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Topic: My grandma has been diagnosed with a terminal cancer.

Unintentional Jackass !LASXURl1b6 started this discussion 15 years ago #11,497

They say she won't make it to Christmas. I don't think it's really sunk in yet, but I'm feeling very passive about the whole thing.

I really sort of feel bad for not being more sad. What do?

Also, I think a part of my logic is broken, because I don't actually think that it is physically possible for someone I love to die.

Tekamine !AnRbswGQv. joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 29 minutes later[^] [v] #206,963

Sorry to hear that mate. My nan died last February and we only knew she was going to die like 3 weeks previously.

I'm not gonna lie to you, it's tough as I loved my nan like a 3rd parent.

All I can say is don't shut yourself away from people. Talk to your family as they'll be going through it as well.
And most importantly, cherish the time you have left as this will be the stuff you remember in years to come.

Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 3 hours later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #207,033

Just be as comforting as you can.

Broseph !!fxnDb+Ve4 joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 11 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #207,037

My grandmother had pancreatic cancer for a very long time. Her spirits were so high that it was hard to believe she was dying. It dragged on for so long that I kept thinking she would pull through. It wasn't until she was in hospice care that it really sunk in, and when she passed it was tough.

The best thing to do is keep your spirits high and enjoy the time you have as much as you can. No sense sulking over it and making your remaining time together miserable. It makes things harder in the end, but it's worth it in the long run.

Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 2 hours later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #207,129

that's a pretty typical reaction to that kind of situation, UJ
don't sweat it
nothing to feel bad about
if it's any comfort, all the feelings you think you're missing out on will hit you sooner or later

swamplights !!V3J448+/B joined in and replied with this 15 years ago, 14 minutes later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #207,135

Please visit her.
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