Topic: I was trying to explain to my mom why I'm an incel
Anonymous A started this discussion 2 years ago#113,223
She pulled the classic "women like respectful men" trope, told me I should go to a church singles club despite me being an atheist with tattoos and piercings, and said that I just need to get my money right and everything will fall into place.
I just want to find my person already. I don't want casual sex, I just want to find a girl that I love enough to marry and create children with. I will never find this. I am hopeless.
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 2 years ago, 1 hour later[^][v]#1,254,293
Couple of things:
1. How old are you?
2. What's your position in life? Could be your career, interests, education, whatever. In short, why should anyone give a fuck about you?
> told me I should go to a church singles club despite me being an atheist
Maybe she's right. A lot of those people share similar goals to yourself.
Try keeping your religion closer to your chest. Atheism is a religion to, you know. Agnosticism is the One True Way. And if you're agnostic, why care anyway?
> I just need to get my money right
Might not be such a bad idea. But it's not the only way. See question 2 above.
> I will never find this. I am hopeless.
You clearly don't believe that or you wouldn't have made this thread. Tell us more about yourself and we can try to help. Many here have achieved what you're looking for in unconventional ways. Many also haven't (lol).
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 7 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,254,294
@previous (B)
I am 27 and unemployed as I just quit my work from home call center job. I live with my parents. I understand that these are huge obstacles, but I never even make it to the point where they are obstacles. I can’t get a woman actually interested in me. Dating apps are a complete waste of time and destroy any confidence I have. I don’t have a lot of friends, and my relationships with the friends I do have are either strained or those friends are married with kids so there’s no “let’s go out as bros” things going on to where I could meet women. My hobbies are things that I do inside the house. I’m in a city of about 20k, metro area 300k. I’m a degenerate coomer. I masturbate multiple times a day to really degrading race play porn. I’m so lonely I have nobody to talk to so I go on a forum where nobody gives a shit just to vocalize how I’m feeling.
Anonymous B replied with this 2 years ago, 10 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,254,295
@previous (A)
Any unconventional interests? Musical talent?
> I understand that these are huge obstacles, but I never even make it to the point where they are obstacles. I can’t get a woman actually interested in me. Dating apps are a complete waste of time and destroy any confidence I have.
I can guarantee you are making it to the point where they are obstacles. I don't know what the dating apps or websites are like these days, but you probably need to be on the ones that have more of a profile, not tinder or whatever the ones are where people are just looking for hook-ups. And if you're on one of the ones with any form of profile, your wreck of a life is going to come through every time, now matter how much effort you put into it being hidden. So you really need to fix that. Priority one.
If you have nothing going for you in terms of interests, music, art, etc, then suck it up and go to school or back to school if you've done that and dropped out. Do a real degree. Not an associates degree in Languages or some other bullshit. The longer you wait the harder it will be.
Anonymous B double-posted this 2 years ago, 4 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,254,296
Also, there are always tons of guys who are older doing degrees in classes full of people much younger than them. You won't necessarily be seen as a loser unless you present yourself as one. Just say you had to figure out your life. Were in a band that failed. Had a long string of addictions. And so on. People romanticize shit like that for some reason, not whatever it is you've been doing. No need to lie. Keep things vague and people can make their own conclusions. Your tattoos and piercings will help you here.