Topic: the friendship rainbow
Anonymous A started this discussion 3 years ago #108,678
The following is an explanation of a concept called "the friendship rainbow", which is a quick and easy model for evaluating friendly relationships in your life, and also understanding when to move on from them. It also lets you know when a certain friend will require more attention and service, and when a friend is not as desirable to be invested in of one's vital resources.
The concept of a "friendship rainbow" that describes social exchange in friendships as a spectrum, with low resouce input high resource output friendships on one end (represented by the color red) and low resource output high resource input friendship relationships on the other end (represented by the color violet) is an interesting and easy way to think about the dynamics of social exchange in friendships.
In general, low benefit friendships that require a lot of tender love and care (red) involve one person receiving significantly more benefits (such as emotional support, companionship, financial or practical help) than they are giving. These types of friendships may feel one-sided and may be difficult to maintain over time. On the other hand, low benefit given to a friend relationships (violet) involve one person giving significantly more benefits than they are receiving. These types of friendships may lead to feelings of resentment or burnout if not addressed. When some one is in the red spectrum of friendship, it is time to consider letting it balance out on its own, or simply removing them from your friendship rainbow all together, and placing them into a more suitable emotional compart- such as an aquaintence that you know.
Equal benefit friendships (green) are characterized by a balance of give and take in the relationship, where both individuals feel that they are receiving and giving roughly the same amount of benefits from each friendship partner's investment of personal resources. These types of friendships tend to be the most sustainable and fulfilling, and are easily the most fair and enriching to all parties involved.
It's important to note that friendship dynamics can change over time and that no friendship is perfectly balanced all the time. There is a weather to all friendships, and sometimes there is strange weather! Life circumstances such as job loss, illness, or a move can temporarily throw a friendship out of balance, but with good communication, a healthy friendship dynamic will adjust over time. The friendship rainbow helps you understand the circumstances that cause fluctations in social exchanges, and also to anticipate and reflect upon them over time in a way that is beneficial. All relationships come to an end eventually, and knowing this can help you keep a healthy perspective upon how to correctly nuture, receive, and influence the friendships in your life.
It's also worth noting that the dynamics of social exchange in friendships can vary depending on the culture, context, or people involved. For example, some cultures may place a greater emphasis on reciprocity in social exchange or prioritize loyalty over balance. When thinking about your friendship rainbow, think about what matters to you, but also keep things in a sensical input versus output framework- look at variables such as time invested, thought invested, dollars and cents invested. These can help you keep a realistic view on where these people are on the friendship rainbow instead of where they seem to be.
To filter and balance relationships, it's essential to be aware of your own needs and boundaries, and to communicate them clearly to your friends. It's also important to be open to feedback and willing to adjust your behavior in a relationship as needed. Warm feelings of love should be tempered with realistic expectations, patience, and most of all communication. Setting healthy boundaries, being honest and open in communication, and being willing to compromise are all important strategies for filtering and balancing relationships.
It's also important to find a balance between time and energy invested in any relationship and the benefits received from the friendship. It's good to have a diverse group of friends that bring different benefits and fulfill different needs, not to put all your eggs in one basket and depend on one person for everything.
Furthermore, it's important to understand that some friendships may naturally run their course and come to an end, and that's okay. It's also important to be willing to let go of a friendship that no longer serve your best interested, because how helpful can you be to others without looking out for yourself? By being intentional and mindful about the relationships in our lives, we can create a more balanced, fulfilling, and supportive social network.
In summary, the concept of a "friendship rainbow" can be a useful framework for thinking about the dynamics of social exchange in friendships. By being aware of the balance of give and take in a relationship, and being open to adjusting our behavior as needed, we can create stronger, more fulfilling friendships.
The concept of a "friendship rainbow" that describes social exchange in friendships as a spectrum, with low resouce input high resource output friendships on one end (represented by the color red) and low resource output high resource input friendship relationships on the other end (represented by the color violet) is an interesting and easy way to think about the dynamics of social exchange in friendships.
