Topic: Perhaps this will convince you, fora.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI started this discussion 14 years ago #16,796
A bottle of Chinese wine, and a Beijing subway ticket.Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later[^] [v] #287,026
Stickied for the unbelievers.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 20 seconds later, 4 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,027
Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG replied with this 14 years ago, 38 seconds later, 4 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,028
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 6 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,029
@previous (Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG)
Thanks! So far it is good, but also a bit frightening. It is so huge, and I am usually the only Westerner in a place. They tend to stare at me lol. But, I have made three new expat friends, two from the US and one from England, and we have hung out some. Also, the people at my school should be friendly. I start Monday!
Thanks! So far it is good, but also a bit frightening. It is so huge, and I am usually the only Westerner in a place. They tend to stare at me lol. But, I have made three new expat friends, two from the US and one from England, and we have hung out some. Also, the people at my school should be friendly. I start Monday!
Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,030
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 43 seconds later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,031
Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG replied with this 14 years ago, 28 seconds later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,032
bobby2sox !!ztPBX/o0I joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 21 minutes later, 31 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,059
åšå¾—很好，先生。
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80s Comedian !jFm8S2qz66 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 32 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,062
green !6PPj7P5Iag joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 35 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,070
Ok. Now I believe! Have a good time! Try to stay in touch with us!
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 25 seconds later, 35 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,072
bobby2sox !!ztPBX/o0I replied with this 14 years ago, 22 seconds later, 36 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,073
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Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 37 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,076
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 13 minutes later, 50 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,091
@287,029 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
> I have made three new expat friends, two from the US and one from England
> go to China
> meet and spend most of time with people from the UK and USA
You're doing something wrong. Have fun.
> I have made three new expat friends, two from the US and one from England
> go to China
> meet and spend most of time with people from the UK and USA
You're doing something wrong. Have fun.
green !6PPj7P5Iag replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 52 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,092
80s Comedian !jFm8S2qz66 (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 54 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #287,093
@287,091 (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
It is very hard to meet Chinese people unless you work with them (work starts Monday). People just do not talk to each other in public unless they know each other.
It is very hard to meet Chinese people unless you work with them (work starts Monday). People just do not talk to each other in public unless they know each other.
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,137
@previous (80s Comedian !jFm8S2qz66)
That's a bullshit excuse. Do random people walk up to you on the streets anywhere in the world and start a conversation? Nope...
I get this told for every country I've been to, most recently Sweden. But guess what, when you actually approach people and try to talk to them, most will talk back...
But like I've said, have fun mate, bet China is exciting even if you're doing it wrong.
That's a bullshit excuse. Do random people walk up to you on the streets anywhere in the world and start a conversation? Nope...
I get this told for every country I've been to, most recently Sweden. But guess what, when you actually approach people and try to talk to them, most will talk back...
But like I've said, have fun mate, bet China is exciting even if you're doing it wrong.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 4 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,138
@OP
Holy shit, are you Matt Miller?
Holy shit, are you Matt Miller?
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 11 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,139
@287,137 (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
That is not what I am saying. I am saying that, like anywhere, it is hard to meet people unless you know them from work or a group.
That is not what I am saying. I am saying that, like anywhere, it is hard to meet people unless you know them from work or a group.
brie !hW6clEMVuQ joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,140
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 27 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,141
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 6 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,143
@287,139 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
And you work with the USA and UK dudes? See what I'm doing here? Being a dick? Nope...
And you work with the USA and UK dudes? See what I'm doing here? Being a dick? Nope...
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 5 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,144
@previous (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
Let me make this clear. It is next to impossible to make chinese friends unless you know them from somewhere.
Let me make this clear. It is next to impossible to make chinese friends unless you know them from somewhere.
Nega !34Kas0OdzM joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 4 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,147
Use couchsurfing.
My father essentially did what TS suggested (in addition to visiting client's families) and it worked.
My father essentially did what TS suggested (in addition to visiting client's families) and it worked.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,149
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,151
@287,144 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
Let me make this clear. It is more comforting to be lazy in your safehouse, surfing MC and blame a whole nation instead of making an effort.
