Topic: Is it worth tracking down and apologizing to people I wronged many years ago?
Anonymous A started this discussion 3 years ago #107,387
I've been thinking a lot about my past behavior and I've decided I'm really not proud of a lot of things I've done, particularly when I was a teenager. Should I track down the people I've wronged and apologize? I have some reservations about the prospect, but I might just be grasping for excuses to take the easy route.
For one, I've recognized over the years that I have a tendency to greatly focus on the negatives about myself, and assume others do the same. It's possible my actions did not affect people the way I assumed, and it's possible and even likely that these people haven't even thought about me in many years. So it may seem weird to them to suddenly get a message out of the blue from someone they barely remember apologizing for some minor thing they had completely forgotten about. I also know that if someone contacted me about having wronged me as a teenager, my reaction would be something like, that's a weird thing to apologize for, we were kids and kids are idiots, don't sweat it. So if I (theoretically) grant that reprieve to others, wouldn't others likely feel the same way about my actions? Similarly, should one even feel responsible for things they did with the underdeveloped brain and very small worldview of a teenager?
What do you think, forum?
For one, I've recognized over the years that I have a tendency to greatly focus on the negatives about myself, and assume others do the same. It's possible my actions did not affect people the way I assumed, and it's possible and even likely that these people haven't even thought about me in many years. So it may seem weird to them to suddenly get a message out of the blue from someone they barely remember apologizing for some minor thing they had completely forgotten about. I also know that if someone contacted me about having wronged me as a teenager, my reaction would be something like, that's a weird thing to apologize for, we were kids and kids are idiots, don't sweat it. So if I (theoretically) grant that reprieve to others, wouldn't others likely feel the same way about my actions? Similarly, should one even feel responsible for things they did with the underdeveloped brain and very small worldview of a teenager?
What do you think, forum?
Anonymous B joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 45 seconds later[^] [v] #1,206,101
nope
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,103
What types of things are you thinking of apologizing for. Examples?
Most likely this won't end well, or will be awkward at best. There's always a reason why people drift from our lives. No point in roping them back in without very good reason.
Most likely this won't end well, or will be awkward at best. There's always a reason why people drift from our lives. No point in roping them back in without very good reason.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 5 minutes later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,110
I think it depends on what you did
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 47 seconds later, 9 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,111
@1,206,103 (C)
Nothing too horrible. The biggest that comes to mind was when I was 12 or 13 and ditched my long time, then closest friend rather cruelly because he was very "unpopular" and got bullied a lot and I didn't want to be associated with him so I could make more "normal" friends.
Nothing too horrible. The biggest that comes to mind was when I was 12 or 13 and ditched my long time, then closest friend rather cruelly because he was very "unpopular" and got bullied a lot and I didn't want to be associated with him so I could make more "normal" friends.
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 12 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,112
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 14 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,117
@previous (C)
15-16 years ago. We went to high school together and occasionally had interactions, but we mostly avoided each other. No idea what happened to him after high school.
15-16 years ago. We went to high school together and occasionally had interactions, but we mostly avoided each other. No idea what happened to him after high school.
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Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 4 minutes later, 18 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,120
@previous (A)
I'd say you probably shouldn't contact him. Not unless you knew him since like pre-K and were close friends until that point.
There's been too much time for your lives to have diverged beyond the point that any future contact would be meaningful. I think life can be kinda like a random walk like that.
I'd say you probably shouldn't contact him. Not unless you knew him since like pre-K and were close friends until that point.
There's been too much time for your lives to have diverged beyond the point that any future contact would be meaningful. I think life can be kinda like a random walk like that.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 8 minutes later, 27 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,131
@previous (C)
We had been best friends since we were 8. Which of course now as an adult 4-5 years doesn't feel like much time at all, but when you're 12 it feels like forever. At the time it really did feel like we had been friends basically our entire lives up until that point. It feels especially bad because I was his only real friend and when I ditched him, he had no one to turn to when he'd get bullied. Later on in high school he became friends with another similarly troubled kid who came from another school, but there were several years where he must have felt all alone because of me.
We had been best friends since we were 8. Which of course now as an adult 4-5 years doesn't feel like much time at all, but when you're 12 it feels like forever. At the time it really did feel like we had been friends basically our entire lives up until that point. It feels especially bad because I was his only real friend and when I ditched him, he had no one to turn to when he'd get bullied. Later on in high school he became friends with another similarly troubled kid who came from another school, but there were several years where he must have felt all alone because of me.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 29 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,134
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 30 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,136
Sometimes it's best to leave the past where it's at, in the past. No sense in digging up old past issues about some things most people have probably forgotten about.
