Topic: My granddad died
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL started this discussion 5 years ago #100,946
Apparently he passed peacefully. I assume he was sleeping. That's unexpected, I knew he was weak but I thought my grandmother would die first (she only has max 5 years-ish left). My poor dad and aunt. My grandma must be so distressed, with her dementia.
blom joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 1 minute later[^] [v] #1,139,410
Sorry for your loss
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 11 minutes later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,413
@previous (blom)
Eh I mostly feel bad for my dad anf his sister, who both quit their jobs/retired to take care of their parents, and my grandma who must be so confused and distressed. I rarely see them so it hasn't really hit me yet.
Eh I mostly feel bad for my dad anf his sister, who both quit their jobs/retired to take care of their parents, and my grandma who must be so confused and distressed. I rarely see them so it hasn't really hit me yet.
Anonymous C joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 31 seconds later, 13 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,414
Very sorry
tteh !MemesToDNA joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 11 minutes later, 25 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,420
Sorry to hear. :( It's always that bit worse when dementia's involved.
When my grandad died, my grandma (who had Alzheimer's) was convinced he must've "popped down to the pub" and that he'd be back in the evening. The few times care staff tried telling her that he'd died she became hysterical and inconsolable, and inevitably forgot. She carried on thinking he'd be back in the evening until she died. Pretty sad, but at least she was spared the grief, I suppose.
When my grandad died, my grandma (who had Alzheimer's) was convinced he must've "popped down to the pub" and that he'd be back in the evening. The few times care staff tried telling her that he'd died she became hysterical and inconsolable, and inevitably forgot. She carried on thinking he'd be back in the evening until she died. Pretty sad, but at least she was spared the grief, I suppose.
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 4 minutes later, 29 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,423
Please call your grandma, but dont mention the death
Just that you love her and nice things in your life
Just that you love her and nice things in your life
Kook !!rcSrAtaAC double-posted this 5 years ago, 35 seconds later, 30 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,424
Anonymous F joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 2 minutes later, 33 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,428
I'm sorry, Trip. If you need anyone to talk to, you always have support here.
tteh !MemesToDNA replied with this 5 years ago, 3 minutes later, 37 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,430
@1,139,424 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
Right? They told her not once, not twice, but on three separate occasions. For no discernible reason except "we felt that she ought to know". Still annoys me thinking about it, and this was well over a decade ago.
Right? They told her not once, not twice, but on three separate occasions. For no discernible reason except "we felt that she ought to know". Still annoys me thinking about it, and this was well over a decade ago.
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 20 minutes later, 58 minutes after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,441
@1,139,423 (Kook !!rcSrAtaAC)
I texted my dad I'm home and he can call me whenever he's awake. My grandma I can't really talk to, I've forgotten the language and she doesn't speak English.
@previous (tteh !MemesToDNA)
That's awful. Did they do other awful things? I wonder what my grandma thinks. Apparently she used to get distressed whenever people weren't in the room with her, not sure if she still does that.
I texted my dad I'm home and he can call me whenever he's awake. My grandma I can't really talk to, I've forgotten the language and she doesn't speak English.
@previous (tteh !MemesToDNA)
That's awful. Did they do other awful things? I wonder what my grandma thinks. Apparently she used to get distressed whenever people weren't in the room with her, not sure if she still does that.
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chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 19 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,522
@1,139,430 (tteh !MemesToDNA)
It turns out that the dementia my grandmother has (frontotemporal) affects her cognitive function (she has no filter on her emotions, is super impulsive, requires 24/7 caring, and cannot plan anything) but her memory is fine.
It turns out that the dementia my grandmother has (frontotemporal) affects her cognitive function (she has no filter on her emotions, is super impulsive, requires 24/7 caring, and cannot plan anything) but her memory is fine.
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Oh no I'm sorry Trip. Losing a family member is the worst. :(
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 6 hours later, 15 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,626
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chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 16 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,643
@previous (G)
Alzheimer's is not the only kind of dementia there is. Different types of dementia affect different parts of the brain. As the disease progresses they start to blend together a bit more. But it's absolutely absurd that you claim to know more about my grandmother's dementia than my father, who's been her caretaker since her diagnosis. She has frontotemporal dementia, not Alzheimer's. Her memory is fine. Her emotional regulation and planning/cognitive function are fucked.
Alzheimer's is not the only kind of dementia there is. Different types of dementia affect different parts of the brain. As the disease progresses they start to blend together a bit more. But it's absolutely absurd that you claim to know more about my grandmother's dementia than my father, who's been her caretaker since her diagnosis. She has frontotemporal dementia, not Alzheimer's. Her memory is fine. Her emotional regulation and planning/cognitive function are fucked.
