Topic: Will I always be single?
JIM started this discussion 3 years ago #106,684
I never have the balls to talk to a girl I like, I don't make a lot of money (I'm working on it), and I'm average looking.
LadyD !Pool..v42s joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later[^] [v] #1,198,915
Maybe, put less attention on it and find other stuff to do instead of persue women and maybe they'll start to persue you in return?
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,916
FOREVER ALONE
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 18 seconds later, 3 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,917
@1,198,915 (LadyD !Pool..v42s)
Right. Maybe focus more on yourself before trying to convince a woman she should focus on you.
Right. Maybe focus more on yourself before trying to convince a woman she should focus on you.
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 49 seconds later, 3 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,918
@1,198,915 (LadyD !Pool..v42s)
I don't really pursue women though. I want them a whole lot, I'd love to have a qt girlfriend to cuddle with, but I don't actively approach or chase them ever at all. I rarely interact with women, except for maybe brief encounters when one is working in a retail setting. I never have natural conversations with women.
I'm working on school right now, just started a new job to get a little bit of money coming in, and I've been improving my appearance. I'm still not turning any heads though.
I don't really pursue women though. I want them a whole lot, I'd love to have a qt girlfriend to cuddle with, but I don't actively approach or chase them ever at all. I rarely interact with women, except for maybe brief encounters when one is working in a retail setting. I never have natural conversations with women.
I'm working on school right now, just started a new job to get a little bit of money coming in, and I've been improving my appearance. I'm still not turning any heads though.
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 6 minutes later, 10 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,920
Ask Bert for advice?
LadyD !Pool..v42s replied with this 3 years ago, 7 minutes later, 17 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,922
@1,198,918 (JIM)
More along the lines of put it out of your mind even, try to not think about your desire, unless during like using it to focus on a task for a goal, but don't let needing a woman in your life pervade your constant thoughts and motivations.
More along the lines of put it out of your mind even, try to not think about your desire, unless during like using it to focus on a task for a goal, but don't let needing a woman in your life pervade your constant thoughts and motivations.
LadyD !Pool..v42s double-posted this 3 years ago, 34 seconds later, 18 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,923
@1,198,917 (D)
Just finding other things to occupy the mind so Jim isn't just focused on a negative present
Just finding other things to occupy the mind so Jim isn't just focused on a negative present
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 4 minutes later, 22 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,928
@1,198,918 (JIM)
My gf chased after me, which is odd cause it was usually me doing the chasing. Finally started dating and we've been together for about 17 years.
My gf chased after me, which is odd cause it was usually me doing the chasing. Finally started dating and we've been together for about 17 years.
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 23 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,930
@1,198,920 (E)
I'm a newfag, who is Bert?
@1,198,922 (LadyD !Pool..v42s)
@1,198,923 (LadyD !Pool..v42s)
I don't know how to though. That's the thing. I don't know how to get over the fear that I will never have a wife and children and be able to pass on my legacy to a new generation. My brothers are married with kids. My cousins are married with kids. I'm the only one that isn't and I'm running out of time to find a childfree woman who wants to start a family.
I'm a newfag, who is Bert?
@1,198,922 (LadyD !Pool..v42s)
@1,198,923 (LadyD !Pool..v42s)
I don't know how to though. That's the thing. I don't know how to get over the fear that I will never have a wife and children and be able to pass on my legacy to a new generation. My brothers are married with kids. My cousins are married with kids. I'm the only one that isn't and I'm running out of time to find a childfree woman who wants to start a family.
Anonymous F replied with this 3 years ago, 35 seconds later, 23 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,931
@1,198,920 (E)
This is where the Garfield meme should happen...
"Sometimes you gotta show a woman you mean business"... or however it went.
This is where the Garfield meme should happen...
"Sometimes you gotta show a woman you mean business"... or however it went.
Anonymous F double-posted this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 25 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,932
@1,198,930 (JIM)
Bert is a waste of oxygen. If you upset him, he will threaten to curbstomp your face into the ground, then rape your ass multiple times.
