Topic: 1980s-1990s erotic thrillers lied to me!
Anonymous A started this discussion 1 month ago #131,817
Older women were presented as manipulatively hypersexual, open minded, down for fun and crazy encounters.
The reality: Single moms and/or divorced women, never marrieds, wracked with anxiety, bitter about former relationships, oddly coquettish (“I wait at least three months to build trust.”), perimenopausal. You sit there and listen to their life blather and wonder if even they find any of it interesting or whether it’s some kind of default autopilot setting.
And they wonder why we go for younger women.
The reality: Single moms and/or divorced women, never marrieds, wracked with anxiety, bitter about former relationships, oddly coquettish (“I wait at least three months to build trust.”), perimenopausal. You sit there and listen to their life blather and wonder if even they find any of it interesting or whether it’s some kind of default autopilot setting.
And they wonder why we go for younger women.
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 25 minutes later[^] [v] #1,408,912
This just in: life isn't like movies and women are harder to bed than men.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 2 hours later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,408,917
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
> This just in: life isn't like movies and women are harder to bed than men.
LMFAO. Nice post. Seriously though, why does a 40-something divorced mother of two think I’d want to wait months and have some dull companionate relationship?
A 32 year old nurse, meanwhile, likes to come over, drink tequila, and fuck whenever she’s pissed off at her girlfriend.
> This just in: life isn't like movies and women are harder to bed than men.
LMFAO. Nice post. Seriously though, why does a 40-something divorced mother of two think I’d want to wait months and have some dull companionate relationship?
A 32 year old nurse, meanwhile, likes to come over, drink tequila, and fuck whenever she’s pissed off at her girlfriend.
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 1 month ago, 7 hours later, 10 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,408,970
@previous (C)
Because a woman with kids is going to be more slow and selective with who she dates. She generally will be hypervigilant about not bringing home a pedo or an abuser or a crazy person so she will do a ton of extra screening that a woman without kids won't feel is needed.
Also different women are different people so they all behave differently. 🤷
Because a woman with kids is going to be more slow and selective with who she dates. She generally will be hypervigilant about not bringing home a pedo or an abuser or a crazy person so she will do a ton of extra screening that a woman without kids won't feel is needed.
Also different women are different people so they all behave differently. 🤷
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 57 minutes later, 11 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,408,998
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
> Because a woman with kids is going to be more slow and selective with who she dates. She generally will be hypervigilant about not bringing home a pedo or an abuser or a crazy person so she will do a ton of extra screening that a woman without kids won't feel is needed.
>
> Also different women are different people so they all behave differently. 🤷
100%. It’s been my experience with women with a couple of kids that they want fun and distraction and release. What guy immediately plunges into a serious, sexless relationship with a middle aged woman who has two kids he would need to help parent? No wonder she’s divorced.
> Because a woman with kids is going to be more slow and selective with who she dates. She generally will be hypervigilant about not bringing home a pedo or an abuser or a crazy person so she will do a ton of extra screening that a woman without kids won't feel is needed.
>
> Also different women are different people so they all behave differently. 🤷
100%. It’s been my experience with women with a couple of kids that they want fun and distraction and release. What guy immediately plunges into a serious, sexless relationship with a middle aged woman who has two kids he would need to help parent? No wonder she’s divorced.
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 1 minute later, 11 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,408,999
This is a middle-aged conversation.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 15 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,102
@previous (E)
> This is a middle-aged conversation.
No kidding. What am I going to do, go on Tinder?
> This is a middle-aged conversation.
No kidding. What am I going to do, go on Tinder?
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,108
Killer Lettuce🌹 !HonkUK.BIE joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,129
@1,408,999 (E)
Well, yeah. This website has been around for like 15 years now, and that's more like 30 years in internet time. We're all middle-aged now.
Well, yeah. This website has been around for like 15 years now, and that's more like 30 years in internet time. We're all middle-aged now.
Anonymous I joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 29 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,140
@1,409,108 (G)
> Grindr
Hard pass. Yuck. I would kill for a hetero version but it would be filled with scammers and murderers. Women want to extract a price.
> Grindr
Hard pass. Yuck. I would kill for a hetero version but it would be filled with scammers and murderers. Women want to extract a price.
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 19 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,146
No, I meant you must *have* a trust.Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 1 minute later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,147
Anonymous K double-posted this 1 month ago, 33 seconds later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,148
@1,409,129 (Killer Lettuce🌹 !HonkUK.BIE)
Now I think you’re even more retarded now that I know how old you are.
Now I think you’re even more retarded now that I know how old you are.
Anonymous I replied with this 1 month ago, 33 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,154
@1,409,146 (J)
> No, I meant you must *have* a trust.
@1,409,146 (J)
> No, I meant you must *have* a trust.
