Topic: Would you break up a family if your woman (or man)..
Confederati !zREbelM9fg started this discussion 15 years ago#13,835
cheated on you.
1. If they did it and straight up cheated with multiple people, but are genuinely sorry. you have a full life built with your wife/husband, but they wish for you to stay. You have multiple kids with said person, have been married.
2. In your current situation if you have a partner, and they cheated, what would you do.
I say in both situations, once is too much. Things such as flirting outsided of a relationship is just like cheating in my opinion, thats forgivable though unless it goes further, in which case you leave and take what you feels belongs to you. Consequently, if you cheat, gtfo the relationship. Self analysis, then go back if you still want to.
marvin !H0G.H/BnJg joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 12 minutes later[^][v]#247,007
If there were kids, I'd probably try to work it out. I'd make him sign a post-nup though.
No marriage, no kids? Done.
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Confederati !zREbelM9fg (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 3 minutes later, 16 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,009
@previous (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
really? i guess i'm a fool for believing that you should gtfo and take the kids (unless you honestly recognize that they're better off with the other parent)
marvin !H0G.H/BnJg replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 20 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,012
@previous (Confederati !zREbelM9fg)
Divorce is awful on kids. I think you owe them an honest try at making it work.
sluggy joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 32 seconds later, 21 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,013
its completely dependent on the situation. if i wasn't being a good husband, and she was willing to work on our relationship and i felt capable and willing, i'd probably work it out.
i also might kill her or myself. who knows? i have no concept of what its like to be in a committed relationship as an adult.
Confederati !zREbelM9fg (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 22 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,014
@previous (sluggy)
oh, okay. @247,012 (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
meh, ive never been in this situation, but i guess i've been through a divorce as a kid with my mom and dad, they'd live too.
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Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 11 minutes later, 33 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,017
@247,007 (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
How sweet of you to think of the kids. You'd make such a good wife, sticking around while your husband cheats.
sluggy replied with this 15 years ago, 3 minutes later, 37 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,018
@previous (Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ)
Actually, she would most likely be the one who is unfaithful. Women cheat more than men. They just get caught less.
That or women are more willing to admit to it, just not to their spouse.
From anecdotal experience, I know a lot do women who have cheated (and usually it's multiple times). I know very few men. This is of course a very small sample size.
Confederati !zREbelM9fg (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 38 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,020
@previous (sluggy) > She would most likely be the one who is unfaithful. Women cheat more than men. They just get caught less.
THIS!!!!
> I know very few men. This is of course a very small sample size.
My god, YES! SAME
marvin !H0G.H/BnJg replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 42 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,021
@247,017 (Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ)
I'd give it one chance, with good terms in case of divorce. I don't think that's unreasonable.
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 28 seconds later, 43 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,022
@247,018 (sluggy)
I was just thinking that she would set herself up to be cheated on more.
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ double-posted this 15 years ago, 44 seconds later, 44 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,023
@247,021 (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
I see. That makes more sense now. I'd never cheat on you.
marvin !H0G.H/BnJg replied with this 15 years ago, 33 seconds later, 44 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,024
@previous (Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ)
Would you drink my piss though?
sluggy replied with this 15 years ago, 47 seconds later, 45 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,025
@247,020 (Confederati !zREbelM9fg)
The women were a lot more proflific. The women had no problems with it, either. Not one was remorseful until caught (if they were). The men were mostly really torn up. One didn't give a fuck. I don't know many people though.
This does not help my fear of women.
I think most people dont cheat, though.
I wonder it it's cause women are more likely to stay in an unhappy relationship or because they get hit on a lot more, or if it's just cause its easier for women to get laid (if that's even true).
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 50 seconds later, 46 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,026
@247,024 (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
You know I'd drink your piss. What kind of question is that?
sluggy replied with this 15 years ago, 29 seconds later, 46 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,027
@247,021 (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
What if they cheated because a younger woman seduced them? Would it mitigate your anger at all if she was like 16 and very perky? Maybe the baby sitter or something. That shouldn't even count. She can't even vote!
Confederati !zREbelM9fg (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 48 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,028
@247,025 (sluggy)
aunno, but this sounds a lot like what i believe
marvin !H0G.H/BnJg replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 50 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,029
@previous (Confederati !zREbelM9fg)
jump is a well-known authority on adult heterosexual behavior. You should definitely listen to this man.
