Topic: I really feel like dumping my girlfriend.
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY started this discussion 15 years ago #13,175
But she took care of my grandmother while I was at work, so I owe her so much.
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Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later[^] [v] #236,850
Can you keep a relationship that you're unhappy with going just because you feel that you owe her?
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 53 seconds later, 3 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,851
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,854
Can't you just be friends?
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 7 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,859
@OP
Just tell her the truth. It is going to come out eventually. Do it with a level head instead of waiting until you are mad or fighting.
Just tell her the truth. It is going to come out eventually. Do it with a level head instead of waiting until you are mad or fighting.
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 54 seconds later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,862
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) double-posted this 15 years ago, 42 seconds later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,864
!hEyBrieeXM joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 3 minutes later, 12 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,870
@236,862 (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
does she know that she is grinding your gears?
communicating can be hard.. but you should let her know what it bothering you at least that way she has a chance to step up and make positive changes..
does she know that she is grinding your gears?
communicating can be hard.. but you should let her know what it bothering you at least that way she has a chance to step up and make positive changes..
Ks !KansasxqvM joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,872
I am suspicious, your name and trip are different.
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 26 seconds later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,873
@236,870 (!hEyBrieeXM)
I've tried that and it has never worked. She's very nihilistic and refuses to plan for the future.
I've tried that and it has never worked. She's very nihilistic and refuses to plan for the future.
Anonymous G joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 3 seconds later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,874
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 30 seconds later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,876
Anonymous G replied with this 15 years ago, 7 seconds later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,877
also ask if you can't take some time
you just want to be alone
etc
maybe this is temporary feeling
you just want to be alone
etc
maybe this is temporary feeling
Ks !KansasxqvM replied with this 15 years ago, 16 seconds later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,878
Leo Vegas !gNoGoD5HzQ replied with this 15 years ago, 26 seconds later, 15 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,879
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 8 seconds later, 15 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,880
Ks !KansasxqvM replied with this 15 years ago, 23 seconds later, 15 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,882
@236,876 (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
Why are you upset with your girlfriend? You should go straight and have my babies. XD
Why are you upset with your girlfriend? You should go straight and have my babies. XD
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 17 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,883
@previous (Ks !KansasxqvM)
It's a combination of things. Her unhealthy lifestyle, her emotional and sexual issues, her laziness.
It's a combination of things. Her unhealthy lifestyle, her emotional and sexual issues, her laziness.
Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 minute later, 18 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,884
Ks !KansasxqvM replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 22 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,890
@236,883 (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
As someone who wasted almost a decade unhappy I can tell you it is a BIG mistake to waste your time unhappy. Of course you want it to work out etc, and in a perfect-world with perfect people it would work out, but in reality life is short and in the long run it probably won't work out. Even if it does work out you're still not gonna be happy, you know she won't really change... regardless of what she may say. You can be grateful for her taking care of your grandmother, but that isn't a reason to stay with her. Ask yourself if you have more reasons to split than to stay together, if you have more reasons to split, than there's no need to waste everyone's time. Breaking up is hard to do, but its almost always best for everyone.
As someone who wasted almost a decade unhappy I can tell you it is a BIG mistake to waste your time unhappy. Of course you want it to work out etc, and in a perfect-world with perfect people it would work out, but in reality life is short and in the long run it probably won't work out. Even if it does work out you're still not gonna be happy, you know she won't really change... regardless of what she may say. You can be grateful for her taking care of your grandmother, but that isn't a reason to stay with her. Ask yourself if you have more reasons to split than to stay together, if you have more reasons to split, than there's no need to waste everyone's time. Breaking up is hard to do, but its almost always best for everyone.
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buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 4 minutes later, 27 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,896
Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 29 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,897
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 5 minutes later, 35 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,899
Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG replied with this 15 years ago, 5 minutes later, 40 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,902
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 57 seconds later, 41 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,903
Fuchs !!4KU9PSdLG replied with this 15 years ago, 2 minutes later, 43 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,906
@previous (buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY)
Hmm, good point. I cannot exactly recall at this moment, but have you stated before that it is an open relationship?
Hmm, good point. I cannot exactly recall at this moment, but have you stated before that it is an open relationship?
buspuppie !!hkv8K5ZEY (OP) replied with this 15 years ago, 10 minutes later, 54 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #236,909
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 58 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #236,933
Dump her. I'll be your new girlfriend. I've never been a girl before, but I'll give it a go.
Swashbuckler !!+SaaZSjSE joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 35 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #236,973
My thoughts: for me, the bottom line in a relationship is this: "Are you happy?" If not, then what is the point of suffering to prop up a relationship that is not working? You can be grateful for her care of your grandmother, and tell her that, but that does not mean that you have to be involved with her romantically.
sluggy joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 1 hour later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #237,022
Sounds like its already over, you just haven't told her yet. You shouldn't feel guilty for leaving her. She didn't take care of her grandmother as part of a contract that you could never leave her.