@previous (B)
It ended for a myriad of reasons, partly because I was mean to her once in a while and she got tired of it and blocked me. Found a new guy immediately and they moved in together, they're probably gonna have a kid and get married. I'm hopeless. I have my eyes on someone that I work with but she's 19 and probably gay. I know, I know, don't shit where you eat. It's not a permanent job though.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 27 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,205,737
@1,205,735 (JIM)
Try talking to the 19 year old girl like a normal person. Be friendly, make normal conversation. If she is interested, you will pick up on it. If not, don't push it and just be a good person who is friendly.
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,205,739
@1,205,736 (D)
We weren't officially together for the end of it. We had broken up a couple years prior but maintained a quasi-relationship for a while. I lost my mind when I found out she was seeing a new guy, because we never really discussed those kind of boundaries in our post-relationship fake relationship.
@previous (B)
I chat with her a little bit when it's not too busy but this girl is sooo quiet. I don't know if it's because she doesn't care for me or if she's just shy in general. She seems like one of those people who only speak when spoken to, which is how I am as well. So when I do speak with her, she actually is responsive a little bit. Just think she's socially awkward. Yesterday someone cracked a joke and she laughed then looked at me, which I thought was a good sign.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,205,740
@previous (JIM)
It sounds like you have no reason to believe she is Not interested. Just keep being normal and friendly. Maybe ask her what she likes to do for fun. Keep it non-threatening. If she warms up to you, then maybe ask her to go for coffee or something. It takes time.
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,205,741
@previous (B)
But she's tomboy as fuck! Deep voice, short hair. Highwater pants and Sketchers. She's a total cutie. Into graphic design according to our boss. Haven't had a chance to ask her about that yet.
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 40 seconds later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,205,743
@previous (B)
And then I have to live with the embarrassment of trying to ask out a coworker and failing. I can't live with that kind of embarrassment.
Anonymous B replied with this 3 years ago, 8 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,205,747
@1,205,743 (JIM)
It happens all the time. If she says no, just say something like, "Ok, I understand. I hope we can be work friends." Then talk about something else. It happens all the time. Wayne Gretzky said, "You miss one hundred percent of the shots you don't take".