Bert is a waste of oxygen. If you upset him, he will threaten to curbstomp your face into the ground, then rape your ass multiple times.
LadyD !Pool..v42s replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 27 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,934
@1,198,930 (JIM)
It's hard for me to relate in the family pressure aspect as I'm an only child, and I don't have any good advice on how to put that fear out of your mind, but in my experience, once I stop focusing on the negative aspects of some possible future, I find more time/energy to focus on things in my life that may be constructive for a better future
It's hard for me to relate in the family pressure aspect as I'm an only child, and I don't have any good advice on how to put that fear out of your mind, but in my experience, once I stop focusing on the negative aspects of some possible future, I find more time/energy to focus on things in my life that may be constructive for a better future
shelly joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 10 minutes later, 38 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,935
bro shut the fuck up. it's not that important. you've been single for months and your young and thoughtless and desperate enough to actually be dating. just chill the fuck out horny freak
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 8 minutes later, 47 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,937
Anonymous D replied with this 3 years ago, 42 seconds later, 47 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,938
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 hour later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,953
@1,198,935 (shelly)
:(
@1,198,937 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I feel like that's one of my life's purposes. I can't really explain it, other than when I see a father with a young son it makes me get a little emotional because I'd like to feel that bond. I have nieces and nephews that I love dearly, but they're growing up and growing away from me.
:(
@1,198,937 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I feel like that's one of my life's purposes. I can't really explain it, other than when I see a father with a young son it makes me get a little emotional because I'd like to feel that bond. I have nieces and nephews that I love dearly, but they're growing up and growing away from me.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 11 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,954
@previous (JIM)
Not trying to be mean, but do you think you're equipped to be a parent?
Not only is it expensive, but do you have the right moral code to teach kids right from wrong?
Also, why are your genes worth passing on? I'm asking that part because you dont want to date a single parent
Not trying to be mean, but do you think you're equipped to be a parent?
Not only is it expensive, but do you have the right moral code to teach kids right from wrong?
Also, why are your genes worth passing on? I'm asking that part because you dont want to date a single parent
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Green !StaYqkzUPc joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 5 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,955
I used to be like this lmao
Anonymous C replied with this 3 years ago, 4 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,956
@1,198,937 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
> Why do you need kids so desperately?
You do realize, don't you...that kids are important?
> Why do you need kids so desperately?
You do realize, don't you...that kids are important?
Anonymous J joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 28 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,964
@previous (C)
The world is a shitty, horrible place, that is already overpopulated, and there are thousands upon thousands of children already here without parents who need someone to take care of them and guide them. I think it is selfish for anyone to actively want to bring additional children into the world just to satisfy some egotistical desire to pass on your genes.
The world is a shitty, horrible place, that is already overpopulated, and there are thousands upon thousands of children already here without parents who need someone to take care of them and guide them. I think it is selfish for anyone to actively want to bring additional children into the world just to satisfy some egotistical desire to pass on your genes.
Anonymous D replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,966
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 8 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,972
Anonymous J replied with this 3 years ago, 7 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,978
@previous (JIM)
I realize that perhaps my views on the subject are a little extreme. And of course, if everyone on earth stopped having kids then it would be a problem. But I think that anyone who has the means to should adopt instead of procreate. Your genes aren't special, you don't need to pass them on. But you can use your resources (money, time, love) to help a child already here who needs help, instead of creating a new child to help.
I realize that perhaps my views on the subject are a little extreme. And of course, if everyone on earth stopped having kids then it would be a problem. But I think that anyone who has the means to should adopt instead of procreate. Your genes aren't special, you don't need to pass them on. But you can use your resources (money, time, love) to help a child already here who needs help, instead of creating a new child to help.
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 4 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,979
@previous (J)
Those children are not my responsibility. If I'm going to go through the hell of raising a child, I want to know that I created that child. It is narcissistic, but everybody is a little bit narcissistic.