In general, low benefit friendships that require a lot of tender love and care (red) involve one person receiving significantly more benefits (such as emotional support, companionship, financial or practical help) than they are giving. These types of friendships may feel one-sided and may be difficult to maintain over time. On the other hand, low benefit given to a friend relationships (violet) involve one person giving significantly more benefits than they are receiving. These types of friendships may lead to feelings of resentment or burnout if not addressed. When some one is in the red spectrum of friendship, it is time to consider letting it balance out on its own, or simply removing them from your friendship rainbow all together, and placing them into a more suitable emotional compart- such as an aquaintence that you know.
Equal benefit friendships (green) are characterized by a balance of give and take in the relationship, where both individuals feel that they are receiving and giving roughly the same amount of benefits from each friendship partner's investment of personal resources. These types of friendships tend to be the most sustainable and fulfilling, and are easily the most fair and enriching to all parties involved.
It's important to note that friendship dynamics can change over time and that no friendship is perfectly balanced all the time. There is a weather to all friendships, and sometimes there is strange weather! Life circumstances such as job loss, illness, or a move can temporarily throw a friendship out of balance, but with good communication, a healthy friendship dynamic will adjust over time. The friendship rainbow helps you understand the circumstances that cause fluctations in social exchanges, and also to anticipate and reflect upon them over time in a way that is beneficial. All relationships come to an end eventually, and knowing this can help you keep a healthy perspective upon how to correctly nuture, receive, and influence the friendships in your life.
It's also worth noting that the dynamics of social exchange in friendships can vary depending on the culture, context, or people involved. For example, some cultures may place a greater emphasis on reciprocity in social exchange or prioritize loyalty over balance. When thinking about your friendship rainbow, think about what matters to you, but also keep things in a sensical input versus output framework- look at variables such as time invested, thought invested, dollars and cents invested. These can help you keep a realistic view on where these people are on the friendship rainbow instead of where they seem to be.
To filter and balance relationships, it's essential to be aware of your own needs and boundaries, and to communicate them clearly to your friends. It's also important to be open to feedback and willing to adjust your behavior in a relationship as needed. Warm feelings of love should be tempered with realistic expectations, patience, and most of all communication. Setting healthy boundaries, being honest and open in communication, and being willing to compromise are all important strategies for filtering and balancing relationships.
It's also important to find a balance between time and energy invested in any relationship and the benefits received from the friendship. It's good to have a diverse group of friends that bring different benefits and fulfill different needs, not to put all your eggs in one basket and depend on one person for everything.
Furthermore, it's important to understand that some friendships may naturally run their course and come to an end, and that's okay. It's also important to be willing to let go of a friendship that no longer serve your best interested, because how helpful can you be to others without looking out for yourself? By being intentional and mindful about the relationships in our lives, we can create a more balanced, fulfilling, and supportive social network.
In summary, the concept of a "friendship rainbow" can be a useful framework for thinking about the dynamics of social exchange in friendships. By being aware of the balance of give and take in a relationship, and being open to adjusting our behavior as needed, we can create stronger, more fulfilling friendships.
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 10 minutes later[^] [v] #1,216,722
Fag.
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God psychology seems depressing
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Rainbows are a symbol of white antinatalism and hate for genderconforming persons.
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Lady D !Pool..v42s replied with this 3 years ago, 33 minutes later, 22 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,216,778
@previous (D)
I was pretty sure it was just a high statement that someone questioned and then a high response and the cycle repeated. I don't want to try to debate what a debate is, but I don't think we were having one
I was pretty sure it was just a high statement that someone questioned and then a high response and the cycle repeated. I don't want to try to debate what a debate is, but I don't think we were having one
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@1,216,778 (Lady D !Pool..v42s)
Put the blunt down. You are attempting to counter what I'm saying and I am unwilling to concede. That is a debate.
Put the blunt down. You are attempting to counter what I'm saying and I am unwilling to concede. That is a debate.
