1. ultra controlling, won't let her son talk - a Narcissist is only concerned with his/her own well being
2. vindictive, and hostile at any remark that even slightly deflates her - A narcissist cannot stand a blow to their ego
3. Makes references to "sexy dancing videos", and clearly films herself a lot, obsessed with her self and her image - A narcissist, by definition, is self obsessed.
4. compares herself to "strong individuals" -Narcissists often will want to only associate with those "worthy"
5. emotionally immature, attacking kids that may or may not have slandered her. Regardless, they are children. - Narcissists while not only lacking empathy, are often quick to hostility, and emotionally immature
6. Almost positive the kid was pressured into making the video, the names of the kids are repeated multiple times, as if to ensure that they will see the video, that way the kid will get negative attention. - Narcissists lack empathy, people are merely a means to an end to them, they are manipulative, and have no problem hurting others to get what tehy want.
All of this is just on camera, imagine what it's like when the cameras are off. I remember this lady was somewhat popular a while ago, but I always just sort of pegged her as just sort of off balance, and that the people accusing her of being abusive were wrong. But I'm now inclined to agree that this woman is absolutely unstable.