probably doesn't want to bother with right now and give her some space in the meantime.
She probably needs time to go through grieving and acceptance in a private way before she opens up. Just make time for her when she needs you. Take care of all the other shit she probably doesn't want to bother with right now and give her some space in the meantime.
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #312,808
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) double-posted this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #312,809
@312,807 (D)
Yeah, you're right. I know I can't solve it, I just want to be there for support. I'll be there when she needs me.
Yeah, you're right. I know I can't solve it, I just want to be there for support. I'll be there when she needs me.
Anonymous C replied with this 14 years ago, 7 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #312,816
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 13 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #312,833
Anonymous C replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #312,837
kook !nH6RAuX8mo joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #312,895
I would download some of her favorite movies, get her a wine cooler, and try to relax. If you can go with her to visit.
!!YBaRi3MXP joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 47 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #312,924
@previous (kook !nH6RAuX8mo)
> I would download some of her favorite movies, get her some vicodin and wine coolers, and try to relax. If you can go with her to visit.
FTFY.
> I would download some of her favorite movies, get her some vicodin and wine coolers, and try to relax. If you can go with her to visit.
FTFY.
Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #312,959
Grandparents eventually die. It's normally not something people freak out about.
kook !nH6RAuX8mo replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #312,962
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 16 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #312,970
@312,959 (Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU)
Yes, everyone dies eventually and most of us will have to deal with losing our grandparents and parents in our lifetime. It is normal to freak out about it, because it's hard to cope with. If you weren't an autistic sweaty mess you'd understand that.
For fuck sake, you bawww for months over some girl "manipulating" you over the internet, but you think it's abnormal for people to get emotional over dying relatives. Kill yourself already.
Yes, everyone dies eventually and most of us will have to deal with losing our grandparents and parents in our lifetime. It is normal to freak out about it, because it's hard to cope with. If you weren't an autistic sweaty mess you'd understand that.
For fuck sake, you bawww for months over some girl "manipulating" you over the internet, but you think it's abnormal for people to get emotional over dying relatives. Kill yourself already.
cccuuunnttt !CaTLdYmooc joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #312,993
@312,959 (Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU)
I'd just like to point out that no one would freak out if you happened to die, either. And there's no need to wait till you are a grandparent! (Not that that's a remote possibility for you.)
If you need help deciding on a method, we're here to help.
I'd just like to point out that no one would freak out if you happened to die, either. And there's no need to wait till you are a grandparent! (Not that that's a remote possibility for you.)
If you need help deciding on a method, we're here to help.
dw joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 4 hours later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,016
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 49 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,021
Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 15 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,035
@312,993 (cccuuunnttt !CaTLdYmooc)
lolonono
> If you need help deciding on a method, we're here to help.
lolonono
> If you need help deciding on a method, we're here to help.
Lee O'Nidas !nBpim1wazU replied with this 14 years ago, 2 hours later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,093
@313,016 (dw)
> Lol fuck off and die
So several people bully me in this thread and they don't lack empathy?
> Lol fuck off and die
So several people bully me in this thread and they don't lack empathy?
kook !nH6RAuX8mo replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,096
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 2 hours later, 20 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,156
She's doing much better now. One reason she's been so stressed out is because she has power of attorney and has barely been able to leave the hospital with everything that's going on, but her mom is taking over for her starting tomorrow so she'll actually get a break.
I really appreciate the support from everyone in this thread.
I really appreciate the support from everyone in this thread.
Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 8 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,157
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,158
@previous (L)
No, just an appreciating support expert. How's your Broseph expertise coming along? You seem to be devoting a lot of time to it.
No, just an appreciating support expert. How's your Broseph expertise coming along? You seem to be devoting a lot of time to it.
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Anonymous L replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,159
kook !nH6RAuX8mo replied with this 14 years ago, 35 minutes later, 21 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,161
kook !nH6RAuX8mo double-posted this 14 years ago, 21 seconds later, 21 hours after the original post[^] [v] #313,162
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 3 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #313,261
@previous (kook !nH6RAuX8mo)
Complicated family drama. They're trying to work shit out before her grandmother passes away, which is another stress factor, but things seem to be looking up.
Complicated family drama. They're trying to work shit out before her grandmother passes away, which is another stress factor, but things seem to be looking up.
Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 26 seconds later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #313,262
LICK HER CLITORIS
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 44 seconds later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #313,263
@previous (M)
Damn right. Now that's something I can call myself an expert at. :D
Damn right. Now that's something I can call myself an expert at. :D
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Anonymous M replied with this 14 years ago, 57 seconds later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #313,264
kook !nH6RAuX8mo replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #313,265
Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 5 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #313,269
@previous (kook !nH6RAuX8mo)
I don't think so. She won't talk much about the family drama. I thought she was on good terms with her mother, but apparently since her grandmother had a large role in rasing her there's something going on there.
I don't think so. She won't talk much about the family drama. I thought she was on good terms with her mother, but apparently since her grandmother had a large role in rasing her there's something going on there.
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