Topic: Hyper gamy may be overblown?
Anonymous A started this discussion 3 weeks ago #138,027
Yes, women aspire to the best possible mate. But I think a lot of the debate is focused on top tier looks women 20-30. There is a huge shift in balance at 30 that only accelerates.
Most women are happy just to have a partner. Maybe it’s not their ideal partner or they’re deluded and think they’re settling. I see woman who definitely “marry down.” I guess it beats being alone.
Most women are happy just to have a partner. Maybe it’s not their ideal partner or they’re deluded and think they’re settling. I see woman who definitely “marry down.” I guess it beats being alone.
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 2 minutes later[^] [v] #1,460,762
Hypergamy is a total meme. I'm not even joking when I say I know MULTIPLE fat, short, balding guys with a wife and multiple kids and these guys aren't rich either. If they can do it, anybody can. The issue is people who complain about hypergamy want to date brad pitt or angelina jolie while looking like a soggy trash bag
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 58 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,460,767
Hypergamy applies mostly to the internet where the supply of single women is low and demand from single men is high. In real life, the standards are far more reasonable.
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 29 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,460,773
> But I think a lot of the debate is focused on top tier looks women 20-30. There is a huge shift in balance at 30 that only accelerates.
Yes, but a woman's interest after 30 isn't worth anything.
Who she chooses before that is what matters.
> Most women are happy just to have a partner.
Women have limitless options, choose not to settle down when they can.
Being lonely as a woman is playing on easy and failing.
Yes, but a woman's interest after 30 isn't worth anything.
Who she chooses before that is what matters.
> Most women are happy just to have a partner.
Women have limitless options, choose not to settle down when they can.
Being lonely as a woman is playing on easy and failing.
Anonymous D double-posted this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,460,774
@1,460,767 (C)
If you're at a local bar or party you will do better, because there's less competition, but women still don't go for their looksmatch.
If you're at a local bar or party you will do better, because there's less competition, but women still don't go for their looksmatch.
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 2 hours later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,460,785
@1,460,767 (C)
Unfortunately a lot of people are letting internet ie. social media standards & preferences leak into their irl status
Unfortunately a lot of people are letting internet ie. social media standards & preferences leak into their irl status
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 2 weeks ago, 10 hours later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,460,852
@previous (E)
> Unfortunately a lot of people are letting internet ie. social media standards & preferences leak into their irl status
I have seen so many women with high opinions of themselves and unrealistic standards suddenly pivot to reality when the alternative meant entering their 40s with no partner or baby on the way.
You also have guys who don’t want to settle down and who want to live their 20s forever. As someone who was married and who had kids, I don’t blame them. After my divorce I spent a couple weeks in a haze like someone released from prison. Did I just lose two decades of my life?
> Unfortunately a lot of people are letting internet ie. social media standards & preferences leak into their irl status
I have seen so many women with high opinions of themselves and unrealistic standards suddenly pivot to reality when the alternative meant entering their 40s with no partner or baby on the way.
You also have guys who don’t want to settle down and who want to live their 20s forever. As someone who was married and who had kids, I don’t blame them. After my divorce I spent a couple weeks in a haze like someone released from prison. Did I just lose two decades of my life?
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 2 weeks ago, 2 hours later, 16 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,460,861
@previous (F)
> Did I just lose two decades of my life?
I know the feeling. Society has a way of selling the marriage meme, same with the college meme or the bootstraps meme. I bought 'em too.
> Did I just lose two decades of my life?
I know the feeling. Society has a way of selling the marriage meme, same with the college meme or the bootstraps meme. I bought 'em too.
Anonymous E replied with this 2 weeks ago, 5 hours later, 21 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,460,921
Divorce is bad mmmkayAnonymous H joined in and replied with this 2 weeks ago, 21 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,461,108
@previous (E)
> Divorce is bad mmmkay
Life has changed too much for the old model to work. People live too long. While the household is an economic unit it’s not a self-contained homestead with the same labor requirements. There should be painless separation check ins every 5 years. Like any normal contract renewal.
If any business agreement resembled marriage nobody would sign it and your lawyers and accountants would say “fuck no.”
I’m thinking of a friend whose wife took up with her best friend. The wife hasn’t worked in a couple years so had diminished earnings and claimed it was due to childcare. My friend then pays a half million for her life change to handle spousal and child support in lump sum.
> Divorce is bad mmmkay
Life has changed too much for the old model to work. People live too long. While the household is an economic unit it’s not a self-contained homestead with the same labor requirements. There should be painless separation check ins every 5 years. Like any normal contract renewal.
If any business agreement resembled marriage nobody would sign it and your lawyers and accountants would say “fuck no.”
I’m thinking of a friend whose wife took up with her best friend. The wife hasn’t worked in a couple years so had diminished earnings and claimed it was due to childcare. My friend then pays a half million for her life change to handle spousal and child support in lump sum.
