Topic: Women.
Anonymous A started this discussion 3 weeks ago #131,918
Maybe I’m weird or something, but I’ve been thinking. I’m in my early 20s, and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’ve never wanted one and I’ve never tried to get one before.
This is a weird problem maybe, but I have this thing, where someone will try to have a conversation with me, and I feel obligated to keep the conversation going, except, I find it really hard to pretend to care about what people are saying when most of the time I find people boring and irritating. And, I don’t feel like I need a girlfriend or anything, but I feel like it’s a social expectation on some level.
How do I talk to someone and make them think I actually want to talk to them and care about them and what they’re saying if on the inside I just completely don’t?
This is a weird problem maybe, but I have this thing, where someone will try to have a conversation with me, and I feel obligated to keep the conversation going, except, I find it really hard to pretend to care about what people are saying when most of the time I find people boring and irritating. And, I don’t feel like I need a girlfriend or anything, but I feel like it’s a social expectation on some level.
How do I talk to someone and make them think I actually want to talk to them and care about them and what they’re saying if on the inside I just completely don’t?
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later[^] [v] #1,409,714
Like, I don’t know. I feel like, falling in love is like one of the things you’re supposed to do in life, but keeping somebody around just for the sake of keeping somebody around sounds like a lot of effort. I hate keeping up with people.
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 2 minutes later, 4 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,715
You can't pretend. Either you are interested or you aren't. If you feign interest or pretend, and that leads to a girlfriend, your real self will eventually come out. You should base a relationship on fakeness.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 weeks ago, 2 minutes later, 6 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,716
@previous (B)
The problem with that is I’ll literally never bother talking to anyone if I go with that. I’m just not interested in people.
The problem with that is I’ll literally never bother talking to anyone if I go with that. I’m just not interested in people.
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 3 weeks ago, 4 minutes later, 11 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,717
I just don’t get it, like I’ve seen other guys who can’t help themselves and need to talk to other people, or it’s like if somebody told them not to go out and get a girlfriend, they probably couldn’t help themselves to not try and talk to girls. I didn’t realize how abnormal how much I don’t care about people is. I always feel like I have to fake being interested.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 weeks ago, 23 seconds later, 11 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,718
@1,409,716 (A)
Have you seen a therapist about this? Do you have antisocial personality disorder? There are techniques that you can use to change this. You might want to talk to a therapist.
Have you seen a therapist about this? Do you have antisocial personality disorder? There are techniques that you can use to change this. You might want to talk to a therapist.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 weeks ago, 4 minutes later, 16 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,721
Or even the concept that there are men who are angry that they can’t get women to like them. Like I’m pretty sure I’ve met girls who liked me, sometimes I’m bad at reading people so I’ve misinterpreted staring as people having a problem with me in the past, but I’ve never felt angry at women though. I don’t really get that.
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later, 17 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,722
@1,409,718 (B)
No, that’s something different. That’s when someone can’t feel empathy, I feel empathy for other people. I don’t think someone with ASPD would relate to not wanting people, from what I’ve heard psychopaths are very controlling. I don’t really feel like I care about other people’s business, I’m too lazy for all that.
No, that’s something different. That’s when someone can’t feel empathy, I feel empathy for other people. I don’t think someone with ASPD would relate to not wanting people, from what I’ve heard psychopaths are very controlling. I don’t really feel like I care about other people’s business, I’m too lazy for all that.
Anonymous A (OP) triple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later, 19 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,723
I also don’t particularly like confrontation and I never really break any rules or laws, and I’m extremely risk averse. So I don’t really fit that personality type.
Anonymous A (OP) quadruple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 17 minutes later, 36 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,724
If anything, psychopaths are reckless and don’t learn from their mistakes. If anything is weird about me it’s that I take a lot fewer risks than most other people.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 weeks ago, 3 minutes later, 39 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,725
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 weeks ago, 2 minutes later, 41 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,726
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 3 weeks ago, 4 minutes later, 46 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,727
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Anonymous B replied with this 3 weeks ago, 8 minutes later, 54 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,728
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later, 56 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,729
Anonymous B replied with this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later, 57 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,730
@previous (A)
I mean, you can continue lonely and unconnected to humanity, or you can get help and start to live a fulfilling life with friends and a woman. Your choice. *shrugs*
I mean, you can continue lonely and unconnected to humanity, or you can get help and start to live a fulfilling life with friends and a woman. Your choice. *shrugs*
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 weeks ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,731
@previous (B)
I am part of humanity though. If you’re nothing by yourself, and other people are nothing by themselves, when you put it all together, you’re just multiplying by zero.
I am part of humanity though. If you’re nothing by yourself, and other people are nothing by themselves, when you put it all together, you’re just multiplying by zero.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 weeks ago, 23 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,732
@previous (A)
Then why complain? You are obviously bothered by your situation. Why not get help? What's the downside?
Then why complain? You are obviously bothered by your situation. Why not get help? What's the downside?
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,733
@previous (B)
Well, I’m not bothered by the fact that I don’t have a girlfriend, I’m bothered by wondering if other people think that it’s weird that I don’t have one.
Well, I’m not bothered by the fact that I don’t have a girlfriend, I’m bothered by wondering if other people think that it’s weird that I don’t have one.
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 3 weeks ago, 33 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,734
Like, I don’t like being unique really. I just want to kinda blend in.
Anonymous A (OP) triple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 7 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,735
Anonymous A (OP) quadruple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 9 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,736
Now that I think about it, I can’t be the only one who’s like this. Because I know for a fact I’ve seen women with decorative husbands. You know, when a woman obviously has zero interest in her husband but he chose her because she’s pretty or whatever, and she just kind of has a husband to look normal to all her girlfriends or whatever in order to blend in.
Anonymous A (OP) quintuple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 39 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,737
Like the First Lady for example.
Anonymous A (OP) sextuple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 26 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,738
I mean, she’s not like that pretty, she’s kinda strange looking, but compared to Trump she’s a 10 so it’s like, you know the deal.
Anonymous A (OP) septuple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 50 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,739
And she has literally no individuality or personality or anything unique or interesting about her whatsoever.
Anonymous A (OP) octuple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,741
Honestly, I think I’m way more attractive than her, but whatever.
Anonymous A (OP) nonuple-posted this 3 weeks ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,742
But I can’t fake a smile like an Eastern European weirdo woman… that’s the thing. Eastern Europeans know how to do a fake smile. If they’re smiling, it’s fake. That’s how it works over there. Ask a Russian, they’ll tell you. This is probably racist somehow.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 1 hour later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,759
speaking of russian men, they do know how to put a niggers butthoal in the back on the rack, if you know what im saying. 7/10: fun but a little rougher than necessarily.
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 16 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,761
"I'm not interested in people!" He said, as he posted daily on an internet forum to interact with other people.
Green !!bO/s3MBcD joined in and replied with this 3 weeks ago, 1 hour later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,763
We have a poster here under 30?
