Dead !Pool..v42s started this discussion 4 years ago#106,153
I was homeless and was hoping my mom would die at 65 so I could transition. Now she's 70, I have stable housing and employment, and I guess I hope she doesn't die before she gets to meet her daughter.
> I was homeless and was hoping my mom would die at 65 so I could transition.
I fail to see the connection.
Dead !Pool..v42s (OP) replied with this 4 years ago, 4 minutes later, 22 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,193,085
@previous (B)
Not related, just two things that were true 9 years ago
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 29 seconds later, 23 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,193,086
I'm glad for you
Dead !Pool..v42s (OP) replied with this 4 years ago, 1 minute later, 24 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,193,088
@1,193,084 (B)
To clarify, 9 years ago I felt like me transitioning would have a negative impact on my mom's mental health, and now I don't feel that way.
Anonymous B replied with this 4 years ago, 1 minute later, 26 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,193,090
@previous (Dead !Pool..v42s)
Ah ok. I'm happy you're happy.
Dead !Pool..v42s (OP) replied with this 4 years ago, 1 minute later, 27 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,193,091
@1,193,086 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
Thanks! 9 years ago you were supportive and I appreciate you!
Dead !Pool..v42s (OP) double-posted this 4 years ago, 21 seconds later, 27 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,193,092
> 9 years ago my mom was 65, 9 years later she’s 70
He said he hoped she'd die at 65, not that she was 65 at that time. But yeah, that's one of the things I didn't get. Why was it necessary for his ma to die at 65 in order for him to transition? Maybe that's when he would reach the age where he didn't need her permission?
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Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 4 years ago, 3 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,193,100
@previous (B)
Many people know that their parents will react so poorly, that they wait until they die. Same as for coming out as gay
Anonymous B replied with this 4 years ago, 10 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,193,101
> > 9 years ago my mom was 65, 9 years later she’s 70 > > He said he hoped she'd die at 65, not that she was 65 at that time. But yeah, that's one of the things I didn't get. Why was it necessary for his ma to die at 65 in order for him to transition? Maybe that's when he would reach the age where he didn't need her permission?
He didn’t want his mom to know he was going to transition because he was ashamed, embarrassed , or scared she would disown him or not approve
Not that hard to figure out
Anonymous E joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 8 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,193,105
@1,193,088 (Dead !Pool..v42s)
Because she's senile?
Anonymous B replied with this 4 years ago, 25 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,193,109
> > > 9 years ago my mom was 65, 9 years later she’s 70 > > > > He said he hoped she'd die at 65, not that she was 65 at that time. But yeah, that's one of the things I didn't get. Why was it necessary for his ma to die at 65 in order for him to transition? Maybe that's when he would reach the age where he didn't need her permission? > > He didn’t want his mom to know he was going to transition because he was ashamed, embarrassed , or scared she would disown him or not approve > > Not that hard to figure out
Once more, doofus: "I was hoping my mom would die at 65". Why not 64 or 66? Why was he hoping she would die at precisely the age of 65?
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Kook !!rcSrAtaAC replied with this 4 years ago, 2 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,111
@previous (B)
I'm guessing it was old enough for her to not have died young, in her mind
Anonymous B replied with this 4 years ago, 8 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,113
> I'm guessing it was old enough for her to not have died young, in her mind
@1,193,105 (E)
No, I now think a parental relationship is important even if it may have seemed stressful and tenuous in the past
Anonymous B replied with this 4 years ago, 3 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,123
@previous (Dead !Pool..v42s)
So you wished your mother dead, but not at 64 because then she'd have some regrets about dying young? 65 though would be a different psychological ballgame for her? Mkay dude.
Dead !Pool..v42s (OP) replied with this 4 years ago, 30 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,130
@previous (B)
It has nothing to do with how my mom felt about her age, it has everything to do with me, 9 years ago, thinking 65 would be an acceptable age for a parent to die. Since then my opinions have changed and although it might make her uncomfortableand probably blame herself for some perceived problem, I want her to continue to have a relationship with me, no matter what gender I am.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 9 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,132
@previous (Dead !Pool..v42s)
what about your need to transition at an acceptable age? was that weighed in? how old would you have been when your mother was 65?
Anonymous B replied with this 4 years ago, 2 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,133
Anonymous H replied with this 4 years ago, 46 minutes later, 9 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,221
@previous (Dead !Pool..v42s)
Thanks. I wasn't sure because you mostly go by that face or Deadpool.
Dead !Pool..v42s (OP) replied with this 4 years ago, 38 minutes later, 10 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,229
@previous (H)
Yeah I had made a thread or at least a post about it a while back, but I don't force folks to use whatever, though I heavily imply I prefer Bobbie Irl, Deadpool is fine, face is fine, Wade just doesn't fit anymore
Anonymous F replied with this 4 years ago, 12 hours later, 22 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,193,255