Anonymous A started this discussion 3 years ago#104,652
Growing up in a family of bald/ing men, I always told myself that I would accept it when my time came and display my dome with honor. But now that I'm seeing real evidence of that day's arrival, I am beginning to have doubts. I'm not too far gone yet to try to do something about it, but I worry if I am considering it for the wrong reasons. I love my hair. I'm afraid I will look strange without it. But should I care what I look like? Why does it matter? The important people in my life, existing or theoretical, would not judge or treat me differently over something like a genetic condition that I have no earthly control over. So why should I care? Plenty of bald people lead happy, fulfilling lives. Why should I think that my baldness would change that for me? For better or worse, this is who I am, and shouldn't I accept that?
But then I feel like losing my hair symbolizes something deeper, like losing my youth, something I don't feel I've fully explored and taken advantage of. Youth is freedom, exploration, finding one's way. The thought of losing it deeply saddens me; losing my hair is leaving behind an important time in my life, the only time that I've ever known, and I fear I am not yet ready. I understand that hair or no, leaving behind this period of my life is an inevitability, but I wish to leave it on my terms, not have it taken from me forcibly by genetics.
Even if I did choose to try to change this, there is no guarantee it will work. And if it does work, it is simply delaying the inevitable. I may buy myself another five or maybe ten years of good hair, but it will eventually fade regardless.
I've had minoxidil and a derma roller sitting in my Amazon cart for months now but can't get myself to pull the trigger. What would you do?
@previous (Meta !Sober//iZs)
Yeah it seems minoxidil/Rogaine just doesn't work for some people. And I'm mostly thinning in the front and there is less evidence of it helping there. I don't like what I've read about finasteride so I'm not really considering it.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 10 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,177,937
@1,177,935 (Meta !Sober//iZs) @previous (D)
The real George Costanza, Larry David, is very bald positive and I enjoy his outlook on being bald. I hope I can attain that level of bald acceptance one day.
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 3 years ago, 1 hour later, 3 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,177,973
My unpopular opinion: lose weight. In 15 years everyone your age will be overweight or worse. Plus obesity is getting worse by the year. Being slim will cancel baldness, at least. Plus bonus points for being able to run for 30 minutes, no matter what the speed. Who would have thought that being healthy would be attractive???
If you don't want to "lose your youth" don't have children. It's that simple.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 3 years ago, 13 minutes later, 3 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,177,977
@1,177,949 (Green !StaYqkzUPc)
Not sure about the hat but shaving it off is my plan once it gets to the point that it's impossible not to notice how thin it is. Right now I'm still fine. Maybe got a couple more years before it comes to that.
@previous (F)
This is good advice in general, balding or not. I'm a good weight now though, if I lost any more I'd be underweight. I do need to get back into running and working out though, I had a good thing going for a little while but recent life stuff has gotten in the way and I've lost all the progress I was making. I've been rather depressed and haven't had the motivation to get back to it. Definitely no plans for kids any time soon either.