I have done cruel things to people when I was 11 or 12, but I'm not digging up the past to apologize.
I have done cruel things to people when I was 11 or 12, but I'm not digging up the past to apologize.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 12 seconds later, 31 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,137
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 53 seconds later, 32 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,139
@1,206,131 (A)
Well, idk, then. Maybe contact him? I personally wouldn't. You have to treat your life like driving a car: never look back.
But if you do, let us know how it goes. Morbid curiosity.
Well, idk, then. Maybe contact him? I personally wouldn't. You have to treat your life like driving a car: never look back.
But if you do, let us know how it goes. Morbid curiosity.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 9 seconds later, 32 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,140
There's also a girl in high school who I casually sexually harassed for a couple years. She had a reputation for being a slut and my friends thought the things I would say to her were hilarious. At the time I did too, but looking back I definitely crossed some lines and I'm sure I made her far more uncomfortable than she let on.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 44 seconds later, 32 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,141
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 57 seconds later, 33 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,143
@1,206,139 (C)
> You have to treat your life like driving a car: never look back.
I've always felt similarly, but lately I've begun thinking that a lot of my problems in life stem from running away from things in my past instead of properly dealing with them.
> You have to treat your life like driving a car: never look back.
I've always felt similarly, but lately I've begun thinking that a lot of my problems in life stem from running away from things in my past instead of properly dealing with them.
Anonymous E replied with this 3 years ago, 45 seconds later, 34 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,145
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 35 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,146
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 54 seconds later, 36 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,147
@1,206,143 (A)
With almost complete certainty I can tell you that doing this will not fix any problems in your life. This stuff is all dead and buried.
Whatever is going on in your life here and now, maybe deal with that instead.
With almost complete certainty I can tell you that doing this will not fix any problems in your life. This stuff is all dead and buried.
Whatever is going on in your life here and now, maybe deal with that instead.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 39 seconds later, 37 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,148
@1,206,145 (E)
I feel like a fucking clairvoyant
I said to my wife before Op made that post, that this was leading up to him confessing about how he hurt a woman in a sexual way. Then like two minutes later, he posted that
I feel like a fucking clairvoyant
I said to my wife before Op made that post, that this was leading up to him confessing about how he hurt a woman in a sexual way. Then like two minutes later, he posted that
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 13 seconds later, 37 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,149
@1,206,143 (A)
it's not those people's job to make you feel better about "what you did to them" or whatever else you're ruminating on...
it's not those people's job to make you feel better about "what you did to them" or whatever else you're ruminating on...
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 19 seconds later, 38 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,150
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 39 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,152
@1,206,148 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
Friendship, sex, betrayal. Almost all human affairs and drama can be put in these terms. You're no clairvoyant.
Friendship, sex, betrayal. Almost all human affairs and drama can be put in these terms. You're no clairvoyant.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 12 seconds later, 39 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,153
@1,206,148 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
> that this was leading up to him confessing about how he hurt a woman in a sexual way.
Jesus I didn't rape her
> that this was leading up to him confessing about how he hurt a woman in a sexual way.
Jesus I didn't rape her
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 46 seconds later, 40 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,154
@previous (A)
you're thinking about "tracking her down" right now 😂
go get therapy instead... those people from your past can't help you now
you're thinking about "tracking her down" right now 😂
go get therapy instead... those people from your past can't help you now
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 46 seconds later, 41 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,155
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Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 8 seconds later, 41 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,157
@1,206,153 (A)
Ignore her. She isn't going to be able to hold a conversation now that she's set off. And no, this isn't clairvoyance, it's just plain obvious.
Ignore her. She isn't going to be able to hold a conversation now that she's set off. And no, this isn't clairvoyance, it's just plain obvious.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 15 seconds later, 41 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,158
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 12 seconds later, 41 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,159
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 5 seconds later, 42 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,160
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 25 seconds later, 42 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,161
@1,206,157 (C)
Yeah it should have been obvious that Op sexually harassed someone and now is creepily obsessing over it
Happens to everyone
Yeah it should have been obvious that Op sexually harassed someone and now is creepily obsessing over it
Happens to everyone
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 7 seconds later, 42 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,162
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 14 seconds later, 42 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,163
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 58 seconds later, 43 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,164
@1,206,160 (A)
> To apologize for being an asshole, you equate that to rape, what the fuck?
nobody said rape until you brought it up... completely out of nowhere. calm down and get help from a professional
> To apologize for being an asshole, you equate that to rape, what the fuck?
nobody said rape until you brought it up... completely out of nowhere. calm down and get help from a professional
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 10 seconds later, 43 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,165
@1,206,162 (B)
No, I cited the correct post.