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tteh !MemesToDNA replied with this 5 years ago, 8 minutes later, 19 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,646
@1,139,441 (chill dog !!81dzJNNYL)
I think they otherwise treated her pretty well, actually. They just seemed to have this insistence for a while that she "should know".
@1,139,576 (G)
I'm pretty sure that's a key distinction between Alzheimer's and FTD - early memory loss in the former, but seldom in the latter. All forms of dementia can eventually impact memory (I think?) but some spare it until the very, very end stages (if it's impacted at all). But I'm no expert on this by any means.
I think they otherwise treated her pretty well, actually. They just seemed to have this insistence for a while that she "should know".
@1,139,576 (G)
I'm pretty sure that's a key distinction between Alzheimer's and FTD - early memory loss in the former, but seldom in the latter. All forms of dementia can eventually impact memory (I think?) but some spare it until the very, very end stages (if it's impacted at all). But I'm no expert on this by any means.
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dw joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 3 hours later, 23 hours after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,695
sorry to hear. dementia seems scary, my grandma started suffering from it before she died
Green !StaYqkzUPc joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 50 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,700
Sorry for your loss.
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Anonymous K joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 23 minutes later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,754
Life is just a kindergarten. Things upset us and we take them too seriously much like children but in the end it is nothing in scale as we thought it was. I'm sure your grandad had a good and long life, but sorry nevertheless.
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Anonymous F replied with this 5 years ago, 3 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,775
@1,139,749 (G)
It takes a true moron to measure their own loss against someone else's, and decide they have nothing to be upset over. Good job, moronbert.
It takes a true moron to measure their own loss against someone else's, and decide they have nothing to be upset over. Good job, moronbert.
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@previous (G)
Yet you constantly talk about wanting to have sex with her, and obsess over her. Weird.
Yet you constantly talk about wanting to have sex with her, and obsess over her. Weird.
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 8 hours later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,891
@1,139,749 (G)
What the fuck is wrong with you? Having two living grandparents and one living step-grandparent (all of whom are in bad health, my mom is living with her mom and stepdad and apparently is stopping them from taking their medications. Someone had to step in and take them to the hospital. God, that's so fucked up) makes me a lightweight? What is your problem?
@1,139,834 (G)
Nope, I'm clean. I know it may be hard for you to fathom, but some people know how to have safe sex. My only physical health issue is risk of developing tendinitis, for which I wear wrist wraps when working. Also cat allergies, which stressed out my immune system so I'm getting my own place. Mental health issues are PTSD, major depressive disorder, panic attack disorder/general anxiety, and ADHD. Unlike you, however, I don't use my mental health issues as an excuse to be a layabout.
What the fuck is wrong with you? Having two living grandparents and one living step-grandparent (all of whom are in bad health, my mom is living with her mom and stepdad and apparently is stopping them from taking their medications. Someone had to step in and take them to the hospital. God, that's so fucked up) makes me a lightweight? What is your problem?
@1,139,834 (G)
Nope, I'm clean. I know it may be hard for you to fathom, but some people know how to have safe sex. My only physical health issue is risk of developing tendinitis, for which I wear wrist wraps when working. Also cat allergies, which stressed out my immune system so I'm getting my own place. Mental health issues are PTSD, major depressive disorder, panic attack disorder/general anxiety, and ADHD. Unlike you, however, I don't use my mental health issues as an excuse to be a layabout.
Anonymous G replied with this 5 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 day after the original post[^] [v] #1,139,900
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Dead !Pool..v42s joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 6 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,093
Grief sucks but eventually it passes, my best wishes friend
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 1 minute later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,094
@previous (Dead !Pool..v42s)
Thanks. I hope my family aren't too stressed. My dad has a real sense of familial responsibility, being the eldest child, and I hope he takes care of himself too.
Thanks. I hope my family aren't too stressed. My dad has a real sense of familial responsibility, being the eldest child, and I hope he takes care of himself too.
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chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 9 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,106
@previous (G)
My mom is, yes. My dad is a hard-working man who I respect immensely. He spends his own money on their care, as well as being the stay-at-home caretaker.
My mom is, yes. My dad is a hard-working man who I respect immensely. He spends his own money on their care, as well as being the stay-at-home caretaker.
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jodie !foster2PAQ joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 19 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,112
@previous (chill dog !!81dzJNNYL)
have you seen A Separation
it's an Iranian film about. . . a family and this Dad cares for his Father with Dementia and it Tears his Family Apart...good flick..
have you seen A Separation
it's an Iranian film about. . . a family and this Dad cares for his Father with Dementia and it Tears his Family Apart...good flick..
