Topic: Family member has passed away. Don't know how to deal with it.
Anonymous A started this discussion 5 years ago#101,085
I've never had to deal with this in my life before, despite being near 30. I am laughing remembering the good times and crying and don't know if this is normal. I don't know how to console my family either. I also feel numb and it doesn't feel true. This sounds sociopathic, but as a kid I would be envious of other kids who had lost someone as they would get attention and gifts etc. I knew this was a selfish thing to think back then. Now I'm older, I am so, so glad I have had all these extra decades with the people I love. All those memories, all the advice is worth more than any gifts or attention. I am so grateful for all these extra years now, I just wish I could've had more time with them ;_; anyone who has been through this that has any words of advice/comfort?
Apocalypse Indy™ !bYobIzYIFE joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 11 minutes later[^][v]#1,141,016
Very sorry :(
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 17 minutes later, 28 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,141,027
I'm so sorry
tteh !MemesToDNA joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 2 minutes later, 31 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,141,032
Sorry, bud. :( It's never easy. Talking helped me more than anything. And time.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 5 minutes later, 36 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,141,037
@1,141,016 (Apocalypse Indy™ !bYobIzYIFE) @1,141,027 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC) @previous (tteh !MemesToDNA)
Thank you. I don't know why it just hit me like a ton of bricks now and I've never cried this much in my life Before.
jodie !foster2PAQ joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 7 minutes later, 44 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,141,046
there is no right or wrong way to grieve, you just gotta do it
im sorry op
Apocalypse Indy™ !bYobIzYIFE replied with this 5 years ago, 1 minute later, 46 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,141,048
It hurts. What hurts even more, is when people on this very chan stalk and mock your deceased loved ones, and post fucked up pictures of them. Imagine how that feels.
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 7 minutes later, 53 minutes after the original post[^][v]#1,141,055
I'm so sorry bud. Be gentle with yourself. It takes time. And what ninjj said - you just have to do it.
@previous (Apocalypse Indy™ !bYobIzYIFE)
Stop making this about yourself. This is about OP and their loss. Make a separate thread to cry about your thing if you want but don't shit up this one.
Anonymous A (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 9 minutes later, 1 hour after the original post[^][v]#1,141,068