Topic: It's been a week and still no contact
Anonymous A started this discussion 2 years ago #110,093
She's never coming back.Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 2 years ago, 6 minutes later[^] [v] #1,227,020
Good.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 29 seconds later, 6 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,021
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU joined in and replied with this 2 years ago, 1 minute later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,022
That's what a breakup is. Time to work on yourself and move on dude.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 38 seconds later, 8 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,023
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 2 years ago, 1 minute later, 10 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,024
@previous (A)
??? They broke up with you. The relationship is over. You do not get to talk to them anymore until they want you to, which may be never again. That's what a breakup is.
??? They broke up with you. The relationship is over. You do not get to talk to them anymore until they want you to, which may be never again. That's what a breakup is.
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 1 minute later, 11 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,025
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
Why would she insinuate that something could happen in the future?
Why would she insinuate that something could happen in the future?
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 2 years ago, 2 minutes later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,027
@previous (A)
Because it could, or it could not, depending on how she feels about herself, you, and the relationship. The only thing you can do right now is focus on your own life. If she's interested she'll reach back out. If not she won't.
Because it could, or it could not, depending on how she feels about herself, you, and the relationship. The only thing you can do right now is focus on your own life. If she's interested she'll reach back out. If not she won't.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 57 seconds later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,029
@previous (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
Based on this one text message, and the other ones I've posted before, do you think there's a chance?
Based on this one text message, and the other ones I've posted before, do you think there's a chance?
Anonymous B replied with this 2 years ago, 14 minutes later, 29 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,037
@1,227,022 (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
No it isn't.
OP, don't listen to this fucking idiot. Literally everything he says is the opposite of the truth.
Contact her now. Or, if you really care about her, show up at her house unannounced. It will be like the scene of a romantic movie. And if you propose marriage to her when you show up to her place, I have a hard time seeing how she wouldn't say yes.
No it isn't.
OP, don't listen to this fucking idiot. Literally everything he says is the opposite of the truth.
Contact her now. Or, if you really care about her, show up at her house unannounced. It will be like the scene of a romantic movie. And if you propose marriage to her when you show up to her place, I have a hard time seeing how she wouldn't say yes.
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 52 seconds later, 29 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,038
Anonymous B replied with this 2 years ago, 46 seconds later, 30 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,039
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 1 minute later, 32 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,040
@previous (B)
I'm not a retard. I know you're trying to get me in legal trouble and blow my chances because you find it funny to laugh at others' misery.
I'm not a retard. I know you're trying to get me in legal trouble and blow my chances because you find it funny to laugh at others' misery.
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 2 years ago, 2 minutes later, 34 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,042
Anonymous B replied with this 2 years ago, 1 minute later, 35 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,043
@1,227,040 (A)
There's absolutely nothing illegal about what I said.
You are the one with the fucked up relationship. Maybe it's time to stop following whatever idiotic intuition you have and start following the advice of others. (With the exception of of Fake Anon who probably should just turn trans at this point if he wants to continue pursuing women)
There's absolutely nothing illegal about what I said.
You are the one with the fucked up relationship. Maybe it's time to stop following whatever idiotic intuition you have and start following the advice of others. (With the exception of of Fake Anon who probably should just turn trans at this point if he wants to continue pursuing women)
Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU replied with this 2 years ago, 1 hour later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,066
@1,227,029 (A)
I think there's a chance you need to stop thinking about her and fix whatever issues you had that caused the relationship to end so it doesn't happen again.
@previous (B)
Do you think that would work?
I think there's a chance you need to stop thinking about her and fix whatever issues you had that caused the relationship to end so it doesn't happen again.
@previous (B)
Do you think that would work?
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 2 years ago, 43 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,069
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 2 years ago, 1 hour later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,074
@1,227,066 (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
My whole thing is that this was supposed to be that relationship for me where I had learned from my mistakes and corrected them. I used to be an emotional abuser, and I overcompensated this time by being a little bitch simp, and she recognized that and even said so multiple times, typically as a joke, but I know that deep down there's some truth behind every joke. I saw my ex fall in love with a "nice guy" and so I decided that I'm gonna be an all around good guy. I'm gonna shower this new girl with compliments and she'll always know she's loved and cared about. And I came on too strong with it, and she stopped respecting me. We had sex a few times and it was lackluster on my end due to my porn addiction and erectile dysfunction, plus her body was not at all attractive from the belly up. Anyway, she probably found her some dude at the gym that fucks her good and she's not thinking about me anymore.