But if it makes you sleep easier, than sure, it's impossible. Go ahead, lock yourself up, set limits to what you can do. DM being DM, a weakling. Nothing new to see here.
EDIT: I suggested walking up to people and talking with them. And yes I'm insulting you cause you're insulting a whole nation by blaming them for your loneliness.
Let me make this clear. It is more comforting to be lazy in your safehouse, surfing MC and blame a whole nation instead of making an effort.
But if it makes you sleep easier, than sure, it's impossible. Go ahead, lock yourself up, set limits to what you can do. DM being DM, a weakling. Nothing new to see here.
EDIT: I suggested walking up to people and talking with them. And yes I'm insulting you cause you're insulting a whole nation by blaming them for your loneliness.
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Nega !34Kas0OdzM replied with this 14 years ago, 52 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,152
Hope you have fun.
South Korea> India > China >…> Japan
@287,149 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
Speaking with people randomly.
South Korea> India > China >…> Japan
@287,149 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
Speaking with people randomly.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 27 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,153
@287,151 (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
lol I am not blaming anyone. I am telling you that it is impossible to meet locals unless you know them from some sort of context. And I am not sitting at home. I have literally been out and about all day long.
lol I am not blaming anyone. I am telling you that it is impossible to meet locals unless you know them from some sort of context. And I am not sitting at home. I have literally been out and about all day long.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) double-posted this 14 years ago, 25 seconds later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,155
@287,152 (Nega !34Kas0OdzM)
If you talk to random people, they will look at you like you are crazy. It is like that in big cities.
If you talk to random people, they will look at you like you are crazy. It is like that in big cities.
Nega !34Kas0OdzM replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,158
@287,151 (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
Maybe you should drop your current studies in favour of becoming a coach.
Maybe you should drop your current studies in favour of becoming a coach.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,160
@287,151 (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
I am not complaining of loneliness or anything lol. I am having fun here. I am saying, though, that is is not culturally acceptable to start talking to strangers on the Beijing streets.
I am not complaining of loneliness or anything lol. I am having fun here. I am saying, though, that is is not culturally acceptable to start talking to strangers on the Beijing streets.
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 9 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,164
@previous (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
You've done worse than culturally not acceptable things... please, just don't. Enjoy limiting yourself and what you'll experiences.
You've done worse than culturally not acceptable things... please, just don't. Enjoy limiting yourself and what you'll experiences.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,165
@previous (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
With all due respect, you are applying the way things work in your own town, to all cities in the world. Thanks.
With all due respect, you are applying the way things work in your own town, to all cities in the world. Thanks.
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 7 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,166
@previous (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
I'm applying the way things work in all places I've visited so far. People say the more north you go in Sweden the harder it is to meet people.
Guess what I did with that prejudice in Sundsvall. I took a dump on it and went to, what turned out to be a private 60 years of the neighbourhood celebration. I walked up to them, asked what it was about, and after some weird looks made a shitload of friends. Which is weird, since most of the people were either 35+ or their <15 year old kids.
Everything is possible. But man oh man, would it have been easier to avoid all that and eat a burger at McD's.
I'm applying the way things work in all places I've visited so far. People say the more north you go in Sweden the harder it is to meet people.
Guess what I did with that prejudice in Sundsvall. I took a dump on it and went to, what turned out to be a private 60 years of the neighbourhood celebration. I walked up to them, asked what it was about, and after some weird looks made a shitload of friends. Which is weird, since most of the people were either 35+ or their <15 year old kids.
Everything is possible. But man oh man, would it have been easier to avoid all that and eat a burger at McD's.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,167
@previous (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
I do not eat at McDonald's. If you got on a Beijing subway and started talking to people, they would laugh at you and avoid you. but, you are an expert in everything, so I digress.
I do not eat at McDonald's. If you got on a Beijing subway and started talking to people, they would laugh at you and avoid you. but, you are an expert in everything, so I digress.
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 9 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,168
@OP
Mark.
Mark.
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,169
@287,167 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
I would be the first to laugh at myself if I approached someone completely random and said retarded shit like "Hey, I just bought an expensive whine from my whine mafia friends, let's be friends" lol. You gotta learn to approach folks.