Those children are not my responsibility. If I'm going to go through the hell of raising a child, I want to know that I created that child. It is narcissistic, but everybody is a little bit narcissistic.
Anonymous J replied with this 3 years ago, 4 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,982
@previous (JIM)
It is indeed narcissistic. You could help the world be a slightly better place overall by decreasing a human being's suffering, but having a kid that looks like you is more important than that.
It is indeed narcissistic. You could help the world be a slightly better place overall by decreasing a human being's suffering, but having a kid that looks like you is more important than that.
Green !StaYqkzUPc replied with this 3 years ago, 12 seconds later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,983
@1,198,979 (JIM)
I'm sorry, but if someone jacks off into a jar and then a woman uses a turkey baster to get pregnant, that man should not be held legally responsible to the child. It's ridiculous. If the child wants anything to do with his biological father, the father should just say "I just jacked off into a jar. You mean nothing to me".
I'm sorry, but if someone jacks off into a jar and then a woman uses a turkey baster to get pregnant, that man should not be held legally responsible to the child. It's ridiculous. If the child wants anything to do with his biological father, the father should just say "I just jacked off into a jar. You mean nothing to me".
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 8 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,989
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 31 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,996
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC double-posted this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,198,997
@1,198,989 (JIM)
Really though. Are you a good person? Would you be a good Dad? What if you have a girl child? Can you afford kids?
Really though. Are you a good person? Would you be a good Dad? What if you have a girl child? Can you afford kids?
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,001
@previous (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I'm a good, but troubled person. I wouldn't make the best parent, but no parent is ever the best parent. As for whether or not I can afford them: I am not in a place in my life where I can afford them right now. But the goal isn't to have them right away. I'd like to meet a girl so that we can build towards that.
I'm a good, but troubled person. I wouldn't make the best parent, but no parent is ever the best parent. As for whether or not I can afford them: I am not in a place in my life where I can afford them right now. But the goal isn't to have them right away. I'd like to meet a girl so that we can build towards that.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 2 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,003
LadyD !Pool..v42s replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,007
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 35 seconds later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,009
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 second later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,010
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 25 seconds later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,012
JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,015
@previous (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I struggle with it, but deep down I do. My problem with women is a complete result of my own failures with them.
I struggle with it, but deep down I do. My problem with women is a complete result of my own failures with them.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,021
@previous (JIM)
When people say deep down, it always seem to mean "Don't look at my actions, understand I have a good heart"
Which is rubbish
You should consider therapy before breeding
When people say deep down, it always seem to mean "Don't look at my actions, understand I have a good heart"
Which is rubbish
You should consider therapy before breeding
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JIM (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,024
@previous (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I am in therapy. My therapist is a woman too. I do respect women. Like I said, I just have always been unsuccessful and it's bred resentment. If I had a good one that I felt secure with, those feelings would go away.
I am in therapy. My therapist is a woman too. I do respect women. Like I said, I just have always been unsuccessful and it's bred resentment. If I had a good one that I felt secure with, those feelings would go away.
LadyD !Pool..v42s replied with this 3 years ago, 3 seconds later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,025
@1,199,009 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
It's like, relax, there's literally billions of people out there, sorry you didn't make an illegal cloan to add into the mix
It's like, relax, there's literally billions of people out there, sorry you didn't make an illegal cloan to add into the mix
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 3 years ago, 1 minute later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,026
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Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 1 hour later, 5 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,040
Go to eastern Europe.
shelly replied with this 3 years ago, 1 hour later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,053
i checked out tinder again and it's all gay poly fat white alt girls and single moms. love living in Portland
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Anonymous M joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 16 minutes later, 10 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,199,070
@1,198,953 (JIM)
> I feel like that's one of my life's purposes. I can't really explain it
What’s hard to explain about darwinistic forces? Did you flunk biology?
Only blondes who passed biology should be granted a license to reproduce.
> I feel like that's one of my life's purposes. I can't really explain it
What’s hard to explain about darwinistic forces? Did you flunk biology?
Only blondes who passed biology should be granted a license to reproduce.
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