@1,206,163 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I'm confused kook, are you saying I should or shouldn't contact her?
No, I cited the correct post.
@1,206,163 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I'm confused kook, are you saying I should or shouldn't contact her?
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 45 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,166
@previous (A)
You meant to cite my post? I hadn't said anything about rape at all. Try to get some sleep okay? you'll feel better in the morning
You meant to cite my post? I hadn't said anything about rape at all. Try to get some sleep okay? you'll feel better in the morning
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 7 seconds later, 45 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,167
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Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 20 seconds later, 45 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,170
@1,206,161 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
Why are you getting so bent out of shape when you don't know what he said? Or how she took it. In terms of damage, his other friend that he mentioned first could've been more scarred. Not saying that's the case, but it's weird that you got so triggered on this one while knowing so little.
Why are you getting so bent out of shape when you don't know what he said? Or how she took it. In terms of damage, his other friend that he mentioned first could've been more scarred. Not saying that's the case, but it's weird that you got so triggered on this one while knowing so little.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 23 seconds later, 46 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,171
@1,206,166 (B)
You implied that's why I wanted to "track her down". If that isn't what you meant, then I apologize. But that's how it read to me.
You implied that's why I wanted to "track her down". If that isn't what you meant, then I apologize. But that's how it read to me.
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Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 42 seconds later, 47 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,174
@1,206,167 (A)
But you did though. What I actually said to her was:
He's leading with a benign story about a friend, because the next post is going to be some creepy sexual thing he did to a girl
And two minutes later, there we were
But you did though. What I actually said to her was:
He's leading with a benign story about a friend, because the next post is going to be some creepy sexual thing he did to a girl
And two minutes later, there we were
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 31 seconds later, 47 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,175
@1,206,171 (A)
Go read your own original post in this topic... you made an entire topic about tracking people down. Don't act like I put those words in your mouth
Go read your own original post in this topic... you made an entire topic about tracking people down. Don't act like I put those words in your mouth
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 5 seconds later, 47 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,176
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 8 seconds later, 47 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,178
@1,206,169 (B)
Kook did, not you.
@1,206,170 (C)
Yes, as the person involved in both incidents, I can confidently say that my friend who I abandoned was far more hurt than the girl I made some off color jokes to.
Kook did, not you.
@1,206,170 (C)
Yes, as the person involved in both incidents, I can confidently say that my friend who I abandoned was far more hurt than the girl I made some off color jokes to.
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Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 30 seconds later, 49 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,184
@1,206,174 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
You sound hateful and upset. Deal with your own issues before trying to counsel others.
You sound hateful and upset. Deal with your own issues before trying to counsel others.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 3 seconds later, 49 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,185
@1,206,175 (B)
Tracking down to send a brief apologetic message on facebook or something, not track them down to rape.
Tracking down to send a brief apologetic message on facebook or something, not track them down to rape.
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@1,206,174 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
If anything, the story about the girl is the benign one. The one with my friend I feel far more guilty about. I really like you kook but you're kind of being a cunt about this for no reason. Maybe I just exaggerated your intentions with the "sexual harm" remark.
@1,206,179 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
It may be true that apologizing is a selfish way to feel better, but I'm not after any kind of communication. I don't want a conversation, I had in mind more like just dropping them a message on Facebook briefly apologizing and leaving it at that.
@1,206,182 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
What do you mean? Just because I wronged someone else worse doesn't mean I didn't wrong her too. They both deserve apologies. It isn't just these two people either.
If anything, the story about the girl is the benign one. The one with my friend I feel far more guilty about. I really like you kook but you're kind of being a cunt about this for no reason. Maybe I just exaggerated your intentions with the "sexual harm" remark.
@1,206,179 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
It may be true that apologizing is a selfish way to feel better, but I'm not after any kind of communication. I don't want a conversation, I had in mind more like just dropping them a message on Facebook briefly apologizing and leaving it at that.
@1,206,182 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
What do you mean? Just because I wronged someone else worse doesn't mean I didn't wrong her too. They both deserve apologies. It isn't just these two people either.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 14 seconds later, 54 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,208
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Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 17 seconds later, 55 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,210
Op, if your casual sexual harassment isn't a big deal, why contact her?
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 4 seconds later, 55 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,211
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@1,206,148 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
Predicting that a minichan user sexually harassed a woman is basically like predicting the sun will rise in the morning tbh.