My whole thing is that this was supposed to be that relationship for me where I had learned from my mistakes and corrected them. I used to be an emotional abuser, and I overcompensated this time by being a little bitch simp, and she recognized that and even said so multiple times, typically as a joke, but I know that deep down there's some truth behind every joke. I saw my ex fall in love with a "nice guy" and so I decided that I'm gonna be an all around good guy. I'm gonna shower this new girl with compliments and she'll always know she's loved and cared about. And I came on too strong with it, and she stopped respecting me. We had sex a few times and it was lackluster on my end due to my porn addiction and erectile dysfunction, plus her body was not at all attractive from the belly up. Anyway, she probably found her some dude at the gym that fucks her good and she's not thinking about me anymore.
squeegee joined in and replied with this 2 years ago, 1 hour later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,077
here's a thing to think about. I don't expect u to answer to a forum. but you might find benefit from these.
tl;dr I wrote this for one person, and the rest of you can easily not read one word past this.
but you did it anyway... we can try again, and you can stop reading, it's nothing you'll miss out on. just believe me
A
how long were y'all together?
1.what was the reason for the breakup?
did y'all get along well?
1.were y'all friends?
B.
why do you love her?
what do you love about her?
tl;dr I wrote this for one person, and the rest of you can easily not read one word past this.
but you did it anyway... we can try again, and you can stop reading, it's nothing you'll miss out on. just believe me
A
how long were y'all together?
1.what was the reason for the breakup?
- 2.what was the real reason?
- 3.what was the reason given?
- 4.why do you think these were different if they were?
did y'all get along well?
1.were y'all friends?
- 2.were y'all together as friends?
- 3did you like her as a friend?
- 4the time you spent with her, would you have spent it with her if you weren't together romantically and wouldn't have ever been?
- 5did you ever NOT try and be intimate with her.
- 6were there times when you felt frustrated because y'all didn't have sex?
- 7did you anticipate or hope to have sex before the times y'all saw each other?
- 8why weren't you friends with her? what was different because you were her boyfriend?
- 9why didn't you want to be best friends?
- 10why don't you want to be her friend?
B.
why do you love her?
what do you love about her?
- 1what do you like about her?
- 2Why do you want to be her boyfriend?
- 3are the things you love about herand the things you like about her
- a. the ways that she made you feel?
- b. the love that you felt for her?
- c. emotional/physical feelings that you felt for her?
- 4without naming anything about yourself, your feeling, your emotions for her and outside of the context of YOU, what do you like about her?
- 5are you sure you like her and don't just like how she makes you feel?
- 6why do you have to be with her?
- 7what do you want about her that isn't a way she makes you feel?
8go back and answer these again but switch places and consider what you think her answers would be
9. if it was harder the second time to know the answers, then do you think she means enough to you? or does the way you feel mean more to you?
that's a hard question to answer. but there's your answer. you aren't getting answers from people here, you're getting opinions. you gotta answer questions. not for you, but for her, bro.
and not for us, these are answers you have for her.
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guys all think in terms of solutions. when there's a problem, guys are excellent at finding a fix for it. but not everything is broken that guys think can be fixed. a lot of these answers in this thread are just guys throwing their answer on top of the pile, as if they've got the wrench and you're asking about bolts. you need to do, don't listen to that, that's wrong you gotta be, or say, or prove, 1. 3b. 5. no, the answer is D.
if anything it'd be lucky if you got an answer from anyone other than you that's worth a damn.
they're bickering over who has the best problem-solving skills. brainstorming and quick, fast solutions, then on to the next one. on and on.
how are you doing?
this is not a very friendly board.
go back through these and ask most of the B questions about yourself. what do you love about yourself, etc.
if we were friends I'd ask stuff like that, I tend to ask people questions like that because it's nice to hear answers that just are trying to be a quick fix solution. like spackling a hole in the wall. so, try and be nice to yourself, be kind, and it's okay to feel better. it's okay to not.
but, fuck having answers all the time. wonder if questions aren't more healthy most times.
ohai there, person who got told twice that this was not worth reading, because its not for you. you're here now tho. so. that's not my fault, that's ur fault, problem-solver. you got told.
it'll sink in eventually.
- a. the ways that she made you feel?
squeegee double-posted this 2 years ago, 10 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,078
@1,227,074 (A)
just be u, sugar. Don't try to be, no one is better or choosing people because of how they measure up. u don't need to do that to yourself either. keep looking in and finding what's there. other people can see that. find someone who does the same, they're looking for themselves too, that's how people see each other.
love yourself. people find that love too
just be u, sugar. Don't try to be, no one is better or choosing people because of how they measure up. u don't need to do that to yourself either. keep looking in and finding what's there. other people can see that. find someone who does the same, they're looking for themselves too, that's how people see each other.
love yourself. people find that love too
Anonymous B replied with this 2 years ago, 6 hours later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,126
Anonymous D replied with this 2 years ago, 3 hours later, 16 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,227,148
It's over. Don't push it or you will come across as creepy and aggressive.