Anonymous A started this discussion 3 years ago#107,292
Have you ever thought about the difference between just being comfortable with someone, and being really comfortable with someone?
Now, I know there's strangers that you don't feel comfortable with, and then there's some people that you meet, and even if you don't know them that well, you mysteriously experience a sense of comfort.
And who knows what triggers it? I mean, you don't even know why you feel comfortable around them: it could be some quality about them, it could be their voice, it could be the rhythm - at which - they speak. It could be something else that you're not even sure of.
And when you experience that sense of well-being, (deep breath) then maybe - maybe - the more you feel at ease with a person, the more you can permit yourself to do things that you wouldn't do around strangers. Like, like, you might be able to say things that are on your mind, as you relax around the person you're with. (Deep breath)
But now, with me, I find, ah, that there's also a deeper level of comfort. It's the comfort you feel when you're with someone who you feel extremely secure around, as if you've known this person for a long time. Me, now, how I see it is it allows you to just let go completely and deeply relax when you're in this person's presence. Because some quality about them lets you get this sense of reassurance about them.
To me, now, one thing that I, that I find - and maybe you find this too, I dunno - it's, it's like when you listen to them, what they say becomes a lot more fascinating because you feel so calm around them that it allows your imagination to take off, and think of all the fun things you'd like to be doing with them, to the point that you can plan out the time in your future to do all these things with them, these fun things, that you just really would enjoy doing with them.