Predicting that a minichan user sexually harassed a woman is basically like predicting the sun will rise in the morning tbh.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 27 seconds later, 56 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,215
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 0 seconds later, 56 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,216
@1,206,189 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I think you should tell me this at least five or six more times to make sure I understand.
I think you should tell me this at least five or six more times to make sure I understand.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 17 seconds later, 56 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,217
@1,206,207 (A)
You really shouldnt do it. Most women would be creeped out by you contacting them out of the blue for this
I'm okay with being a cunt if it keeps you from making this mistake
You really shouldnt do it. Most women would be creeped out by you contacting them out of the blue for this
I'm okay with being a cunt if it keeps you from making this mistake
(Edited 1 minute later.)
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 12 seconds later, 58 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,223
@1,206,210 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I didn't say it wasn't a big deal? I mean in the grand scheme of things it isn't a big deal, but it is something I regret. That's all this is about, things I did that I regret. It doesn't have to ruin someone's life for me to regret it.
I didn't say it wasn't a big deal? I mean in the grand scheme of things it isn't a big deal, but it is something I regret. That's all this is about, things I did that I regret. It doesn't have to ruin someone's life for me to regret it.
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 3 seconds later, 58 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,224
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Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 59 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,228
@1,206,217 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I do think you're right that contacting her would potentially cause more harm than it could potentially cause good. But what about my old friend, or other people I have wronged that is unrelated to sexual harassment?
I do think you're right that contacting her would potentially cause more harm than it could potentially cause good. But what about my old friend, or other people I have wronged that is unrelated to sexual harassment?
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 25 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,229
Kook replied with this 3 years ago, 10 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,230
@1,206,223 (A)
You don't know that you didn't ruin her life. This is sexual harassment we're talking about. SEXUAL HARASSMENT. Repeat this. Tattoo it onto your thick scull. SEXUAL HARASSMENT.
You don't know that you didn't ruin her life. This is sexual harassment we're talking about. SEXUAL HARASSMENT. Repeat this. Tattoo it onto your thick scull. SEXUAL HARASSMENT.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 30 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,231
@1,206,228 (A)
I really think it depends on how you've wronged them
But it's probably best to talk to a professional about these things instead
I really think it depends on how you've wronged them
But it's probably best to talk to a professional about these things instead
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Kook replied with this 3 years ago, 40 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,237
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 25 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,238
OP/anonC should probably just stick to sucking slimy bikers' penises and keep that pretty head nice and empty so (s)he doesn't go out and start harassing people and begging their forgiveness for shit they aren't having a crisis over like OP is. Just stick to the dicks, you'll enjoy life better
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 16 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,239
@1,206,235 (A)
This is me fully not being mean, okay?
It's not fair to make the people you've wronged, be your sin eaters
Just be kinder to others from now on
This is me fully not being mean, okay?
It's not fair to make the people you've wronged, be your sin eaters
Just be kinder to others from now on
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,240
@1,206,231 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
> But it's probably best to talk to a professional about these things instead
Do you mean instead of talking to minichan about it, or instead of contacting people from my past?
> But it's probably best to talk to a professional about these things instead
Do you mean instead of talking to minichan about it, or instead of contacting people from my past?
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,241
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 3 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,242
@1,206,240 (A)
I cannot stop you from being a creep. I've tried as hard as I'm willing
Find a psychiatrist and have a good night
I cannot stop you from being a creep. I've tried as hard as I'm willing
Find a psychiatrist and have a good night
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC double-posted this 3 years ago, 53 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,243
@1,206,214 (Fake anon !ZkUt8arUCU)
It is a weird feeling to try and talk men out of being creeps
It's like lecturing a brick wall
It is a weird feeling to try and talk men out of being creeps
It's like lecturing a brick wall
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 5 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,244
@1,206,239 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
Do you really think that is all anyone would ever get out of an apology like that? Honest question, not being a jerk. For example my old friend, would he not see it as "this person feels regret for having wronged me and wants to apologize" but instead as "this person wants to bring up old drama just to feel better about himself"? Is there no way to right old wrongs?
Do you really think that is all anyone would ever get out of an apology like that? Honest question, not being a jerk. For example my old friend, would he not see it as "this person feels regret for having wronged me and wants to apologize" but instead as "this person wants to bring up old drama just to feel better about himself"? Is there no way to right old wrongs?
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,248
@1,206,242 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
@1,206,243 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
You are so judgemental. Get off your fucking high horse.
@1,206,243 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
You are so judgemental. Get off your fucking high horse.
