Topic: I tend to approach people, particularly girls, at my university. Campus Police have gotten reports.
Anonymous A started this discussion 4 years ago#103,153
The title practically says what situation I am in, but I'll get to what's the matter to me in a minute.
A little background about myself: I am not going to lie when I tell you all that I deeply suffer from loneliness and social isolation. I live by myself, I drive to my university all by myself, I eat by myself, hell I even end up talking to myself in my own apartment. Minichan is one of my main sources of social interaction. I don't get phone calls from friends (don't really have friends), or family (my parents would call but just to scream at me about spending money; sister doesn't call as she has everything; friends, boyfriend, involvement). I've never really had emotional connections with girls, never slept with a girl, never got intimate with a girl, never really hang out with guys where I live (besides my one friend but he lives far away now), and so on. I spend most of my time on Minichan, reading self-improvement books and articles, watchibg HIMYM or any other TV series, or sleep. When I am on campus, I read books, go to class, do my homework, study, or my most favorite activity, talk to people, especially girls. It's mainly just for fun, unless it's an interesting conversation, then I'll ask for their number and share how much I'd like to meet them later and get to know them. Unfortunately, none of them ever respond. (So I spiral into the same habits). Nights like Thursday-Saturday, I go out to the bars and clubs nearby by myself and try to have fun by amusing myself and those I know, as well as new people I meet. Okay, maybe I am a little needy and desperate for connections because I can't always be comfortable being by myself all the time.or my most favorite activity, talk to people, especially girls. It's mainly just for fun, unless it's an interesting conversation, then I'll ask for their number and share how much I'd like to meet them later and get to know them. Unfortunately, none of them ever respond. (So I spiral into the same habits). Nights like Thursday-Saturday, I go out to the bars and clubs nearby by myself and try to have fun by amusing myself and those I know, as well as new people I meet. Okay, maybe I am a little needy and desperate for connections because I can't always be comfortable being by myself all the time.or my most favorite activity, talk to people, especially girls. It's mainly just for fun, unless it's an interesting conversation, then I'll ask for their number and share how much I'd like to meet them later and get to know them. Unfortunately, none of them ever respond. (So I spiral into the same habits). Nights like Thursday-Saturday, I go out to the bars and clubs nearby by myself and try to have fun by amusing myself and those I know, as well as new people I meet. Okay, maybe I am a little needy and desperate for connections because I can't always be comfortable being by myself all the time.Unfortunately, none of them ever respond. (So I spiral into the same habits). Nights like Thursday-Saturday, I go out to the bars and clubs nearby by myself and try to have fun by amusing myself and those I know, as well as new people I meet. Okay, maybe I am a little needy and desperate for connections because I can't always be comfortable being by myself all the time.Unfortunately, none of them ever respond. (So I spiral into the same habits). Nights like Thursday-Saturday, I go out to the bars and clubs nearby by myself and try to have fun by amusing myself and those I know, as well as new people I meet. Okay, maybe I am a little needy and desperate for connections because I can't always be comfortable being by myself all the time.
Today, while I was in the business building restroom, I got an e-mail from Campus Police to call them as they recieved complaints against me. I went to the Campus Police Station since it's nearby to deal with it. As much as there was fear and anxiety on my mind, I went there and asked to speak to the Sergenant responsible of the case. He made it clear that I am not in trouble and no charges or report would be officially filed, but this is more of an awareness about it. We moved to his office and talked about it. Some of the girls felt I came on too strong, didn't show my intentions clearly, considered creepy, and questioned if I even go to the university I've been in for 3 years.The sergeant kind of told me that one girl thought I was following her by car which was absurd because that goes against my morals and concerned about my own conscious. We talked for an hour and within that hour, we talked about my loneliness and social isolation, where I'm from and how I've moved around as a kid, when my bubble broke, as well as other things. He understood that I was seeking connections and fun, and I actually cried out how this scares me now and how much I crave for fun out there. In the end, we had a good conversation in which we talked about him, myself, and how the world works. I sincerely told the sergeant to give my apologies to the girls I creeped out, and he said he would let them know that I’m not a danger and my true intentions, which was (a) confidence work, (b) learning to communicate with people,and (c) making friendships/relationships.
The complaints make me feel like I am branded as a creep, weirdo, and an anomaly. I also wonder to myself if I’m unsafe to society since I apparently creep some of these girls out. I just can't let it out of my mind. It is really killing me inside that I was considered this way. How do I get through this pain inside my mind?
Green !StaYqkzUPc joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 1 hour later[^][v]#1,164,572
Talking to yourself isn't cause for concern, talking to someone who isn't there is. You should embrace being an introvert to be honest, that way you can accept yourself and improve. Was for interacting with women, try to find a common interest or go to a club for a hobby you like and be confident. Confidence is key, maybe try CBD oil. Women can tell if you're being desperate.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 3 hours later, 4 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,164,589
Find a therapist @OP. They usually have free ones on campus. You also should take up a hobby where you can meet people in similar social situations like Magic the Gathering or video games.
jodie !foster2PAQ joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 11 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,164,598
this post gave me a stroke
Green !StaYqkzUPc replied with this 4 years ago, 23 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,164,600
@1,164,589 (C)
I went to MtG club once. Never went back.
Dead !Pool..v42s joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 2 hours later, 7 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,164,605
@1,164,598 (jodie !foster2PAQ)
Yeah I went into it taking it halfway seriously till I thought I was just getting lost because I was high
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 4 years ago, 4 hours later, 12 hours after the original post[^][v]#1,164,630