Confederati !zREbelM9fg (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 54 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,030
@previous (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
i feel like minus the drugs and sense of hopelessness i get from his posts, i've found my gay lo.. clone.
sluggy replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 55 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,032
@247,029 (marvin !H0G.H/BnJg)
Attack the man when attacking the argument is impossible. Good tactic.
sluggy double-posted this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 56 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,033
@247,030 (Confederati !zREbelM9fg)
Shes just mad because I remind her of her uncle.
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 35 seconds later, 57 minutes after the original post[^][v]#247,034
@247,032 (sluggy)
She's still bitter about being born without a penis.
!SEVFmYP0AU joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 46 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#247,050
1) I wouldn't be married with children in the first place
2) uuuhhhh it would probably depend on the situation, but I think I tend to be forgiving.
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 13 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#247,058
sluggy replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#247,059
@previous (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
I was referring to friends Ive spoken with. Women trust me because I'm not sexually threatening.
There are studies that show that women cheat more often than men and get caught less often.
I don't know a lot about it, but I do remember reading it.
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,061
@previous (sluggy)
Most people that I've met have cheated.
sluggy replied with this 15 years ago, 5 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,064
@previous (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
My close friends either cheated (one was the one that a person was cheating with, but he knew he was engaged)or their partner cheated on them in the past 5 years. My last GF cheated on me (we were 18. By the time I found out, I wasn't even mad and it was only a few months after we had broken up. It still hurt a lot, but whatever).
When i said most people probnaly don't cheat I was thinking of all the people who I dont know if they have cheated or not.
I guess people do a lot. I think I'll just stay single.
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buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY replied with this 15 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,066
@previous (sluggy)
Or date someone with an open mind and have fun together.
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,067
Relationships are for losers.
sluggy replied with this 15 years ago, 19 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,071
@247,066 (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
I couldn't do an open relationship. Im already a mess. I couldn't handle it.
Maybe if I was at a point where I could be in a relationship at all, I might be.
Handel !khEOdtKF56 joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 3 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,127
If they cheated on me I'd be so fast out the dorr I'd give Sonic the Hedgehog and run for his money.
If there were children involved I'd be fucked, I'd have to stay in the relationship. Most likely the children would be adopted and I couldn't bare watching them go back to a foster home or worse ending up with my cheating bastard of a husband. It would tear me apart.
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 11 hours later, 15 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,453
It depends on where I am in the relationship OP. I would use this as an excuse to reevaluate on my terms.
If the sex can carry it, I'm good with an open relationship. If I feel good, loved and sexually satisfied and I too am permitted tastes of the forbidden fruits within reason, I'd want the same for my partner. As a bisexual male, I'm sure I'd come to enjoy this in my life.
If the sex is not good or the relationship is in some other way draining on my own personal happiness, then I'd always end it using the cheating to demand a clean break.
Swashbuckler !!+SEaCxS+w joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 15 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,454
Yes I would. I could never handle living with a cheater. I would go crazy.
floorboard !hbZVTk6JYc joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 15 minutes later, 15 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,457
Just have open relationships. Problem solved.
Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 15 hours after the original post[^][v]#247,458
What would you do if you found out your girlfriend was a tranny?
Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 11 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#247,612
I wouldn't care unless it was interracial.
Anonymous I replied with this 15 years ago, 2 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#247,679
@previous (M)
I never have relationships with someone who preferred a race other than my own. If they don't prefer my race than they'll never really get turned on by me physically. This is a waste of time when hot sex is the mission.
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MudDog !ahLiFtedC. (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 26 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#247,685
> I never have relationships with someone who preferred a race other than my own
this, just cause white is the master race.
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY replied with this 15 years ago, 8 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#247,687
@247,679 (I)
Just because you prefer something, doesn't mean that you hate it.
Anonymous I replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#247,718
@previous (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
People who prefer dark skin will be less satisfied with a light skinned person and vice versa. It's not simply a matter of skin color either. The pheromones are different and these play a major role in sexual arousal.
If a woman likes black men I rationally choose not to invest a lot in her because I'm not black. I don't try convincing lesbians to go straight either. Those are two classes of women who aren't good for anything more than a fuck or two in my book and that's how I'm always going to see it.
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY replied with this 15 years ago, 30 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^][v]#247,737
@previous (I)
You're right that there's no use fighting a losing battle. What about someone who prefers Asians or hairy people? Does it work the same?