Anonymous A (OP) triple-posted this 3 years ago, 5 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,249
Well I regret making this thread. I guess Minichan is not meant for any meaningful discussion. It is for jokes about shitting on potatoes and feuds between old men and paranormal enthusiasts. I'll stay on topic from now on to not draw the ire of the fora.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,250
@previous (A)
I hope you don't regret it, because it taught you that the past needs to stay in the past
I hope you don't regret it, because it taught you that the past needs to stay in the past
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,251
@previous (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
You know, that's really all you had to say instead of calling me a creep and acting like I did something far more horrible than I really did.
You know, that's really all you had to say instead of calling me a creep and acting like I did something far more horrible than I really did.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,253
@previous (A)
I'm sorry that my wording hurt you
But if I didn't show you how it would have looked, would you have taken it to heart?
I'm sorry that my wording hurt you
But if I didn't show you how it would have looked, would you have taken it to heart?
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,256
@previous (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
Truthfully I doubt I would have ever contacted anyone anyway. I guess I just wanted to vent. But yes, I would have taken what you said to heart because like I said earlier (before calling you a cunt, sorry about that) I do like you kook and I respect your opinions.
Truthfully I doubt I would have ever contacted anyone anyway. I guess I just wanted to vent. But yes, I would have taken what you said to heart because like I said earlier (before calling you a cunt, sorry about that) I do like you kook and I respect your opinions.
Anonymous A (OP) double-posted this 3 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,261
I'm sorry I called you a cunt, kook. I know you're just going off of the vague information I provided. And I guess I do deserve to be called a creep for what I did,e ven if it was a long time ago.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 10 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,266
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 5 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,267
@1,206,249 (A)
> Well I regret making this thread. I guess Minichan is not meant for any meaningful discussion. It is for jokes about shitting on potatoes and feuds between old men and paranormal enthusiasts. I'll stay on topic from now on to not draw the ire of the fora.
I mean, that's all true, I guess, but don't let some old crone and her side-kick scare you off from making good topics.
If she gets to you, just put her on your ignore list, and/or just stop replying to her. None of this was even unexpected; I called this shitstorm 100+ posts ago. Just treat her like a crazy old, racist grandpa. She's okay unless the topic, god forbid, approaches anything resembling a discussion of women's issues.
> Well I regret making this thread. I guess Minichan is not meant for any meaningful discussion. It is for jokes about shitting on potatoes and feuds between old men and paranormal enthusiasts. I'll stay on topic from now on to not draw the ire of the fora.
I mean, that's all true, I guess, but don't let some old crone and her side-kick scare you off from making good topics.
If she gets to you, just put her on your ignore list, and/or just stop replying to her. None of this was even unexpected; I called this shitstorm 100+ posts ago. Just treat her like a crazy old, racist grandpa. She's okay unless the topic, god forbid, approaches anything resembling a discussion of women's issues.
Anonymous H joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 42 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,271
@1,206,153 (A)
> > that this was leading up to him confessing about how he hurt a woman in a sexual way.
> Jesus I didn't rape her
Pay no attention to her blabbering. She is just getting her nightly fix of being melodramatic.
> > that this was leading up to him confessing about how he hurt a woman in a sexual way.
> Jesus I didn't rape her
Pay no attention to her blabbering. She is just getting her nightly fix of being melodramatic.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 1 hour later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,283
@previous (H)
You conveniently forgot to quote the parts where OP was the one who said they participated in sexually charged bullying in high-school, and then when Kook described that as harmful, OP freaked out and started crying that they never raped anyone... despite nobody having suggested that at all 🤔
You conveniently forgot to quote the parts where OP was the one who said they participated in sexually charged bullying in high-school, and then when Kook described that as harmful, OP freaked out and started crying that they never raped anyone... despite nobody having suggested that at all 🤔
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 7 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,286
@previous (B)
> despite nobody having suggested that at all 🤔
That is absolutely what that wording suggested.
> despite nobody having suggested that at all 🤔
That is absolutely what that wording suggested.
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 10 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,287
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 15 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,206,299
squeegee joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 2 months later, 2 months after the original post[^] [v] #1,217,187
@1,206,173 (B)
> squeegee, fuck off please
literally right now is the first time i'm seeing this thread. i searched squeegee and -wow- y'all. idk wtf makes y'all think i've posted more than twice since like last September.
again, not me, hasn't been me, never was me.
and at this point - fuck y'all. wtf. eat a dick chumps.
> squeegee, fuck off please
literally right now is the first time i'm seeing this thread. i searched squeegee and -wow- y'all. idk wtf makes y'all think i've posted more than twice since like last September.
again, not me, hasn't been me, never was me.
and at this point - fuck y'all. wtf. eat a dick chumps.