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 4 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,114
@previous (jodie !foster2PAQ)
I have not seen it. I'll look into it if i remember to, thanks for the rec.
I have not seen it. I'll look into it if i remember to, thanks for the rec.
Anonymous G replied with this 5 years ago, 2 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,136
> an Iranian film about. . . a family and this Dad cares for his Father with Dementia and it Tears his Family Apart
I think I'd rather watch Chris Chan vids without the sound.
I think I'd rather watch Chris Chan vids without the sound.
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 7 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,143
@previous (G)
Yeah I can't see you watching anything that would remotely require intellectual or emotional capacity.
Yeah I can't see you watching anything that would remotely require intellectual or emotional capacity.
Dead !Pool..v42s replied with this 5 years ago, 2 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,196
@1,140,094 (chill dog !!81dzJNNYL)
Yeah it's like when my dad died, I wasn't really effected, he was only my dad for two years, but he was my mom's partner for 20 so she took it pretty hard
Yeah it's like when my dad died, I wasn't really effected, he was only my dad for two years, but he was my mom's partner for 20 so she took it pretty hard
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@1,140,096 (G)His name is Fagbert
...and he has a fat African-American cock in his cum-filled throat.
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 5 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,239
@1,140,206 (G)
How does that not make sense? It's pretty simple.
@1,140,196 (Dead !Pool..v42s)
Yeah I'm glad you understand. I saw them summers and Christmasses growing up but it's been a few years since I last went up. Decided I'd finally go visit this year and...welp. My dad called and said that if quarantine restrictions lift he'll send me a ticket to attend the funeral this Friday but that's very unlikely.
How does that not make sense? It's pretty simple.
@1,140,196 (Dead !Pool..v42s)
Yeah I'm glad you understand. I saw them summers and Christmasses growing up but it's been a few years since I last went up. Decided I'd finally go visit this year and...welp. My dad called and said that if quarantine restrictions lift he'll send me a ticket to attend the funeral this Friday but that's very unlikely.
Claire Bear !qCz7S9NEkE joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 2 hours later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,268
@1,139,413 (chill dog !!81dzJNNYL)
I am so sorry for your loss. My Mum died in September very unexpectedly. It hit my Dad & I very hard. Now I take care of my Dad. His memory seems to be going...he is still sharp...I hope it's just grief & being overwhelmed with everything we have to do... I know how hard loss can be it does get easier.
I am so sorry for your loss. My Mum died in September very unexpectedly. It hit my Dad & I very hard. Now I take care of my Dad. His memory seems to be going...he is still sharp...I hope it's just grief & being overwhelmed with everything we have to do... I know how hard loss can be it does get easier.
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chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 19 minutes later, 2 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,273
@previous (Claire Bear !qCz7S9NEkE)
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things look up for you and your dad.
This didn't hit nearly as hard as when my boyfriend died the other year. I feel a bit guilty that I don't feel worse about it tbh.
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things look up for you and your dad.
This didn't hit nearly as hard as when my boyfriend died the other year. I feel a bit guilty that I don't feel worse about it tbh.
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chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 21 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,321
@1,140,308 (G)
I thought you were against insulting a poster's dead relatives/loved ones? I guess not. In that case, your dad was a filthy disease-ridden slut who begged for my cock in his asshole. He wanted me to give it to him raw, said he loved feeling the cum and blood gush out, but i always refused because I didn't want his diseases. When I was done with him he liked to talk about how his son is a failure and a disappointment. He feared that you would move in and take advantage of your mother after his death. Prescient man. Clearly he didn't care for her much either though, judging by how bad he wanted my cock.
I thought you were against insulting a poster's dead relatives/loved ones? I guess not. In that case, your dad was a filthy disease-ridden slut who begged for my cock in his asshole. He wanted me to give it to him raw, said he loved feeling the cum and blood gush out, but i always refused because I didn't want his diseases. When I was done with him he liked to talk about how his son is a failure and a disappointment. He feared that you would move in and take advantage of your mother after his death. Prescient man. Clearly he didn't care for her much either though, judging by how bad he wanted my cock.
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tteh !MemesToDNA replied with this 5 years ago, 36 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,328
chill dog !!81dzJNNYL (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 10 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,331
Dead !Pool..v42s replied with this 5 years ago, 17 minutes later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,340
@1,140,239 (chill dog !!81dzJNNYL)
Damn yeah it's hard for families to be together if they don't live in the same place right now
Damn yeah it's hard for families to be together if they don't live in the same place right now
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Ftd !Cs02iDB7RA joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 12 hours later, 3 days after the original post[^] [v] #1,140,472
Sorry to hear xx hope you and your family are okay