Also, why subway? Why not a bar? Why not a square where people hang out anyway? Why not on a fruit market? You just took the most weird place to approach people since they are tight packed to each other with everyone trying to listen into the conversation and give you weird looks. But even in a subway, it's not impossible.
I would be the first to laugh at myself if I approached someone completely random and said retarded shit like "Hey, I just bought an expensive whine from my whine mafia friends, let's be friends" lol. You gotta learn to approach folks.
Also, why subway? Why not a bar? Why not a square where people hang out anyway? Why not on a fruit market? You just took the most weird place to approach people since they are tight packed to each other with everyone trying to listen into the conversation and give you weird looks. But even in a subway, it's not impossible.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,170
@previous (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
Because I have not found a bar yet. this is only my second day here.
Because I have not found a bar yet. this is only my second day here.
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,171
Who's OP?
TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 3 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,172
@287,170 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
And in the two days you found nothing but the subway?
We're going in circles, let's face it. I can say what I want, it's impossible to do tho. Cause that's how you set your mind. I mean, all the prejudice MUST BE TRUE. Otherwise there would be slim Americans, there would be Serbs who don't hate Croats, there would be gingers with souls. We can't let that happen now can we? I mean, gingers wit souls, just sounds wrong man.
And in the two days you found nothing but the subway?
We're going in circles, let's face it. I can say what I want, it's impossible to do tho. Cause that's how you set your mind. I mean, all the prejudice MUST BE TRUE. Otherwise there would be slim Americans, there would be Serbs who don't hate Croats, there would be gingers with souls. We can't let that happen now can we? I mean, gingers wit souls, just sounds wrong man.
Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 1 minute later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,173
@previous (TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k)
You are not listening. I found lots of things! And sure I talked to some people, but you do not just talk to random strangers here and expect to become their friends. It was like that in New York too. But since you have lived in every city in the world, and are an expert on all cultures, I guess I am wrong. Are you Meals, by the way?
You are not listening. I found lots of things! And sure I talked to some people, but you do not just talk to random strangers here and expect to become their friends. It was like that in New York too. But since you have lived in every city in the world, and are an expert on all cultures, I guess I am wrong. Are you Meals, by the way?
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TheSheep !kJ.A4PF7.k replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,180
@287,173 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
You're a nut, what you need to find are locals. No one will should you Beijing like locals.
Shame it's impossible to be friends with local chinaman... :(
You're a nut, what you need to find are locals. No one will should you Beijing like locals.
Shame it's impossible to be friends with local chinaman... :(
Anonymous I replied with this 14 years ago, 4 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,181
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Meta !PARAdoxiHw joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 6 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,198
I am convinced now. Thank you!
astromermaid joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 5 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,201
where what
how did you get there
alas
your degree came to use!
the last time i heard from you
you were living with your mommy with a white t-shirt wrapped around your face...
how did you get there
alas
your degree came to use!
the last time i heard from you
you were living with your mommy with a white t-shirt wrapped around your face...
Anonymous N joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 15 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,206
you can get that shit from ebay. show some real proof or gtfo.
astromermaid replied with this 14 years ago, 2 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,207
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Anonymous O joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 7 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,211
@287,207 (astromermaid)
The History up at the top would have had a ! next to it if he replied to you.
The History up at the top would have had a ! next to it if he replied to you.
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squeegee !hbZVTk6JYc joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 1 hour later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,232
Hey! Lookie there, someone's getting pretty good with the photo shops!
Rainbow !DASHqGnDdc joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 41 minutes later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,248
@287,173 (Depressionchina !iYiU6PBDWI)
No he is Estonian or something. And he is also wrong. Even here it is not acceptable in some places to just start talking to people. It's rude. This is especially the case in London.
No he is Estonian or something. And he is also wrong. Even here it is not acceptable in some places to just start talking to people. It's rude. This is especially the case in London.
Anonymous R joined in and replied with this 14 years ago, 14 minutes later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,252
Depressionchina !!OSMfyYTCs (OP) replied with this 14 years ago, 13 hours later, 22 hours after the original post[^] [v] #287,549
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Rainbow !DASHqGnDdc replied with this 14 years ago, 8 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #287,687
What company did you use, Depressionman? Also what is teaching like?