Isn’t that the truth. I can’t take more emotional abuse from another menopausal woman, another entitled type who demands the world without ever questioning what makes her worthy of it, the ones who think you’re their driver, their therapist, their punching bag, and never turn that scrutiny on themselves.
I now turn to the superior writer Norah Vincent who lived as a man for a year:
If women are trapped by the whore/Madonna complex, men are equally trapped by this warrior/minstrel complex. What’s more, while a man is expected to be modern, that is, to support feminism in all its particulars, to see and treat women as equals in every respect, he is on the other hand often still expected to be traditional at the same time, to treat a lady like a lady, to lead the way and pick up the check.
-and-
Ditto for the stereotype about men monopolizing conversations. Like Sasha, many of my dates—even the more passive ones—did most of the talking. I listened to them talk literally for hours about the most minute, mind-numbing details of their personal lives; men they were still in love with, men they had divorced, roommates and coworkers they hated, childhoods they were loath to remember, yet somehow found the energy to recount ad nauseam. Listening to them was like undergoing a slow frontal lobotomy. I sat there stunned by the social ineptitude of people to whom it never seemed to occur that no one, much less a first date, would have any interest in enduring this ordeal.
> No, I meant you must *have* a trust.
@1,409,146 (J)
> No, I meant you must *have* a trust.
Isn’t that the truth. I can’t take more emotional abuse from another menopausal woman, another entitled type who demands the world without ever questioning what makes her worthy of it, the ones who think you’re their driver, their therapist, their punching bag, and never turn that scrutiny on themselves.
I now turn to the superior writer Norah Vincent who lived as a man for a year:
If women are trapped by the whore/Madonna complex, men are equally trapped by this warrior/minstrel complex. What’s more, while a man is expected to be modern, that is, to support feminism in all its particulars, to see and treat women as equals in every respect, he is on the other hand often still expected to be traditional at the same time, to treat a lady like a lady, to lead the way and pick up the check.
-and-
Ditto for the stereotype about men monopolizing conversations. Like Sasha, many of my dates—even the more passive ones—did most of the talking. I listened to them talk literally for hours about the most minute, mind-numbing details of their personal lives; men they were still in love with, men they had divorced, roommates and coworkers they hated, childhoods they were loath to remember, yet somehow found the energy to recount ad nauseam. Listening to them was like undergoing a slow frontal lobotomy. I sat there stunned by the social ineptitude of people to whom it never seemed to occur that no one, much less a first date, would have any interest in enduring this ordeal.
Anonymous G replied with this 1 month ago, 23 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,162
Anonymous L joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 18 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,283
@previous (G)
> why you pretending you dont visit ram ranch every chance you get?
I had to look that up. Glad I used DDG.
> why you pretending you dont visit ram ranch every chance you get?
I had to look that up. Glad I used DDG.
Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 1 month ago, 20 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,289
@1,409,129 (Killer Lettuce🌹 !HonkUK.BIE)
> Well, yeah. This website has been around for like 15 years now, and that's more like 30 years in internet time. We're all middle-aged now.
this site always did give me "a bar filled with sad, witty, sardonic and divorced assholes" vibe that come here to take a verbal shit every now and then.
the posts makes sense to me now.
> Well, yeah. This website has been around for like 15 years now, and that's more like 30 years in internet time. We're all middle-aged now.
this site always did give me "a bar filled with sad, witty, sardonic and divorced assholes" vibe that come here to take a verbal shit every now and then.
the posts makes sense to me now.
Anonymous N joined in and replied with this 4 weeks ago, 2 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,293
@previous (M)
> > Well, yeah. This website has been around for like 15 years now, and that's more like 30 years in internet time. We're all middle-aged now.
>
> this site always did give me "a bar filled with sad, witty, sardonic and divorced assholes" vibe that come here to take a verbal shit every now and then.
> the posts makes sense to me now.
There are miserable married assholes too and single never married assholes. Anyone who marries young is stupid. Life is too long and enjoyment too short.
> > Well, yeah. This website has been around for like 15 years now, and that's more like 30 years in internet time. We're all middle-aged now.
>
> this site always did give me "a bar filled with sad, witty, sardonic and divorced assholes" vibe that come here to take a verbal shit every now and then.
> the posts makes sense to me now.
There are miserable married assholes too and single never married assholes. Anyone who marries young is stupid. Life is too long and enjoyment too short.
Anonymous M replied with this 4 weeks ago, 26 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,297
@previous (N)
im a single never married asshole myself. had a relationship but didnt like where it was going so here i'am
im a single never married asshole myself. had a relationship but didnt like where it was going so here i'am
Oatmeal Fucker !BYUc1TwJMU joined in and replied with this 4 weeks ago, 23 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,409,298
@1,409,148 (K)
Killer Lettuce joined us as a 5 year old, he was known as "Baby Lettuce" for quite some time.
Killer Lettuce joined us as a 5 year old, he was known as "Baby Lettuce" for quite some time.