Topic: Should I get back with my ex or move to a new city?
Anonymous A started this discussion 1 year ago#120,875
We broke up last week after I had a bipolar episode. After spending about a week depressed and not talking to each other, we reconnected last night and had a 4 hour phone conversation. She said she's been very depressed and didn't want to rush back into anything, but just wanted to keep that open as an option for the future if we both decided to go that route. We texted a little bit today, and she told me that she wanted to invest time and effort into me instead of someone else.
I love her, but I was unhappy at the end. Mainly her sedentary lifestyle got to me and I could see that she was starting to gain weight. There's also a few other things too.
For one, she has fake breasts from a double mastectomy she had at 19 because the doctors found a breast cancer gene. Her tits are scarred quite a bit, and her nipples have no sensation at all in them. Essentially, when we had sex, her nipples didn't exist, and I'm a nipple and titty guy. I love playing with titties and sucking on them. During our relationship, I was starting to wonder if I wanted to be with her in the future because of this. I know it's not her fault that it happened, and what she went through was undoubtedly more difficult than me not being able to suck on nipples, but it still is a potential dealbreaker for me.
Two, she won't engage in my sexual fetishes the way that I would prefer for her to. I won't go into detail too much, but essentially she's not open at all to doing the things that I want to do in the bedroom. We've discussed it at length, and she basically said it's off the table.
Now, I am thinking about moving away to a new city to find new job opportunities and opportunities for sex and romance. But I don't know. I don't want to throw away a relationship with someone who loves and cares about me for those stupid reasons. But at the same time, I know what I want and I'm determined to make it happen.
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 1 year ago, 8 minutes later[^][v]#1,322,549
1: Solve your bipolar issues.
2: She is not for you because of your sick perversions.
3: Find a woman with even sicker perversions.
4: Only move after you have solved #1
5: Clearly IF you really end up with a better job - Then yes move.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 1 year ago, 3 minutes later, 12 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,322,551
> Two, she won't engage in my sexual fetishes the way that I would prefer for her to. I won't go into detail too much, but essentially she's not open at all to doing the things that I want to do in the bedroom. We've discussed it at length, and she basically said it's off the table.
Tell us what your disgusting perversions are. Did you want her to fuck dogs? Cuck you? Eat shit?
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 1 year ago, 1 hour later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,322,555
You guys could totally make it work, but the amount of effort needed on both sides to make it work will probably be too much. It usually doesn't get better after more time (or worse yet, years into a marriage). Companionship, romance, and sexy times can be found in future people.
And people that hang out around the house don't get more adventurous later in life either. If you have any hopes of travelling or fresh air this isn't going to work.
Anonymous B replied with this 1 year ago, 13 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,322,562
I wonder just how OP would go about finding a mate with acceptable perversions. This isn't the kind of conversation one starts out with when in the begins of dating.
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 1 year ago, 47 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,322,584
Move to a new city. Maybe you were the person posting earlier about not having a plan. You're young, you have lots of opportunities to date and have sex etc.
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU joined in and replied with this 1 year ago, 17 hours later, 22 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,322,681
If you break up with someone and you don't address the underlying issues that caused the breakup, you are just going to break up again. Your reasons for breaking up with her seem to mostly boil down to "she doesn't make my pp hard enough", and since that isn't going to change and you prioritize that over all other considerations, you should move on before you hurt her more.